To feel upset about post on local fb group

[Welshmum2010]

I live in a fairly small village where people are super nosey but I keep myself to myself. Recently I chose to participate in no mow may (I did start a bit early) where you don’t mow your lawn to encourage wild flowers and bees / butterflies. I have also build a small hedgehog shelter.

today some busybody from down my road has posted on the local fb group about people needing to mow their lawns short and not have any wood in the garden as unsightly and attracts pests and rats. Now I know this is aimed at me and I feel upset.

i don’t want to mow it but they’ve got all their cronies making comments as well. I’ve got a friend coming to mow the lawn now in a few days as I can’t face the drama. We can leave a few patches where the lovely wild flowers are.

Mow most of it and grow a proper little dedicated area. Pop a little sign up about pollinators

Why do you think it's only women's names used like this? Have you never heard anyone called a Dick before?

Is it just quite long with wildflowers and insects, or is it a mad tangled jungle with bins and a sofa marooned somewhere in it? If the latter, cut it because it will have rats in it. If the former, carry on. Your neighbour will probably stop thinking about it as soon as someone forgets to bring in their bin 30 seconds after it’s been emptied.

I’m tempted to put up a notice saying “Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty” on ours.

It is only the 3rd May so you’re not really doing no mow May you just didn’t mow your lawn for the whole of April. Maybe that is what is confusing.

Agree that it’s none of their business but you need to own it.

I think keeping wilder areas in the garden but the lawn tidy is a better idea.

Bit dramatic

This. Ffs stop doing this people. Particularly other women.

But decided to comment?

Your lawn, your choice. Do what you want with it and ignore them.

Her commenting isn’t a bad thing. The OP says she didn’t understand the problem with ‘Karen’ and now she does.

Please don't mow your lawn OP.

Ignore the Facebook moaners. They've clearly got nothing else going on in their lives!

We have piles of wood for insects and other wildlife in our garden and we get regular hedgehogs visiting now. We have lots of wildflowers and it's far more lovely to look at than a boring lawn. And much better for wildlife!

Rather than just having long grass why not put some ox eye daisies, knapweed and scabious through it? Looks less like you just haven't bothered to mow it then. It's difficult for a lot of wildflowers to get a hold if you have loads of long grass so you won;t necessarily get loads of wild flowers just because you don't mow it.
The other thing is to mow along the very front and mow a path through it, again it looks tidier that way and less like you just haven't mowed.

We had a problem with NDN mowing a short strip of our grass (all she could reach with her mower plugged into her socket).
We bought a couple of signs from the local farm shop 'Ignore the weeds we are feeding the bees' and similar. Now 3 or 4 yrs later all the houses in our street, including NDN, have a great crop of dandelions!

Clearly. Yes.

There are blue bells and snowdrops. It’s not messy at all. Yes it’s the same person who posts most weeks about cars parked on the road or bins

Why on earth would you care what a busybody moans about on Facebook?! If seeing this type of thing upsets you, just don't use Facebook or, if you have to use it, ignore comments? If you want to engage, post one counter to her post, explaining what you have in your original post, with a link to a reliable source for further information. No need to cut your lawn or get upset.

If you're going to be in the area group you need to be ready for kick offs!

There's always (at least) one local busybody who is constantly moaning about this and that.

Grow a spine and comment with a post about No Mow May and it's benefits and move the feck on.

Then maybe leave the group because you sounds too sensitive for it.

As a Welsh mum myself, I wasn’t even aware of the use of Karen as an insult.

OP grow a thicker skin or delete social media.

But you stopped to comment to show how superior you are 😂 bless your heart

I'd reply back encouraging people to participate in no now May, advising of the environmental benefits of doing so. Alternatively ignore them and carry on as you are, you are doing nothing wrong.

You bothered to comment. Lots of people bothered to help, so 🤷.

Not everyone holds on to mistakes.

If it makes you feel better, put a sign up saying 'excuse the weeds, we're feeding the bees' or 'this is an ark (act of restorative kindness)', ir similar. That way they know youre doing it deliberately and not just being lazy. You can buy them, or just paint one yourself (or your dc if you have them)

Then stand tall and ignkre them. Dont let your friend mow it, you're doing a good thing!

I'm really curious, what does being Wendied mean?

I'm very much in the ignore them camp op. I think I'd actually find it quite funny that they were getting so wound up about my garden to be honest! There's a wild flower garden near us and it looks amazing, maybe if you want to help wildlife but still have it look nice you could go mad with some wildflower seeds?