AIBU to feel unsettled by DH telling me about his soulmate dream?

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Feeling a bit odd.

Came home this evening and getting dinner ready in the kitchen and Dh came into the kitchen with a weird look on his face and said he had a really weird dream last night. He started to say it, then kept looking hesitant and stopped saying it, so I said ‘Go on, what was it?’ (thinking please just get on with it, whilst putting food in the oven and rushing around.
He said that he dreamt that someone or something was saying they’d found him his soulmate and the person he’s connected to and that then this man a woman (I think) then started hitting him really hard with shoes and all sorts with really nasty faces
It was just a really odd thing to come and tell me…literally straight away, not after other conversations and then ‘Oh god yeah I had this awful dream last night’ and also talking about a soul mate? What am I, chopped liver?!
I said (a bit angrily) why was he dreaming about a soul mate and he stormed off saying it was a dream

Is this weird? Feels very weird!

I dreamt that Jensen Ackles was really mean to me when he was supposed to be my friend. Then he turned into lemon curd and I carried 'him' around in a jar.

It was just a strange dream. I’ve dreamt about cheating on my husband a few times, and told him about it afterwards. He doesn’t care, they were dreams.

I can understand you feeling a bit defensive when he spoke about a ‘soulmate’ in the dream; soulmate could potentially mean a yearning/want for more emotional connection - not with someone else, but with you, perhaps? The shoe thing, in dream interpretation, can symbolise a fear of judgment or a sense of shame and the attack bit after being promised connection, could suggest an internal conflict with one part looking for more emotional closeness/intimacy and another part expecting rejection/hurt. Dream interpretation isn’t a science, obviously, it’s very interpretative so just thoughts really. You mentioned your DH was hesitant and somewhat reluctant to say what the dream was about, perhaps he felt anxious about it, even if it didn’t make sense to him. Dreams can sometimes bring unconscious anxieties to the surface, even if we don’t ‘understand’ the content, the feeling it leaves can be a clearer indication, if you understand me.

Sorry you’ve totally overreacted. Then overreached. The poor guy had a fucking nightmare - and YOU threw a strop and walked off? Don’t worry - he won’t tell you anything now. It’s a DREAM. Two days ago I dreamt my dad was a giant slice of cheddar cheese and I had to ‘catch him’ using a butterfly net. Does this mean something?! I fucking hope not.

I dreamt I had sex with Paul Daniels. I think I’d rather be shot by Richard Whiteley 😳

He was a well known personality appearing on the TV- you might have been watching Countdown. So of course it's possible he was in your mind before you had the dream.

Dreams are a way of your brain untangling stuff and working through and processing. It's not always literal. Sometimes it's just a load of random meaningless images that your brain is putting deciding whether to keep or forget.

He sounds like he found the dream unsettling which was probably why he wanted to talk to you about it.

I guess one interpretation might be that his subconscious is working through him accepting that he has found what he needs. Not necessarily a relationship, maybe his job or something else significant.

I'd rather have a jar of delicious lemon curd than a mean friend!

Dreams are often insane. YABU.

I tell my husband if I have dreams about other men. He doesn't care.

Literally, my dreams can be crazy. I’ve murdered someone and now have to cover it up, I’m being hunted. That I’m a man and I’m having sex with random women. I think my dads been naked in my dream before, which disturbed me. I can morph between being myself, to being a whole new character, sometimes my dreams are feature length film worthy. I don’t know why anyone would put too much stock in a dream.

OP, I’d tell my wife about that dream as it sounded disturbing and if she then got jealous of the dream I’d think she was a bit psycho tbh

Is he coming down with something or unsettled by something else in his life? There's nothing to be read into it, but it sounds quite a horrid dream really. If you're concerned he's seen some kind of meaning in it - talk to him! Ask him how it's made him feel.

I’ve also had a sex dream about Theresa May and dreamt I was in my kitchen frying a turd

I’m wondering if we’ve had covid recently maybe as i’ve also had a couple of really frightening dreams in the last couple of weeks-strange

I had a dream I had an affair at a hippie-type festival with a man who worked in a cafe/tent that sold cakes made with breastmilk. Told DH and he found that quite funny.

A positive way of looking at this is that it's nice he instinctively wanted to tell you his troubling dream, and it's also nice you want to be his only soulmate. Unless there's bigger context where you don't trust him, you're both showing love. Tell him you felt sensitive because you don't want him to have another soulmate even in a dream, give him a hug and remember dreams are just braindust...!

This may well be the case! And I also really like @StripedVase's post.

I’ve never watched countdown 🤣

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No one really knows why we dream fyi. There are theories yes, but that’s all they are. I find it a little obnoxious you think you know my mind better than I do.

Sorry but it made me laugh picturing him hesitantly trying to describe a weird dream to you while you’re busy chopping veg and just want him to get it over and done with. It’s just so real. I hate listening to DH’s dreams, they’re always so tedious but he insists on telling me every detail.

"why was he dreaming that?" Obviously not by choice. But by the way the way you've reacted I'd say, subliminally he feels trapped with someone who others think is perfect for him but is nasty to him.

It’s a weird random dream. His soul mate was a torturer in the dream, Is he under a lot of stress in RL. A bit of reassurance from you about his nightmare would have been nice.

You’re jealous of a fictional person in a dream? Bizarre.

Everyone has weird dreams and most people tell their partner about them. They are dreams.