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How to offer to pay for Disney

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:22

Long story short we went to Disney couple of years ago - kids wanted to go back so will be going for two weeks in October half term.

Sister's kids are desperate to go, but as a family it's out of their budget. We have a great relationship with sister and BIL, but don't want to offend them (well him I know sister would be delighted)

How do we go about offering, I was thinking probably speak with her first?

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Usernamenotav · 14/05/2026 07:28

How lovely! I hope they don't get offended. I certainly wouldn't!

UtterlyUseless · 14/05/2026 07:46

What a wonderful post ! It's such a lovely thing to do op!!
Brilliant for the cousins as well😍 it's just greet all around. Lovely story in miserable news.

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coulditbeme2323 · 14/05/2026 10:20

TeaPot496 · 13/05/2026 17:44

Food portions, in the parks. We went last year. Absolutely shocking rip off.

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I think they are pretty generous.

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coulditbeme2323 · 14/05/2026 10:21

jetlag92 · 13/05/2026 22:44

We love disney, but wait until a certain orange person is no longer in power. It's too much of a risk with the ESTA and social media

It really isn't!

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coulditbeme2323 · 14/05/2026 10:23

All booked - and didn't a split hotel based on a lot of YouTube recommendations - so very excited!

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Lomonald · 14/05/2026 10:24

coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 16:11

He has agreed, and is very grateful!

Booking tomorrow.

Thank you all.

Aww I missed this, how exciting have a lovely time.

Chilly80 · 14/05/2026 10:31

jetlag92 · 13/05/2026 22:44

We love disney, but wait until a certain orange person is no longer in power. It's too much of a risk with the ESTA and social media

Risk of what? We went last year. We'll be going next year. Millions of Brits go to the USA every year, not just Florida but all over the country.

Laurmolonlabe · 14/05/2026 13:39

Well you obviously have never had problems in immigration- I have and lots of people I know have- I had problems way before Trump, don't ignore the possibility it could be a problem.

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coulditbeme2323 · 14/05/2026 13:43

Laurmolonlabe · 14/05/2026 13:39

Well you obviously have never had problems in immigration- I have and lots of people I know have- I had problems way before Trump, don't ignore the possibility it could be a problem.

Since he has been in second term I have been.

Orlando
New York
Connected in Atlanta on way too Colombia
Connected in Atlanta on way back from Cololmbia
Nashville

No issues at all, neither has anybody I know.

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Laurmolonlabe · 14/05/2026 13:48

Good luck.

KnowledgeableAvocado · 14/05/2026 15:10

Make sure they have ESTAs

Have a wonderful time!!

cacboi · 14/05/2026 17:53

Definitely speak with sister first. Maybe suggest they "babysit" a couple of times so they feel they are contributing.?

Sunshineandrainmakesrainbows · 14/05/2026 18:03

Paying for all or for taking the kids? Regardless I’d think they’d be crazy to turn down the offer!

MMUmum · 14/05/2026 18:04

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

Rude! Unnecessary

Underconstruction · 14/05/2026 18:30

Maybe suggest it as an early family Christmas present?

DreamTheMoors · 14/05/2026 18:37

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

You know, not everyone on Mumsnet makes a stealth post.
What a shitty accusation to make.
There are actually kind, decent people in the world and it appears @coulditbeme2323 is one of them.
You, however, appear to have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.
It costs nothing to be kind - spend freely. ❤️

Candleabra · 14/05/2026 18:45

@coulditbeme2323 Aww that’s lovely of you. So glad you’re going, Disney is an amazing experience in a big group.
Can I ask which hotel you’re going to, as it’s nice? I’m looking for recommendations

AgeingGreycefully · 14/05/2026 18:49

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

You sound very bitter and it’s making you rude. Very unnecessary. You just come across as jealous, but does venting like this make you feel better? Would you say this to her face? Genuinely curious. I think she’s doing a lovely thing for her family and I really hope they all get to go.

Commonmum · 14/05/2026 21:38

Can you just take the kids?
my parents could not afford anything but I got taken on holidays by friends as I was friends with their daughter. My parents would give me some cash which I would use for some small treats, but actually mainly bring back as I knew how much they needed it. I was 10-15 yo and I never ever felt it was a charity act, the kids really loved to stay with us. Actually I am just realising it now thinking about it how generous they were. I was just excited to board on a plane (first time!) and to go somewhere nice and warm with a pool. I had the best summers. My mum would have over their kid a lot after schools, doing homework, food etc so it really felt like an equal relationship. Only now as an adult I realise how poor my parents were (got electricity disconnected more then once) and how my friend was well off, mum came from a wealthy family with loads of properties, the dad was a very famous surgeon.

Sartre · 14/05/2026 21:41

RainyTuesdayBlues · 13/05/2026 09:28

I'd frame it as your DC would really love their cousins to be there, is there any way you can help it to happen?

I guess you talk to your sister and she knows how best to communicate to dh.

I would do this too. Say your DC love spending time with them and it would be amazing for them to do this together. It’s a lovely thing to do.

Dogmum74 · 14/05/2026 22:16

do you want to come to Disney. We will pay.

it isn’t hard FFS

DetectiveDouche · 14/05/2026 22:58

TeaPot496 · 13/05/2026 17:38

Yikes. Not a lot of sisters would permit their sister to spend ££££s on them for a hol without feeling guilty the whole break! The portions are nothing like they used to be..

🙄 @TeaPot496 This is a judgy dig at both the OP for wanting to do it and her sister for accepting. Why?? . How do you know what "a lot of sisters" would permit? It's a lovely family treat funded by a family member who can afford to do so. Their business. OP was only looking for advice in case her brother in law felt he couldn't accept. There's no shame in accepting gifts.. and money isn't everything. OP's sister is probably mutually supportive in other ways.

Secondbreakfastclub · 15/05/2026 04:25

coulditbeme2323 · 14/05/2026 10:23

All booked - and didn't a split hotel based on a lot of YouTube recommendations - so very excited!

So pleased it’s all worked out for you OP. We’re here now staying at the Boardwalk and having a great time. Out of curiosity, which resorts are you staying at? I’m thinking of a split stay next time.

We had no issues with immigration. In fact it was the quickest we’ve been through, We use the MPC app which lets you use a smaller line.

Stampees · 15/05/2026 06:45

Morepositivemum · 13/05/2026 11:05

Just a warning that you said she could probably pay meals- Disney is horrifically extortionate- if you’re paying for them you’d have to speak to her seriously and make sure they can pay for anything there, because imagine you being her and the first day even her whole budget could be burnt through and then secretly you’re irritated they have no money to help out. We had a small sharing type meal in one or two places for six of us and couldn’t get it below €150

I think they’re going to Florida. The food is even more in the U.S.

MandemChickenShop · 15/05/2026 07:28

I feel a bit for the sisters husband here. Didn't really have an option