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AIBU?

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Screaming Child (ASD)

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BlackBean2023 · 03/05/2026 16:08

I feel I ABU but honestly, it’s driving me potty.

we have neighbours who have moved in three doors away who have a child of about 7 who I believe is ASD. He loves being in the garden and jumping on his trampoline - if it’s not raining, he’s bouncing!

however he is also almost constantly stimming vocally and it sounds like a constant scream. I’m not exaggerating when I say constant. It’s stopping us enjoying our garden, I can’t work from home with the back doors open as it can be heard on a teams call it’s so loud.

I know there’s nothing I can do, and I should think of his parents, but I miss the quiet calm of my garden in the sunshine

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Leopardspota · 04/05/2026 13:07

Kirbert2 · 04/05/2026 13:04

It may very well be the only thing they've found works best at home. I'm sure if they had found something else that reduced the screaming, that's exactly what they would be doing as it isn't going to be pleasant for their ears either.

Depending on the size of their house, a mini trampoline is a good suggestion but I imagine the size needed for a 7 year old would involve having a good sized house with plenty of space and storage when they may already have other equipment such as a special needs buggy, other sensory equipment etc to have room for and store somewhere.

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But the trampoline doesn’t stop him screaming, as OP has said. He screams for hours.

This is as much as I can comment without knowing the child. It’s not appropriate to scream for hours in the garden, which is what OP was asking about, but without knowing the child we can’t really say much else about what’s going on.

Kirbert2 · 04/05/2026 13:28

Leopardspota · 04/05/2026 13:07

But the trampoline doesn’t stop him screaming, as OP has said. He screams for hours.

This is as much as I can comment without knowing the child. It’s not appropriate to scream for hours in the garden, which is what OP was asking about, but without knowing the child we can’t really say much else about what’s going on.

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I know the trampoline doesn't stop him from screaming. If he is non verbal, he may stim verbally like that if he's happy no matter what he does as long as he's feeling happy.

todayImstruggling · 04/05/2026 13:58

Regardless of whether or not this child can control the noise he makes it’s not acceptable for him to be being aloud to be outside making life miserable for their neighbours.
Having a child with disabilities is really tough nobody is going to deny that. But it doesn’t mean you can stop parenting or stop making attempts to teach them other ways of self soothing which have less impact on those around them.

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