To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

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I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

OP you could book into the Airport Lounge and enjoy peace, quiet and free food all day!! You could even plane spot!! 🛫

Do you live in Cornwall OP, just based on rurality/journey time to Bristol? There are direct flights from Stansted to Newquay just in case that helps with your journey back, but I think they are only a couple of days a week.

Down that way, yes! I actually have the chance to refund the flight in a couple of days as Ryanair have changed the time massively, so I am considering just staying the night at the airport and travelling home on the Tuesday

Ha, my husband is everyone's go-to for favours because he is practical, strong, has all the tools and a truck that can tow. I have no doubt my own little family has helped other more than most. But like a pp, I assume I'm making my own way to an airport just as I make my own way anywhere in life - it's part of being an adult, surely? And as soon as you have two kids, there's too many of you for anyone to give your family a lift anyway so you have to figure it out yourself.

Public transport is quite awkward to and from the airport from where we live so public transport is an option but so much hassle. We have driven on occasions but generally we take each other. Siblings, parents, friends; we’ve all done it for each other and it’s never been seen as a big deal.

I don’t have children.

I am clearly very happy to get myself there (and back again, as I’ve demonstrated) but if you don’t ask, you don’t get

Does your brother have kids? A partner?

Just remembered, years ago my sister and BIL got a really delayed flight back from....Turkey I think. It was either fly back into Manchester or wait another two days for our local airport, so DSis asked if I would pick them up (2 hours each way) and of course I did. My parents had to miss a train to their UK holiday many years later due to a potential medical emergency, so Dsis and BIL drove them there, stayed over and then drove back. When I came back from honeymoon, Dparents picked us up.

Surely its just what you do?

I find it sad that some people would clearly assign a cash value to helping a family member who would help you out in return. It evens out over the course of a lifetime for most people. That said, in my family its ok to say "Any chance of a lift for our 5am flight?" and the favour givee is free to say "Fuck off, get a taxi!" with no offence meant or taken!

No and no.

Why are you so obsessed

You poor thing. 'Sibling' my arse. Noone would fuck you over the way a sibling would. Welcome to the real world.

This is how I see it! If he’d said “nah get to fuck”, fair enough 😂 but it’s saying yes then asking for £££, especially now that he’s told me he’s able to take it as annual leave, so he’d be paid for the day and then also by me! He’s such a tight git 😂

Your brother would be breaking the law by charging you. He's an idiot.

In my family, it's normal to give each other airport lifts for free of course!

https://www.rac.co.uk/drive/news/motoring-news/giving-your-friends-a-lift-fines/

To be fair this is the man who, at Christmas, looked up how much a £25 M&S gift card would be with a blue light discount and sent me that amount of money so I could get myself the gift card 😂😂😂😂 he is just that tight

See I would happily do your first two examples because it's weird unplanned emergencies.

However I would be quite surprised to be asked to do a planned 4 hour drive there and back to the airport for a family member who could get the train (and would probably say no, other than my kids and partner but they wouldn't ask...)

Then why are you surprised he's asked you for money for a 4 hour drive to the airport?!

Good point

He’s her bloody brother!

I don’t know to be honest 😂 I think it’s just so miserly it’s actually a little bit funny 🤣

Yes he offered! I asked and he said yes, in my head that’s an offer.

That's not an offer OP 😂

That's you asking.

An offer would be the other way wrong with him asking and you accepting.

Wow. I can’t imagine billing a relative for my time. Not least a sibling. Even my tight brother wouldn’t go that far.

Still just 😱 that family would ask for money for doing something like this!
We often take family members to the airport if they need a lift at unsociable hours (to be fair it’s mostly my parents or in-laws, everyone else just goes the night before and stays at a hotel or drives themselves and parks there on the day),
When we need to go we do the same; drive ourselves either the night before and stay at a hotel at the airport or drives themselves up in the day.
Bloody hell you’re family! He should have just said no from the beginning 🫣

You can get the Airport Flyer bus from BTM. I believe they are every 30 minutes in the summer. Allow about 1 hour for the journey to be on the safe side.

I would never dream of charging a sibling for my time, we do favours for each other all the time, that’s what siblings do

Didnt ask, they offered. Its how we do things in our family, we dont keep a tally sheet.

Yeah you thought "repaying a favour" he thought "money maker".

Dont ask him again and dont be available next time he asks you.