Asking friend to reschedule our day out because she said she’ll have to bring her child

[Marshmallows1302]

I’m a mum to 2 small children, friend has 1 small child. This weekend we planned a childfree afternoon out, but her DP has forgotten and apparently booked something in. She now said she’ll have to bring her little one along.

AIBU to cancel and ask to reschedule and go and enjoy a nice afternoon out childfree by myself? This isn’t the first time her DP has done this

Yup. There’s no way I’d be supposedly having a child free afternoon whilst entertaining someone else’s kid. You might as well have yours with you.

it’s either child free or it isn’t.

YANBU at all. Childfree afternoons are precious. You haven’t sorted care for your DC just to hang out with hers.

If she has an issue with anyone, it should be her DP.

I would do exactly that! I think your friend should really have offered to reschedule,

Do it and don't feel guilty in the slightest. There is no way I would swap a childfree meet up for one dragging children around and entertaining them.

I'd also reschedule and I'd tell her that her dp is a prick to keep doing this, but you're not spending your child free time with someone elses kid.

Strange that she isn't telling her DP to reschedule if she had booked first.

It's important to have child free days and for the kids to be with both parents solo.

I'd definitely suggest a raincheck and go off do something nice yourself. No way would i be leaving my kids behind only to have someone else's kid there.

Yes anyone with small children would surely accept that a child free day is a rare thing to be savoured!

Child free time is precious - I would hate to be around other people’s kids if mine aren’t there. Totally agree with you, OP.

YANBU

And I strongly suspect you know it!

Absolutely fine to reschedule. It's your child-free time and that's incompatible with seeing her with child in tow.

Yep, re-arrange. Also, tell your friend that she needs to have words with her partner who seems to be derailing the plans she makes with friends for his OWN social life. Sounds like she has a problem with him.

YANBU. Rearrange the meeting with your friend and enjoy your childfree afternoon.

YANBU l would do the same in your shoes.

Her DP needs to organise himself better and experience some natural consequences I.e. he cares for his child while your friend has plans

Yep, do it, you’ll help her to push back against her dp next time. Hes a twat.

Nooo, I wouldn’t be leaving my own children at home to have a day out with someone else’s. Only exception is a tiny baby who allows you to still have a conversation.

Definitely reschedule. If you don’t, I guarantee this will happen again. Hope you enjoy your childfree afternoon.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a 100% unanimous poll before.

Absolutely fine to reschedule. There is no way i am spending a rare child free afternoon with someone else's toddler.

Yanbu. I wouldn’t be leaving my child at home to spend all day with someone elses kid no chance.

I’d be saying ‘Well, this has been in the diary for weeks. Tell Nigel he’s going to have to take a rain check on darts either the lads.’

No way I’d trade a rare child free day to spend it with someone else’s child!!

Enjoy your peace…alone!!

This!! Never ever saw a unanimous result!!

It may be a MN first 😂

Because it's glaringly obvious the OP isn't BU.

If I’d specifically got child care for my own, I’m not spending it with someone else’s!!

This and just say sorry you can’t do a child free afternoon let’s reschedule it.

The kid goes with the father as he is the one that forgot.