AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

Surely you could have used Google to work that out?

Surely you could have used Google to work that out

And others might prefer to just bring a few quiz to them and not go through the palaver

Well I was at school in the 80 and def was mufti.

Why has 75% of the thread gone to arguing about the bloody word mufti and not talking about the subject

The number of people asking what a mufti day is and the number of people taking the time to explain, even screenshotting answers from google... it's absolutely mind boggling.
Pander to the behaviour and people never learn to function by themselves.
Kind of explains the mentality of this parent that the OP was talking about. Half the posters on this are probably of the same mentality

I’ve read all of this thread that I need to.

Mufti day it has always been and always will be!

If my daughters school calls it ‘non uniform’ day, I shall be teaching her the correct term.

Also - everyone knows it’s the mums ‘job’ to keep on top of the school/nursery/house/appointment admin, not the dads - though I have no idea why it is this way. Just like mufti day - it just IS. So I’d be surprised by the mum forgetting too OP.

Why is not pc? I have never heard the term before so very ignorant.

I never joined the PTA either but MY FUCKING GOD, am I grateful they exist. Without them, the school would never be able to afford my son's disabled access, we would have had to attend a school 25 miles away and our lives as a family with a disabled child would be 10 times harder.

The PTA worked tirelessly to campaign for my little boy, got him everything he needed and more, while still carrying on with their general fundraising.

These are hard working volunteers, who rarely get a thanks and are often the but of jokes and nastiness, but they carry on and do fucking amazing jobs.

OP isn't coming across overbearing and a PITA at all. She's coming across as someone who is tired after a day helping to run an event she isn't getting paid for, isn't getting any money for, isn't getting any thanks for, who is now getting slagged off by strangers and having assumptions made about her, for the privledge.

But frankly, OP could probably admit she likes to spend her evenings kicking puppies when she's not on mumsnet, and I'll still be grateful PTAs and their amazing members exist.

I'm from London and moved to Yorkshire at 11. It was non uniform day in both places for me. Never heard of mufti until this thread 😂

But it's not everyone's idea of fun. I don't mind a school fayre but sone people would hate it. So bring " guilt tripped" and told it's fun and " for the kids" would be irritating

Doesn't make them lesser

Mufti
Fayre
Both new words to me. I feel old.

Well this is chat so?

Mufti has been in use for at least 50 years.

Fayre has been in use since the middle ages.

I guess it's an English thing, I have never encountered it before

Judging by our class WhatsApp group, half the parents have no idea whats happening most of the time. One asked today if school was open on monday (its a bank holiday). Someone else asked how you book clubs. They are in Y5 and it been the same site / process since reception. The other week someone asked if the all kids needed to wear costumes for the school show or 'only if they were participating'. Every single child in the year was participating. They all needed a costume. We'd had multiple letters about it including one saying exactly what costume your child needed. Of course this parent then asked what costume their child needed exactly. None of us can tell you, it would have been on your letter 😫

If you are aware you are echoing loads of other posters why the hell are you asking the question again? The question has been asked over and over (by people who clearly can't use google) and answered multiple times. So what is the point in you asking again? Baffling behaviour

Cannot believe the number of people who don’t know what a mufti day is or can’t be arsed to Google. You all sound like the mum in the OP’s post.

YANBU OP. She sounds a bit dim.

Because she wanted to be all edgy and funny by saying "fanny's"

Never ever heard of the term mufti. 🫪

I admit to being incredibly flakey, I’m trying to improve my noting every single appointment/important date in my phone but it’s definitely a work in progress.

If more people in life just completely ignored the idiots, they would soon learn to pay attention and grow a brain cell

I'm up North too and mufti day is a term that's been used here for 50 odd years! Everyone uses it and knows what it means.

Wow. A lack of British colonial knowledge isn't that a lack of general knowledge.

I miss things on the school app all the time, because… I never look at it. Or in DS school bag. I’m trying to improve this!

What? Fayre is literally an old English word.

“Fayre” enough if you’re not from the UK but if you are I can’t understand this.

Re mufti - is it a private school thing? It was always called this at my private school.

Agree. Too many people want someone else to be their brain for them.

When is this? can you remind me? can you book it for me? waaah no one told me! Oh they did? well, no one reminded me! Oh they did? well, they didn't do it for me.

Grow the fuck up.