Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

[wanderlustdiaries]

I’m in my 20’s, mum is in her 60’s.

I’ve asked her if she wants to go on a girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe (we’ve not chosen yet).

Would you do this? I don’t know if It seems a little odd to do or if it’s totally normal.

I'm 55 and I'm going away with my 23 year old daughter in September for a few days. We did the same thing last year and had an amazing time!

Sounds fabulous. I hope my daughters want to hang out with me when they are adults.

Since I was about 16 I went out of my way to not go on holiday with my parents (particularly my mother). I'd even do things like volunteer in care homes so that I had an excuse not to go.

Thankfully I have a much better relationship with my 20yo DS, and I've just been away with him for 10 days - and it was genuinely the best holiday I've ever had - I love traveling with him as an adult, he was incredibly helpful, could share the driving etc and we had a blast!

Definitely go away with your daughter 🙂

I wish posters would read all of the updates instead of causing more emotional distress to the op.
Please read all the updates - her mum said no!

I've done some solo travelling and had a lovely time. Is there anywhere you were particularly thinking of? Maybe you could tell us a bit about what you like and we could suggest a few places? I can see it might not seem like a tempting option today but I reckon you should still go.

Seen the update :( go solo travelling. Italy, Spain, france. Get some wine tasting in. Go see the culture. Xx

My mother and I have been abroad together twice just the two of us. We're very close, basically best friends, love eachothers company so yes absolutely. Never thought for a second it was odd.

I’ve done it with my mum loads of times! We went to Egypt when I was 22. Went to Cyprus the following year. Just the two of us. We’ve had some lovely times together

I think you should calmly tell her how her comments have made you feel. That she’d rather spend time with her grandkids than you for 4 measly days is a really unkind thing to say to your daughter. Hopefully she’s got a little more justification like being out of her budget to spend that sort of money wo your dad is reasonable. But the fact she said it in such a blunt and uncaring way is upsetting

Yes often go on holiday and day trips with adult daughter.

I travelled the world with my mum as an adult. Big overseas trips, cruises, weekends away. I worked in travel and was lucky enough to take her on some amazing luxury trips for free. Did this well into my 30s. Occasionally people would ask us how we knew each other - mum thought it was hilarious. Maybe she was a rich lesbian and I was her toy girl 😂 She died suddenly 18 months ago and I would give anything for another holiday. Just go

I wish I had done this with my mum before she past away

I am 53 and go away with my 19 yo son. We like a city break. We are really close and have a great time. Long may it continue! He goes away without me too.

Not every 20 something wants to hook up, do drugs, get blathered on every holiday. Did you stop liking interesting things and having fun once your children became adults? Theatre, Halloween events, siteseeing etc is something both me and my DD are interested in, we've just been on a theatre break. She also does holidays with friends. Why does being different ages, stop us from doing fun and interesting things together?
@wanderlustdiaries I think that you need to talk this out with your Mum. I'm my DDs childcare and understand how we can feel stretched, but you need her reassurance that this isn't because she doesn't want to spend time with you, she just might feel that she can't spare the time away. The DD I went on a theatre break with is the single, childfree one. I'm conscious that she has less of me. I certainly don't love her any less, but I can't be all things to all people, which used to be expected of women.

I've been on girls trips with my mum since my dad died in 2017.

2018 we went to Switzerland.
2019 Italy (Naples area)
2023 Wales
2024 Italy (Italian lakes area)
2025 USA (east coast)

This September we're going to Austria.

We get on well together, and always have a nice time. Mum is 71 now, those our upcoming Austria trip is a little more "old person coach trip" than previous ones, but that's fine!

Definitely go alone! I did a fair bit of solo traveling at your age and it really helped me to work out who I was and what I wanted to do, out of my family’s shadow. It can be scary and feel lonely/awkward at times but it’s also really liberating and thrilling to do whatever you want and try to stroke up conversations with strangers.

If you want a bit more structure to help meet people traveling, I really enjoyed volunteering at music festivals (did Glastonbury and IoW with oxfam) or you could sign up to a week long language course or some other workshop. Painting?

I go on city breaks with my adult daughter. At other times, she goes away with friends who have more stamina for endless shopping.

100% normal. I love to do stuff just me and my daughter, she is now 28 and married, and I am 60. I took her to New York as a 21st birthday/ graduation treat, we had the best time, my husband took her twin brother to Italy to watch a football match. We also holiday with all our adult children and their partners. We have always done this and they are very keen to have holidays together. I will never not want to do these things, It is lovely you have this relationship with your mum. My own mum died when I was 8 so having a close relationship with both my sons and daughter, and now my grandson is just wonderful

So lovely and normal! Make precious memories with your mum, I love my holidays with my mum x

I'm off to Malta with my 22 year old and 19 year old. I think we're all looking forward to it!

I am 41 and a lone parent of a 15 year old. For the last 12 years we have done away several times a year with my Mum who is in her 50's and single.

I tried holidaying with friends they constantly let me down. My Mum doesn't.

I chose where we go she pays her share and turns up. My Mum has a really stressful job and tells me she loves that she can just relax and not plan. We have had some great experiences.

I don't think it's weird. Go for it.

Would you go away by yourself? I do that sometimes and have a great time.

I would go with my daughter. She is 23 and I'm 79.

I’ve been to Berlin and Amsterdam on city breaks with my 21 year old daughter. This year we’re off to Glasgow for the Commonwealth games.
She’s great to be with and we have a fab time.

Myself and my 22 yr old Dd went on safari for my 65th birthday last year, we had a lovely trip, just magical