My dad is always lying

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And they’re not little lies either.

For example, he had a minor medical procedure yesterday, under general anaesthetic. He doesn’t feel up to doing the normal childcare he does this week (not my kids, but I’m in the group chat!)

Hes text to say that he’s been advised total bed rest for 48 hours. Now I know this is rubbish because the leaflet says he needs to be up and about to avoid blood clots.

He also lied after an abnormal FIT test and said he’d been told he likely had cancer - when he’d been told the opposite

I just find it so frustrating that he never tells the truth. He doesn’t feel up to it, so just say that? It aggravates me because it’s hard to tell when he’s being serious.

I totally get where you're coming from OP. I would feel the same. There's absolutely no reason for him to lie. I hate liars! I would not engage with him when you know he's lying. He isn't going to change. Perhaps find a way to accept that.

The thing is there’s no way to know, until after the fact. He’s almost so convinced of his own lies, but then later admits he made it up

This is not a very good post. It's lacking a lot of information like: Is it correct to assume that this has been going on all your life, and if so why haven't you figured out a way to deal with it? Is/was your mother around and how did she cope with it? Have you ever countered it? Have you ever discussed it? Have you thought about why he does it?

Fact check with your mother before engaging. Be mentally prepared every time he comes out with something, for it to be bullshit and act accordingly. I would loose respect for my dad if he behaved like that. It's so weird! Best of luck.

Thanks. It’s just so draining!

I’m so sorry OP I have exactly the same with my Dad….I think it is attention seeking the only thing I can advise is giving these updates as little reaction as you can because he’s obviously doing for some reaction/attention!