Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

[wanderlustdiaries]

I’m in my 20’s, mum is in her 60’s.

I’ve asked her if she wants to go on a girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe (we’ve not chosen yet).

Would you do this? I don’t know if It seems a little odd to do or if it’s totally normal.

Last year had a fortnight in Orlando when my daughter was 21 and 10 days in Cambodia when she was 22 - more than normal as her relationship was getting serious and knew she would be spending future holidays with him
Had a great time and she has said her and her partner would love to go on holiday with me in the future.
To be fair there were some times when we would split up and do different things for a morning or afternoon so not in each others pockets all the time

Oh I’m sorry to hear you feel like that hugs to you but maybe your Mum is a bit less adventurous than you thought. Sometimes when people get older they lose their bottle for doing things out of their comfort zone while others embrace life.
Tell her how you feel.
if you do go on your own check out things like get your guide and stay somewhere cool with a bar where you can chat not an Airbnb. My best tip is do a chefs tour as people who like food are always fun. X

I think it sounds lovely. I don’t have that relationship with my Mum, I wish I did!

Perfectly normal, I'm early forties and have been doing the Jet2 city breaks around Europe for the last 4 years with my DM, who is in her sixties. Means I get to go somewhere that the rest of my family aren't bothered about. Technically I could go alone, but we enjoy hanging out & exploring together!

My friend just went to Portugal with her adult daughter. I don't like the heat nymore so I go to UK cities with my daughter - we went to Bath for three nights recently - but before lockdown we went to Lucerne in Switzerland for a few days. It's absolutely fine to go with your mum.

Hi op sorry you feel so upset. could you rephrase it say you want to make some memories with her while you can. Yes it will hurt but don’t not go it’s hard when you’re single and living at home. There has been times I’ve had no friends to do stuff with because there in relationships now I do stuff with family who are also my friends I think a lot of younger people feel this as it’s not always easy being in a relationship or having friends who can just go away. Does she have responsibility for the grandchildren childcare.

I do every year with my daughter in her 20s. She also goes away with her boyfriend and I go away with my partner.

Love the holiday with just myself and my daughter

Oh just read your update that’s sad, suspect she will regret it one day.

I'm mid 50s Dd 16 in Summer i'm organising a surprise European city break, just the 2 of us, i hope it's the first of many.

I am 60, my daughter 20. We have just spent 5 days in Paris and it was the best holiday of my life.

I’ve gone on holiday with my mum several times.

Absolutely normal and so much more relaxing than going on holiday with your children when they are actually children.

Am I getting the subtext that you’re asking your Mum because you lack confidence to go by yourself?

Totally normal. Have a great time !

I’m late50s and I’ve done a trip with my 22 yo DD every year since she was 18.
DS and DH don’t like travel but we both do.

Although I said it would be totally normal, I can also see it might be daunting for some mothers if they are used to doing everything with their husband. She is missing out though.

That’s really sad, I’m sorry to hear that. My mum would say the same but she would still
come away with me too. It’s nice sometimes for a change, it’s only a few days. I can imagine how upset you are.

Mums aren’t here forever ! Have the holidays … l’d love it

If you have a good relationship it's a perfectly normal thing to do. Think of the shared memories you'll make. I'd give anything to be able to go away with my mum.
Lost her a long time ago when I was 25.
Do it. It'll be fabulous!

I travel with all my three adult children, and went to Uzbekistan with one daughter last year. I much prefer it to going with friends.

Some posters need to read all of OP’s posts. The mum has said no to the trip

In answer to your initial question OP, it is totally normal for me and my daughter to holiday together, and indeed I take all of my children, plus their partners, away at least once a year for a few days.

Edit - I managed to miss your last couple of posts. I'm sorry to learn that your mum doesn't want to go. My position is that I am divorced from my children's father and single. It's a bit different! As for going on your own, I've travelled alone a few times now, and I have a huge trip coming up on my own. Yes, at times it feels scary. All I can say is be open, talk to everyone(!), and the beauty is that you can take time out alone when you want, or chat to people. You'll be surprised at how many people will invite you to share things with them if you are open and friendly.

definitely go. Your mums keen, you’ll both enjoy it loads. I go with my grown-up daughter every year for a mini weekend away we both love it 🥰

For my 50th my DD2 (then 24) and I went on an 8 week tour of the USA, staying with my internet friends and a few Airbnbs! It was her idea and it was fabulous! I left my job and she was waiting to start her dream job so off we went!

Short trips.. DD1 and I hopped over to Malta last year for a 4 day break...lovely :)

This!