How to offer to pay for Disney

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Long story short we went to Disney couple of years ago - kids wanted to go back so will be going for two weeks in October half term.

Sister's kids are desperate to go, but as a family it's out of their budget. We have a great relationship with sister and BIL, but don't want to offend them (well him I know sister would be delighted)

How do we go about offering, I was thinking probably speak with her first?

Thats great hope you all have the best time and make some amazing memories 😁

And in laws they were siblings I think (I'm not scrolling all the way back up)

Yes it is the op sister and brother inlaw

So happy to see your updates OP!
Having peoplr join you at Disney is so much extra magic.
I took the inlaws, and this year took DDs boyfriend. I do things the cheaper end of the spectrum- cheap Idrive hotel for us! But its an amazing holiday to share.
Wishing you the best holiday, and hope youre doing MNSSHP!

What a lovely family 🩵

We’ve only managed to go to Florida due to the generosity of family, so I say you’re lovely and they will love it! Have an amazing time!

What a lovely sister you are! I hope you all have a wonderful time. 😊

You sound lovely OP!
I hope you all have a wonderful family holiday and I’m so glad they’ve accepted!

I am sure they will be thrilled, I think just saying that you'd love to have them join you, the kids would love their cousins to play with and having them there would make you/DH really happy/complete the holiday. They're basically then doing you a favour for attending!! My parents often treat us to a holiday as they've downsized and have the cash in the bank - I've never once thought "we don't need your charity" I've only ever gone "amazing, thanks guys". Dh is the same even though they are his inlaws and he is the bread winner - he just thinks it's a nice thing for them to do. I am sure SiL/brother will be the same. If they honestly get offended then they're the ones being highly unreasonable.
I'd also very really clear (e.g. the package includes accommodation, flights, park tickets and Disney dining plan and Disney transport so not many extras needed, are you guys happy if we each pay for dinners and souvenirs separately - we thought that would work out fairly reasonable). Just so there are no misunderstandings later on...

Yes and ramp up the “we got an amazing deal on accommodation” etc. I like the idea of it being this year’s Xmas pressie too

I totally appreciate where OP is coming from and what a lovely gesture.
However, I can totally understand why BIL may feel uncomfortable with it.

We are in a similar situation although we are the ones who are being treated. My brother spoke with me & he knew how much I would love to take my 2 kids & he offered to treat us next year & pay for us to go. My husband was a bit uncomfortable at first about it as he feels like he should be the one who pays for his family to do things but he knew it was a chance of a lifetime for our kids so he has agreed & is happy to go. Happy to see the update & it’s getting booked. Such a lovely thing to do.

We pay for trips for others often and the usual things I’d recommend is, being clear on expectations for what you are offering.

“We are planning this and we would love for you to join us, we will pay for x, y, z for us and all of you. We really want to get everyone together, let us know by x if you can come.”

I do it all the time because I like to plan experiences and not once has anyone ever complained.

You could pose it less like you're offering because they can't afford it and more that you're offering because you really want to go and the dc would love their cousins to come so would they join you and you will pay for everything

If your level of spending is completely unaffordable for them I would think how you could scale down a bit. People would call me weird but I was in your sister’s situation with my own sister and I was uncomfortable with some things she suggested. I can’t explain but some things we just don’t do as a family (or do differently) because they are expensive e.g we don’t do takeaways - we cook. Or we limit what we buy to DD. When parenting styles are very different it might lead to tantrums and problems with kids. I wouldn’t go on holiday with my sister, I can’t even do shopping trips with her as we have very different approaches to money. So I would carefully think about all aspects of this potential trip in advance.

What an absolutely lovely thing to do OP. I’m so glad to read there was no pushback. I hope you all have a fantastic time! If only my very generous Brother was a Disney fan (he couldn’t be further from it, when we take DS to Disneyland Paris we plan to invite SIL as she’d adore it, but wild horses wouldn’t drag him there!).

what an amazxing gesture are you doing thr dining plan would make it easier with the meals part dont even hav to think about it

So glad you’re doing this. I am too, and honestly, I’ve had (almost) as much fun planning it for all of us as I have at Disney. I absolutely cannot wait to see them enjoy my favourite place.

My teenage niece makes me laugh, though. She gave me a list of all the places she wants to visit….Walmart, Target, a 7/11. I’ve told her I’ll take her to Asda and the petrol station any time she likes. Cheap date!

Yay!!! Lovely news!!
This is so generous of you!
I wish you all many happy memories made there together 😁

I have the opposite problem. How do I turn an invitation down 😅. It's a lovely gesture but I would rather eat poo than go to Disney Land. Guess that makes me selfish but mine are teens so don't really care. It's just hard to turn down such a generous offer graciously. First world problems and all that I know.

We love disney, but wait until a certain orange person is no longer in power. It's too much of a risk with the ESTA and social media

If I'm understanding you correctly (do you want all of them, or just the kids?), I'd try something like:

Sis, we're hoping to make another trip to Disney in October, and I'd appreciate it so much if maybe we could take your kids along, too. Of course, it's always great when the cousins can be together, and I think it would multiply the pleasure of being together on this outing.

In other words, try to frame is as if she is doing you a favor by accepting.

Not to take anything away from OP’s thread, but is anyone else coming away from this, feeling like a crappy parent because you’ll never, ever be able to take your own kid/s to any Disney park, never mind Florida? 🫩 I mean, going to Florida is my own idea of hell but, still. I’d take my DD tomorrow if I could. Those of you who can, enjoy every second!!!

@coulditbeme2323 Have you tried the Kitchen Sink at Beaches & Cream Soda Shop? (in Disney's Beach Club resort) 😎

Why don't you offer for them
to join for one week? I guess depends which Disneyland you are planning to go (US or Paris?) If they are stretched financially and hard to keep up with expensive meals daily, it would be more than enough for everyone to enjoy for one week together! And then you can stay longer!