AIBU to feel unsettled by DH telling me about his soulmate dream?

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Feeling a bit odd.

Came home this evening and getting dinner ready in the kitchen and Dh came into the kitchen with a weird look on his face and said he had a really weird dream last night. He started to say it, then kept looking hesitant and stopped saying it, so I said ‘Go on, what was it?’ (thinking please just get on with it, whilst putting food in the oven and rushing around.
He said that he dreamt that someone or something was saying they’d found him his soulmate and the person he’s connected to and that then this man a woman (I think) then started hitting him really hard with shoes and all sorts with really nasty faces
It was just a really odd thing to come and tell me…literally straight away, not after other conversations and then ‘Oh god yeah I had this awful dream last night’ and also talking about a soul mate? What am I, chopped liver?!
I said (a bit angrily) why was he dreaming about a soul mate and he stormed off saying it was a dream

Is this weird? Feels very weird!

I don’t personally don’t believe that. I’ve had some very weird dreams and they have meant nothing and indicated nothing.

Proof from the bible you say.

Yeah, if there were deeper meanings to dreams then a lot of us secretly believe that we failed on class in school and now have to go back and repeat the class or we never had graduated. Also we can't find the classroom that we need to get too.

If you don't believe in the Bible then obviously you won't accept that.

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Your reaction to this was really strange, like you think he’s had this dream on purpose or like he’s going to suddenly decide to gallivant off to find this soulmate due to this dream. He was probably hesitant to tell you because he was embarrassed to be frightened by a dream, I’ve been the same with my husband, really freaked out by a vivid dream but feel silly putting it into words because out loud, you can’t convey that unsettled, horrible feeling, and it doesn’t sound that scary!
I can’t understand why anger was your first emotion here? It’s strange. It’s a dream! I’ve dreamt allll sorts of weird WEIRD stuff and can assure you it isn’t the inner workings of my deepest desires!

I was going for a Cheezelzebub joke, but a fake vegan cheese demon is a whole other type of disturbing.

It sounds like a spiritual attack. Please pray together 🙏🏿

Well no. Talking snakes and demons aren’t my thing. I believe a person’s brain can be filled with demonic thoughts though.

Thats fair enough.

Personally if I have a weird dream I can generally relate it to something that has been on my mind or something that has triggered it.

Tbh these days I very very rarely dream, or at least remember that I have dreamed, but I used to have very vivid dreams - particularly the recurring one where i'm falling down a steep incline from a path on the side of a mountain. I know that's related to my fear of heights but I like to find a cause for other dreams when I have them.

Cheezelzebub 😂

I have odd (magnesium) dreams and I try to share enough of them with my DH but not too much. It’s a way of shelving them so I don’t carry them into my day. If he made a big deal of them I’d think he was being an unhelpful tosser.

I can certainly have dreams that have been triggered by something but not all dreams. Some are just plain weird and very random. I find I have the very weird ones if I wake up, say around 5am, and then go back to sleep. I can remember them in detail but they mean nothing and then forgotten by the end of the day.

I had a dream that the postman who delivers to our office refused to hand me the key to the office safe unless I let him press up against my naked body, while I was in the bath. In an old tin style bath as well 😂

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If the dream was last night and you were putting on the dinner it wasn't straight away was it. If anything is the surprise was that he didn't tell you soon after asking up.

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Come on OP, it was a dream!!! A dream nonetheless that he told you about - you overreacted. I have had some dreams I would never tell anyone about - you can’t control them!

I think dreams are usually connected to something we have seen or heard recently or even subliminally absorbed from our environment and our brains are trying to process the info. Sometimes that takes the form of a strange narrative. Things like stress, illness, medication etc can influence how we dream.

I often have very intense vivid dreams, I also have auditory hallucinations and sleep paralysis. All these can feel pretty intense and occasionally frightening. They all have rational explanations which once I am fully awake I can understand, but in the moment they feel very unsettling.

None of them are caused by demons, the human brain is a complex and wonderful thing, things like demons were invented when people lacked the scientific knowledge to understand what was happening and the natural human reponse to any situation is to try to make sense of it.

OP your DH had a vivid dream and it unsettled him, don't read any more into it than that, maybe he should keep his dreams to himself in future.

Dreams can be very unsettling, or frightening even, could have been seeking reassurance which he did not get hence the anger.His timing was obviously bad. I would not overthink it.

One of the sites I use has an ad for finding people’s soul mates repeated over and over. I think it’s twaddle but it definitely got into my head because your post reminded me of it. Maybe your DH has seen the same ad on repeat without taking much notice too. All sorts of things from our day pop up in dreams, sometimes in really out of context bizarre ways.

Yeah I empathise with this because I remember my mother recounting a dream she had had in which my father told her he was considering leaving her for a younger woman because he would be better off financially. They were both retired at the time. True to form she told him (in the dream) that she'd make the decision for him and to bugger off. When she woke up she was furious with him - honestly, really resentful, she phoned and told me all about it. He was bewildered - and it has to be said dismissive, and annoyed of course.

I kept trying to tell her that her dreams weren't his fault but she didn't seem able to get over it. Thinking about it now, I think what she wanted was for him to sympathise about the horrible dream and reassure her that he was devoted to her and would never dream (pun intended) of doing such an awful thing, but he was too annoyed.

Dreams are often just a strange mish mash of things that have happened during the day. It doesn't have to mean anything at all. I think he just had a dream that was a bit disturbing and wanted to tell you. I dreamt about elephants the other night, don't have a clue why! I said to my son that I dreamt that and we both said 'weird!'. The subconscious is often very odd.

To Babybelzebub, obviously.