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Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

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BIossomtoes · 09/05/2026 13:08

user1484264563 · 09/05/2026 13:03

You are correct in your observation, many on MN identify as hard left wingers that will trash anyone else's opinion. A good example was the 2017 snap general election where 19/20 respondents in a thread on here said they were voting Labour and wanted Corbyn for PM, the reality was that the Conservatives won comfortably with a 100 seat majority; MN is NOT the real world.

The 2017 election ended up with the Tories losing their majority and having to pay the DUP to support them. Even Johnson only managed an 80 odd majority in 2019.

Marmalademorning · 09/05/2026 13:20

user1484264563 · 09/05/2026 13:03

You are correct in your observation, many on MN identify as hard left wingers that will trash anyone else's opinion. A good example was the 2017 snap general election where 19/20 respondents in a thread on here said they were voting Labour and wanted Corbyn for PM, the reality was that the Conservatives won comfortably with a 100 seat majority; MN is NOT the real world.

Thankfully.

Bloozie · 09/05/2026 13:32

Underthinker · 08/05/2026 14:43

I look at Reform, and I look at the people on this thread who are happy to call their voters thick racists, and I dont see much love and compassion on either side.

I can tolerate a lot of things, but not intolerance.

Bloozie · 09/05/2026 13:38

OonaStubbs · 09/05/2026 02:48

Council tax should be used first and foremost on things like refuse collection, maintaining the roads, etc. "Social care" needs to be placed on the back burner and families need to take on more of a reponsibility in caring for family members, not to mention parenting their children (that they CHOSE to have!) and raising them to become fully-functioning, tax-paying members of society instead of video game playing shut-ins or drug taking criminals.

When you say that, you mean women.

Women should care for their elderly relatives.

Women should be better parents to their children.

While working full time because who can afford a home on a single salary any more?

Women, know your place.

BIossomtoes · 09/05/2026 13:46

Bloozie · 09/05/2026 13:38

When you say that, you mean women.

Women should care for their elderly relatives.

Women should be better parents to their children.

While working full time because who can afford a home on a single salary any more?

Women, know your place.

Barefoot and pregnant, chained to the sink. The worst misogynists in the world are women.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 13:48

BIossomtoes · 09/05/2026 13:46

Barefoot and pregnant, chained to the sink. The worst misogynists in the world are women.

No, they're still men. Men have always been behind these movements of social control.

BIossomtoes · 09/05/2026 14:10

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 13:48

No, they're still men. Men have always been behind these movements of social control.

Women like the one above are worse because they really should know better.

PinkyFlamingo · 09/05/2026 14:21

Su1rlie · 08/05/2026 06:22

You do realise this isn't a general election and most of the country weren’t voting yesterday.

Who are you talking about England I presume? Because the election in Scotland was to elect MSPs 🙄

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:23

“I think this is a really interesting overlap (probably not that unusual but is very marked in many of these areas). It really is turkeys voting for Christmas, and if I was a Labour SpAd I’d have been furiously arguing for massive resource allocation in those at risk areas. The public health and health inequalities are massive. I don’t want to malign any particular of the areas that voted in reform (not least because I live in one!) but some of the northern midlands and northern constituencies are shocking places to wander around and see some of the least healthy people you can imagine. It’s so fucking tragic that they’re voting for what is effectively managed decline but by a bloke they think is their friend. I’ve worked in social policy all my life (after law) and it’s frustrating that politicians don’t always use the evidence we present to them, but this has been predictable for 20 odd years at least. It’s also plain as day when you go to these places that the problems are not about immigration , so I have to say my sympathy for the residents is waning. Should have gone into corporate law instead!”

@Allisnotlost1 - well if you have already hit rock bottom then why not? Is that not the thinking? They are willing to give someone like Farage a chance because everyone else has failed them? It is really not that complicated.

As regards “health” inequality - well it is all in the diet and exercise. Some people read to their children and feed them healthy food from conception in the womb (many even before that), others don’t. Many who don’t, simply were not parented that way either themselves. None of it is that complicated.

Some British culture around food and drink and alcohol is very poor for heart health and diabetes. A lot of seasonal food can be prepared quite cheaply and well. The nanny state does not necessarily help all that much with these things, same applies to teeth etc.
If people do not respect themselves and their area and are not valued either by their own parents or society, they are more likely to have bad physical and mental health right from the get go. I think what Farage is trying to give them is self respect and a voice. I am trying to listen, others should too.

Even the “manosphere”, it is easy to try and dismiss it but some of it is not just chaining women to the kitchen sink, but also about being a protector etc. and looking out for a woman and there are women chasing the trad wife role. Or so my children tell me.

Also the left need to understand that that is it. There is no more taxation of the middle class left to give, we are at the limit. It is unproductive. Need to come up with other strategies, more intelligent ones. Just spending other people’s is not going to work as those who are being taxed have choices.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:24

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 13:48

No, they're still men. Men have always been behind these movements of social control.

They are, but it wouldn’t work without the handmaidens.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:28

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:24

They are, but it wouldn’t work without the handmaidens.

It's not a freely made choice though. These are decisions made within the confines of patriarchal systems.

Underthinker · 09/05/2026 14:30

Bloozie · 09/05/2026 13:32

I can tolerate a lot of things, but not intolerance.

Karl Popper is turning in his grave.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:31

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:23

“I think this is a really interesting overlap (probably not that unusual but is very marked in many of these areas). It really is turkeys voting for Christmas, and if I was a Labour SpAd I’d have been furiously arguing for massive resource allocation in those at risk areas. The public health and health inequalities are massive. I don’t want to malign any particular of the areas that voted in reform (not least because I live in one!) but some of the northern midlands and northern constituencies are shocking places to wander around and see some of the least healthy people you can imagine. It’s so fucking tragic that they’re voting for what is effectively managed decline but by a bloke they think is their friend. I’ve worked in social policy all my life (after law) and it’s frustrating that politicians don’t always use the evidence we present to them, but this has been predictable for 20 odd years at least. It’s also plain as day when you go to these places that the problems are not about immigration , so I have to say my sympathy for the residents is waning. Should have gone into corporate law instead!”

@Allisnotlost1 - well if you have already hit rock bottom then why not? Is that not the thinking? They are willing to give someone like Farage a chance because everyone else has failed them? It is really not that complicated.

As regards “health” inequality - well it is all in the diet and exercise. Some people read to their children and feed them healthy food from conception in the womb (many even before that), others don’t. Many who don’t, simply were not parented that way either themselves. None of it is that complicated.

Some British culture around food and drink and alcohol is very poor for heart health and diabetes. A lot of seasonal food can be prepared quite cheaply and well. The nanny state does not necessarily help all that much with these things, same applies to teeth etc.
If people do not respect themselves and their area and are not valued either by their own parents or society, they are more likely to have bad physical and mental health right from the get go. I think what Farage is trying to give them is self respect and a voice. I am trying to listen, others should too.

Even the “manosphere”, it is easy to try and dismiss it but some of it is not just chaining women to the kitchen sink, but also about being a protector etc. and looking out for a woman and there are women chasing the trad wife role. Or so my children tell me.

Also the left need to understand that that is it. There is no more taxation of the middle class left to give, we are at the limit. It is unproductive. Need to come up with other strategies, more intelligent ones. Just spending other people’s is not going to work as those who are being taxed have choices.

A lot of what you say seems like common sense, but is more complex. Behaviour explains a proportion of difference but inequalities specifically refers to the non-behavioural differences between groups. Alcohol related disease and deaths, for example, are more prevalent among poorer people who consume excess alcohol, than wealthier people who consume the same amount. A healthy person living in a deprived neighbourhood is more at risk of a range of chronic disease than an unwell person in a well served neighbourhood. That doesn’t have to mean money, but green space, decent transport, working street lighting, amenities nearby - amenities which include shops selling good quality food. Nothing in Reform’s policies addresses any of this and no amount of ‘self-respect’ is going to change it.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:33

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:28

It's not a freely made choice though. These are decisions made within the confines of patriarchal systems.

True, but I’m making the choice not to oppress other women so it’s possible for the pp to also make that choice. We can recognise women are an oppressed class without denying ourselves any agency at all.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:42

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:23

“I think this is a really interesting overlap (probably not that unusual but is very marked in many of these areas). It really is turkeys voting for Christmas, and if I was a Labour SpAd I’d have been furiously arguing for massive resource allocation in those at risk areas. The public health and health inequalities are massive. I don’t want to malign any particular of the areas that voted in reform (not least because I live in one!) but some of the northern midlands and northern constituencies are shocking places to wander around and see some of the least healthy people you can imagine. It’s so fucking tragic that they’re voting for what is effectively managed decline but by a bloke they think is their friend. I’ve worked in social policy all my life (after law) and it’s frustrating that politicians don’t always use the evidence we present to them, but this has been predictable for 20 odd years at least. It’s also plain as day when you go to these places that the problems are not about immigration , so I have to say my sympathy for the residents is waning. Should have gone into corporate law instead!”

@Allisnotlost1 - well if you have already hit rock bottom then why not? Is that not the thinking? They are willing to give someone like Farage a chance because everyone else has failed them? It is really not that complicated.

As regards “health” inequality - well it is all in the diet and exercise. Some people read to their children and feed them healthy food from conception in the womb (many even before that), others don’t. Many who don’t, simply were not parented that way either themselves. None of it is that complicated.

Some British culture around food and drink and alcohol is very poor for heart health and diabetes. A lot of seasonal food can be prepared quite cheaply and well. The nanny state does not necessarily help all that much with these things, same applies to teeth etc.
If people do not respect themselves and their area and are not valued either by their own parents or society, they are more likely to have bad physical and mental health right from the get go. I think what Farage is trying to give them is self respect and a voice. I am trying to listen, others should too.

Even the “manosphere”, it is easy to try and dismiss it but some of it is not just chaining women to the kitchen sink, but also about being a protector etc. and looking out for a woman and there are women chasing the trad wife role. Or so my children tell me.

Also the left need to understand that that is it. There is no more taxation of the middle class left to give, we are at the limit. It is unproductive. Need to come up with other strategies, more intelligent ones. Just spending other people’s is not going to work as those who are being taxed have choices.

That sounds a lot like you're placing the blame for the inevitable results of entrenched structural inequality firmly onto the shoulders of the individual. As Mr Farage would tell you (if he were ever to speak the truth), that's very easy to do but it's futile, ineffective and resolves nothing. There's a reason the phrase "personal responsibility" became such a political cliche and clue, it had nothing to do with helping the average person.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:44

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:33

True, but I’m making the choice not to oppress other women so it’s possible for the pp to also make that choice. We can recognise women are an oppressed class without denying ourselves any agency at all.

Agency can be quite a privilege.

Northermcharn · 09/05/2026 14:44

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 11:34

I thought they were pledging to bring back the two child benefit cap if they won a GE?

Enforce tax payments from big businesses that aren't currently paying their share
Stop private school VAT
Bring back the 2 child benefit cap
Revise PIP
Provide more schools for SEN children
Stop useless degrees so students don't end up in debt for no reason
Provide more opportunity at 16+ not all kids are suited to A Levels
No benefits or NHS until an adult immigrant has contributed at least 5 yrs tax
Bring back Sure Start
Bring back more youth clubs
Pay teachers more
Stop paying train drivers more
Non UK citizens pay for museums

Off the top of my head that's my manifesto when I'm in charge

sugarpiebunnyhunch · 09/05/2026 14:45

hattie43 · 08/05/2026 05:30

MN has a hard core group of left wing voters who think the louder they shout and the more they insult they will persuade people they are wrong . Well no-one except the well heeled of Islington wants their nonsense . Reform are doing well and all the left have done is turn their support underground because people can’t be bothered to debate left wing zealots .

Edited

Oh please. 😂😂😂

Northermcharn · 09/05/2026 14:46

BIossomtoes · 09/05/2026 13:46

Barefoot and pregnant, chained to the sink. The worst misogynists in the world are women.

No. No that isn't true. JC.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:46

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:23

“I think this is a really interesting overlap (probably not that unusual but is very marked in many of these areas). It really is turkeys voting for Christmas, and if I was a Labour SpAd I’d have been furiously arguing for massive resource allocation in those at risk areas. The public health and health inequalities are massive. I don’t want to malign any particular of the areas that voted in reform (not least because I live in one!) but some of the northern midlands and northern constituencies are shocking places to wander around and see some of the least healthy people you can imagine. It’s so fucking tragic that they’re voting for what is effectively managed decline but by a bloke they think is their friend. I’ve worked in social policy all my life (after law) and it’s frustrating that politicians don’t always use the evidence we present to them, but this has been predictable for 20 odd years at least. It’s also plain as day when you go to these places that the problems are not about immigration , so I have to say my sympathy for the residents is waning. Should have gone into corporate law instead!”

@Allisnotlost1 - well if you have already hit rock bottom then why not? Is that not the thinking? They are willing to give someone like Farage a chance because everyone else has failed them? It is really not that complicated.

As regards “health” inequality - well it is all in the diet and exercise. Some people read to their children and feed them healthy food from conception in the womb (many even before that), others don’t. Many who don’t, simply were not parented that way either themselves. None of it is that complicated.

Some British culture around food and drink and alcohol is very poor for heart health and diabetes. A lot of seasonal food can be prepared quite cheaply and well. The nanny state does not necessarily help all that much with these things, same applies to teeth etc.
If people do not respect themselves and their area and are not valued either by their own parents or society, they are more likely to have bad physical and mental health right from the get go. I think what Farage is trying to give them is self respect and a voice. I am trying to listen, others should too.

Even the “manosphere”, it is easy to try and dismiss it but some of it is not just chaining women to the kitchen sink, but also about being a protector etc. and looking out for a woman and there are women chasing the trad wife role. Or so my children tell me.

Also the left need to understand that that is it. There is no more taxation of the middle class left to give, we are at the limit. It is unproductive. Need to come up with other strategies, more intelligent ones. Just spending other people’s is not going to work as those who are being taxed have choices.

Just add, on “trad wives”, people can make that individual choice for themselves if they wish and nothing is stopping them. I don’t personally think the manosphere is about protecting women at all, but each to their own. However a government taxation scheme that prioritises women staying at home and having babies isn’t a choice, and I can’t understand why any woman would encourage that.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:46

Northermcharn · 09/05/2026 14:44

Enforce tax payments from big businesses that aren't currently paying their share
Stop private school VAT
Bring back the 2 child benefit cap
Revise PIP
Provide more schools for SEN children
Stop useless degrees so students don't end up in debt for no reason
Provide more opportunity at 16+ not all kids are suited to A Levels
No benefits or NHS until an adult immigrant has contributed at least 5 yrs tax
Bring back Sure Start
Bring back more youth clubs
Pay teachers more
Stop paying train drivers more
Non UK citizens pay for museums

Off the top of my head that's my manifesto when I'm in charge

Edited

Fortunately....

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:47

“Alcohol related disease and deaths, for example, are more prevalent among poorer people who consume excess alcohol, than wealthier people who consume the same amount.”

@Allisnotlost1 - there is a massive difference in quality of alcohol just as there is in food? Is that not the obvious explanation? A posh person consuming fine expensive wines is not doing as much harm as a person consuming plonk? The posh person will also likely be exercising to compensate and eating sardines on sourdough with homemade tomato sauce etc
The questionnaires always enquire re units consumed, but that is extremely simplistic.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:49

Araminta1003 · 09/05/2026 14:47

“Alcohol related disease and deaths, for example, are more prevalent among poorer people who consume excess alcohol, than wealthier people who consume the same amount.”

@Allisnotlost1 - there is a massive difference in quality of alcohol just as there is in food? Is that not the obvious explanation? A posh person consuming fine expensive wines is not doing as much harm as a person consuming plonk? The posh person will also likely be exercising to compensate and eating sardines on sourdough with homemade tomato sauce etc
The questionnaires always enquire re units consumed, but that is extremely simplistic.

No, your liver can’t distinguish between the posh alcohol you put in it! Fucking hell, educate yourself.

But thanks for highlighting exactly what a health inequality is. A wealthy person will be able to eat better quality food with their alcohol. Their behaviour isnt any better than the poor person’s, but you obviously prefer the fine wine swilling, sourdough sealing version of alcoholism so you don’t think they have any personal responsibility.

Northermcharn · 09/05/2026 14:49

ForWittyTealOP · 09/05/2026 14:46

Fortunately....

Fortunately I'm not a politician dealing with the fckwittery of lots of the population. I totally agree.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 14:51

Northermcharn · 09/05/2026 14:49

Fortunately I'm not a politician dealing with the fckwittery of lots of the population. I totally agree.

Why bother writing a manifesto then? Rather self important.

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