Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

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A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

"aggressively flammable"

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Oh god I’m totally with you OP. That dress is hideous. No one could be expected to express anything other than horror at that monstrosity!

Ive got dubious taste myself so I'll be charitable and say she might carry it off ok...

That dress is stunning, good on her she will look fab!

Says someone using an anonymous username to criticise OP and any posters who disagree with her. Hypocrisy lives.

It was a bizarre comment, wasn’t it? As if anyone on here ISN’T using an anonymous username! 😆

By the same token you are cyber bullying. So is everyone who posts something criticising their partner, MIL, boss, colleague, or random person they met. Do you get this worked up on every thread where that happens?

Oh dear just been reading some of the comments on here and my goodness it’s like being in a children’s playground.
Are you all really grown up parents?
Sounds like there are some very bored folk here looking for an argument.
The poster sounds very childish and what an awful friend coming onto a public forum to mock her friend.

I immediately thought of the doll-in-a-birthday-cake I made for my daughter many years ago, something like this:

Where?

This thread is hilarious. It actually reminds me of the nonsense dramas between my year 3 class. The amount of energy people have to find issues and be so invested if them being right and getting that acknowledgement is a bit tragic.

The dress is simply ugly. I would definitely have reacted to it with a grimace because that is humans nature. Friend is being too sensitive. She can like a dress which you hate and that's ok. I've been in both positions myself and never had a failing out over it.

That's a dreadful dress. It looks like a load of bin liners stuck together. Nobody could carry that off.

Tell her to bin it.

Missing the point but Karen Millen is still going?! I thought they vanished along with Jane Norman amd Miss Sixty.

Some of the stuff posters fawn over as being fashionable on the S&B board are truly awful.
But each to their own.

I suspect friend has woken up this morning, taken another look at the dress, and shrieked "What was I thinking?" And is probably feeling very grateful to OP for saving her from making a total tit of herself.

When I looked at it on the website even the model isn't showing her face wearing it 😬.

Why is she asking your opinion. She clearly likes it and has a different style to you. What does she need your permission for?

Do you know what is a good way to reduce people using food banks? 'The rich' paying a fair price for products and services so that people involved in the supply chain can be paid better money for their labour and output.

In principle I refuse to buy anything cheap as this encourages corner and cost cutting. I actively choose to pay higher prices to independent brands that don't mass produce in third world countries.

On the topic of the dress - surely the point of a good friend is saying 'hmmm I'm not sure I love it' and being honest. I wouldn't like to be friends with someone who won't tell me what they really think. And only after you no longer have that terrible boyfriend/ bad haircut/ lots of extra weight, tell you what they really thought.

😱. Its like a shiny loo roll cover, wonder if you look up her skirt there will be a spare andrex in there. 😆 🤣 😂

Glad I was sitting down when I read the full price, then it was reduced and that was still bad enough.
It reminds me of pink nappy sacks, I used for my kids. I could make one at a fraction of the price. Not that I would want to but put it on ebay for £400 and someone would buy it.😉

Ohh dear goodness thats an absolutely awful dress. I have met plenty of woman who can pull off dresses I never could but this is hideous. However each to there own. She will definitely stand out.

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It’s a horrible dress, you think it’s a horrible dress, you did nothing wrong in admitting you did not like it. I think the problem is in the way you worded your initial attempt to cover up quite how execrable you think the dress is, because, in that, you gave her the impression you have frequently hated her dresses this much but never been caught out in the lie before. Ignore the twats who think you should have pretended you liked it - they are the sort of “friends” who would let you walk around all day with your skirt tucked into your knickers, because they don’t want to be the bearers of bad news.

It certainly is. And yes, it’s definitely the sort of dress an ‘ugly sister’ would wear in a Cinderella pantomime.

A friend is allowed to disagree or differ in taste. Can't see what you've done wrong. Its not like you're making her wear something you like and she doesn't.