AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

Absolutely! I couldn’t agree more and I wish that parent fundraising didn’t have to happen. That was my point but I can see why I should have been clearer x

I’m so glad I never joined the PTA

I'm not overbearing at all actually. I am sticking up for myself because I am sitting here with aching feet after a thankless day raising money for other people's kids and people are saying nasty things about me and the people I volunteer with.

“We don’t look down on anyone. In fact, when deciding where the fund should go, it’s unanimous that they should help people who need it most, the SEN kids and the low income families”

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Sorry but to echo loads of other posters, wtf is mufti? Reminds me of muffs/fanny's

How does explaining politely that the PTA work hard and are all working parents not looking for glory make her overbearing?

There are no queen bees on ours. Nobody doing it for recognition or thinking themselves important. Nor is there any politics or cliqueyness going on.

It's exactly that, fannies.

We get the kids to dress as vulvas for the day to raise money for new books.

Because the PTA are all cunts.

I thought it was a posh people thing

Love this 🤣🤣🤣

But there's really no need to slag off volunteers who are just trying to do a good job. You wouldn't go into a food bank or a homeless shelter and slag their volunteers off and say they are all awful righteous hair-flippers. So why do it to us.

I agree. There are some small minded, bitter posters here tonight.

I have no skin in the game BTW as DD is an adult.

It's still in use in the army at all levels is my understanding. Not a class thing.

I don't mind if people miss things (there can be reasons why they don't seem to understand what's going on) but when they complain about it, like this person, that's annoying. Especially as all the people working so hard to organise the event might well also be dealing with a million things, yet they still prioritise the things others complain about.

I spent half of my childhood/school years in the south of England (this is in the 90s) and never heard the word "mufti", then we moved to the Midlands sort of area and everyone there said "mufti day" for non uniform day. I wonder if it's a regional thing?

I had to Google what mufti was.

Is this really what occupies your thoughts these days?? Do you have nothing else that you could put your energy towards?

Demanding that the children dress as female genitalia seems outrageously woke.

I’ve never heard of it (but I’m not in England).

It bothered me how many times she wrote the word “mufti”.

Good on her, if we could all live with such bliss.

The less emails, group chats, flyers, fucking carrier pigeons from the PTA carrying on about X, Y, Z moneymaking racket 'fun event' the better life would be.

Our version of this also adds "I wish someone had reminded me about this" . No read the bloody emails like everyone else has to.

A bottle of wine in exchange for non uniform seems ridiculously steep. It was always just a quid when mine were in primary.

I hope that she won't be ostracised for this. I have children, and was doing a full time university degree and worked as a peri when they were primary age and going onto secondary. I forgot things sometimes. Did my children suffer from it? I don't think so, and gained in so many ways. Who knows?

Occasionally I’ve known parents not to recieve the school emails, and if you don’t you don’t know your missing them, you don’t know what you are missing.

Mufti is a wartime term, I think, for wearing civilian dress, so not uniform

I do watch a lot of old black and white films, so probably heard it there.

You don't have to bring wine. It's a suggestion. Lots of people have dusty old bottles they don't want. I always hug far too much prosecco at Christmas as I don't know how much my family will want. I give it away at the school fayres because I don't drink it.

Failing that, people are generally happy to get rid of the odd teddy or a board game.

Or just give a quid if you want.

I've head of mufti before, but what is a "day"? Some sort of vegetable?

It's a very long, thin vegetable that the mean old PTA use to repeatedly shaft working mums.

Lol "mufti day" 😆 Sounds so odd, bleh, I've never heard it here in London and in the nearby areas. I guess you live somewhere in a distant town/village?

Sorry, bit as the PP have said, life gets busy, people have MH issues, people get easily overwhelmed with the 1000 emails and notifications....it's so strange that you've thought about this non issue so hard that it made you write a post 📫 😉