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To wonder why people choose to live in London?

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Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 12/05/2026 09:36

I always wonder. And reading a recent thread prompted me to ask the question. Why do people do it by choice? People complain about the house prices (rightly), ulez, nursery fees, cost of everything being more expensive, commutes, tubes etc.

if you’re not absolutely tied to London for work or health or I guess family. Why do you choose to live there when there are so many cheaper easier lifestyle options in the country?

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EmpressaurusKitty · 14/05/2026 15:24

I do come out of tube stations with mucky fingers occasionally, which I think come from the escalator rail. But all that needs is a quick wipe with a tissue.

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 15:24

@Verv I went to Edinburgh recently for work and I would not describe the place as much slower than London - my god the volume of tourists in the old town - I would be homicidal if I had to deal with that every day.

Other than that - gorgeous city obviously.

JassyRadlett · 14/05/2026 15:25

BananaPeels · 14/05/2026 14:31

But it’s not going to be enough and when you build on this low quality land you change the nature of an area.

for instance in my area we had a bit of industrial bit near a railway line. There was a dump, there were some warehouses, a few companies there. Quite a useful bit of land that was used by a lot of people and bu convenient. I am sure your argument would have been what the council did- it was great land to develop so they did. But that land is now now lost to high rise when actually it was really useful to those businesses and locals who used the dump. Now it’s is lost forever and I’m really annoyed by it. We don’t need to build on every scrap of land going. We could turn some of that land into parks if necessary.

It's these kinds of attitudes that will
ultimately kill London. It's a high-demand location and as long as it's the disproportionate powerhouse of the UK economy it will remain in demand.

There are therefore realistic choices about what path to take. You can declare it full/closed and take a market-driven approach: and give up on the idea of a city that is much more than a playground for the rich and transports in those it needs to run its services. The city stagnates and loses its identity - as PPs have talked about happening.

Or you choose to do something about it. You prioritise decent-quality medium density housing (and break the nonsense idea that there are no housing options between single family dwelling and high rises.) You end right to buy, which has ripped the heart out of many London communities, and invest in proper social housing.

That requires two things: money (London's got plenty) and political courage (sorely lacking nationally over the last decades and then hamstrung by the mishmash of local councils actively fighting against meaningful change.)

For a well-connected major city, London is notably low-density and inefficient in terms of land use. Modest increases in density in well-connected areas could be transformative over time.

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:26

user73654823 · 14/05/2026 14:07

Look, the issue is right there in the article. Lambeth Council has lost 5000 houses. Thatcher selling off housing followed by councils and landlords selling up to big developers is part of the issue. Why not lobby the councils instead of haranguing people on Mumsnet for buying fish from the local fishmonger instead of Qatari Holdings LLC (because they, of course, are extremely committed to economic, racial and social diversity 🙄)?

My grandmother and her sisters were all born in a Victorian workers cottage not far from Brick Lane. Are you telling me that my great grandparents welcomed the influx of 'others' there? Who are the 'original' residents in that instance? And who do you think the 'original' owners of the Georgian villas in Camberwell and Brixton were?

It almost sounds like your definition is strictly @Goldenbear and your relatives who have been priced out?

I also don't think anyone on this thread has said that gentrification doesn't come with issues? And you haven't answer about your role in that in wherever it is you've moved to.

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Who said I have been priced out, not me- it's called, 'empathy' and an ethical attention to others.

JassyRadlett · 14/05/2026 15:27

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 15:22

I get the impression @Goldenbear moved out of London and has never got over it.

Also how the fuck are people visiting getting black during under their fingernails and black snot? What are you all doing - licking tube tunnels or something?

Gripping the underside of escalator railings for dear life? That's the only thing I can think of that's realistic.

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:31

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 15:22

I get the impression @Goldenbear moved out of London and has never got over it.

Also how the fuck are people visiting getting black during under their fingernails and black snot? What are you all doing - licking tube tunnels or something?

You get the wrong impression then and projecting your own limited perception and critical awareness on what is 'good' and 'bad'.

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:34

nomas · 14/05/2026 14:58

London also contributes nearly half of all UK total tax income. Londoners contribute more than tax than they receive in public spending.

I think you'll find that it isn't just London that does this.

Maybe5 · 14/05/2026 15:34

JassyRadlett · 14/05/2026 15:27

Gripping the underside of escalator railings for dear life? That's the only thing I can think of that's realistic.

I used to get the black snot 25 years ago but don't any longer, so either I've evolved some sort of pollution processing ability or the tube has got a lot cleaner.

Thechaseison71 · 14/05/2026 15:35

user73654823 · 14/05/2026 10:46

My not liking supermarkets has triggered you something fierce, I see. Do you want to mention it a few more times?

Don't worry, it's just personal preference. I doubt I'm starting a trend that's going to send Sainsbury's (majority shareholder Qatar Holdings LLC) to the poorhouse (I assume those were a regular feature of London life, back when London was your oyster?). But I like my local shops/high street and want them to flourish, and dislike supermarkets, so I'll just keep on living the way I want and can afford, and your friends and relatives on the north circular can live the way they want and can afford.

So, basically, you're just full of sour grapes and want to push back the small amount of economic prosperity in the country? I mean, I have news for you. A lot of people in a lot of places can't afford to live where they were born. New York, Cornwall, etc.

Do I think successive governments have failed on social and affordable housing? Yes. Do I think successive government have been way too soft on people parking their money in empty properties? Yes. And I don't like the tax loopholes that allow people to perch here and get out of paying. But at the same time, push newcomers out of London and this country will be so far down the shitter before you can blink it will never come out.

And those people from diverse ethnic backgrounds were once newcomers themselves. But they're the ok newcomers? What about where you live now? You're a newcomer or 'outsider' there, if you're from London. Aren't you pushing up house prices/destroying connections by being there?

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Yes that's a problem where I live Londoners coming in and pushing up house prices

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 15:35

@Goldenbear what the hell are you on about?

nomas · 14/05/2026 15:38

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:34

I think you'll find that it isn't just London that does this.

Yes, that should have been London and the South East.

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:39

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/05/2026 14:48

It doesn’t suit you, in other words.

I have to add though, the consumerism bit is only a tiny fraction of the city where only tourists ever go.

I haven’t been to those “west end shops” type parts of London for years (theatre districts yes but not the shopping areas) and I live in London.

What a ridiculous assertion, out of population of 9 ISH million not one person living in London has consumerist tendencies. Have you ever been to the King's road!

Verv · 14/05/2026 15:40

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 15:24

@Verv I went to Edinburgh recently for work and I would not describe the place as much slower than London - my god the volume of tourists in the old town - I would be homicidal if I had to deal with that every day.

Other than that - gorgeous city obviously.

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Yes the old town is often heaving but also easy to avoid if you don't work in the area.
Ill be avoiding all of the centre during August as the festival crowds drive me nuts!

Thechaseison71 · 14/05/2026 15:40

nomas · 14/05/2026 14:58

London also contributes nearly half of all UK total tax income. Londoners contribute more than tax than they receive in public spending.

Just the people who live there or those that work there and commute in also?

user73654823 · 14/05/2026 15:43

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:31

You get the wrong impression then and projecting your own limited perception and critical awareness on what is 'good' and 'bad'.

So if you're so happy where you are, why all the ranting?

By the way, you're starting to descend into incoherence again. This sentence doesn't mean anything.

You get the wrong impression then and projecting your own limited perception and critical awareness on what is 'good' and 'bad'.

goodej862 · 14/05/2026 15:53

Verv · 14/05/2026 15:08

You know Tokyo has three times as many shops as London though right?
Ew consumerism!

Sure it does but the city is clean, safe and the Japanese are nicer people. Tokyo has cooler art and food and music scene than London.

FunMustard · 14/05/2026 16:13

Because it's the capital city and therefore has lots of things to do, to look at, to experience, that you might not get elsewhere?

I'm a city girl through and through. I'd be bored off my tits in a more rural area; even growing up in London suburbia wasn't for me.

I'd gnaw my own arm off if it meant I could afford to live in London. It wouldn't though lol!

Phineyj · 14/05/2026 16:17

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 15:34

I think you'll find that it isn't just London that does this.

London, the South East and the East of England are net contributors to the state. Everywhere else receives more in spending than they raise in tax.

Martin Wheatcroft's handy pocketbook Simply UK Government Finances has all the figures in accessible format.

Flamingojune · 14/05/2026 16:23

goodej862 · 14/05/2026 15:53

Sure it does but the city is clean, safe and the Japanese are nicer people. Tokyo has cooler art and food and music scene than London.

Nicer than british or londoners?

Ginmonkeyagain · 14/05/2026 16:27

@goodej862 I am sure Tokyo is lovely but my commute would be a bit of a bugger.

blueshoes · 14/05/2026 17:13

Ginmonkeyagain · 13/05/2026 07:43

I think the "London is an urban spawl people" only see central London for work or visits. I live in Zone 3, I am currenly sitting on my balcony watching a couple of birds flying in and out of a hedgerow. We literally have ancient woodland behind our flats. We have volunteer groups, an annual fete and community litter picks just like any other community.

Many Londoners don't live in Zone 1 or 2. London is a series of interconnected villages, grit and glam live cheek-by-jowl, in a way that is completely normal. It is not all Oxford Street. I think most Londoners would avoid shopping in Oxford Street or going there at all.

There are communities like @Ginmonkeyagain describes. My zone 3 area in SE London is leafy and next to Blackheath common and Greenwich Park. We get birds, squirrels, urban foxes in our garden. When dcs were small, and we lived in a terrace house with no front garden, the children came out to play in the street and we knew our neighbours. Now that we live in a bigger house that is more set back from the street, there are families with teens and older dcs. The dcs know each other as they go to the same cluster of schools. There is a nature reserve a short bus ride away and urban farms.

There isn't as much nature as if we lived rurally but it is not an urban wasteland either. The kids get to see both worlds and decide which they prefer. I think a rural simpler life is better when the dcs are young but a more independent city life is better for teens. When we used to host aupairs (18+), living in London was definitely an attraction.

Personally, I think it is important to be plugged into the global economy. I would not want my dcs to live a cloistered life. I appreciate 'cloistered' means different things to different people.

Goldenbear · 14/05/2026 17:14

user73654823 · 14/05/2026 15:43

So if you're so happy where you are, why all the ranting?

By the way, you're starting to descend into incoherence again. This sentence doesn't mean anything.

You get the wrong impression then and projecting your own limited perception and critical awareness on what is 'good' and 'bad'.

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I'm sorry that you don't understand complex sentences.

Arran2024 · 14/05/2026 17:18

I moved here after uni for work, met my now husband and stayed. He is from round here - he doesn't want to move. We live in a nice, leafy suburb - it's not exactly a chore to live round here. London is huge and varied.

Arran2024 · 14/05/2026 17:26

Thechaseison71 · 14/05/2026 15:35

Yes that's a problem where I live Londoners coming in and pushing up house prices

People born in London are the most pushed out by outsiders buying property! I know that rural communities struggle with folks from London and elsewhere buying property, but that has been happening in London for about 40 years.

My daughter has no chance of buying a property in London. Houses are bought by wealthy foreigners - three houses in my street have recently sold, all to people from Hong Kong. Outsiders affect property everywhere.

user73654823 · 14/05/2026 17:27

No, I don't understand improperly constructed, incomprehensible ones.

Still waiting for your proposed solutions to the problems you're seeing.

And also some enlightenment on how you, a Londoner, moving out of London and driving up prices and taking a space from someone born where you now reside, is any different?

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