It's a long one.
I had a fall out with my brother and his gf after some pretty bad behaviour from them.
My parents said they wanted nothing to do with it didn't want to know what happened. Fair enough.
But my mother kept making sly comments to me about things my brother was saying to her.
I asked her numerous times to stop, told her I was annoyed she obviously has listened to what he says yet won't hear wat I have to say.
After months my brother decided I could no longer see my nephew, I'd been ringing him once a week and taking him out monthly.
My mother delivered this news to me. She didn't feel it was unreasonable.
It finally came to a head a few months later when she told me my brother was annoyed I hadn't sent him a birthday card from my 7year old! My brother had not tried to keep any relationship with my child at all over the last year.
I told my mother than until her and my father would listen to what I had to say as they do with my brother I would not be contacting them. I told them all I want is a conversation with them.
A few months went by with no contact, they have completely ignored my 7year old who they spoke to daily and I brought to them 2times a week.
They turned up at my door unannounced after Christmas and handed my eldest son, 20, a bag of gifts. I contacted them and told them I would be returning the gifts to them. I told them to have a conversation with me, I explained I don't expect them to rake sides I just want them to listen, but I then I said they are welcome to come give my kids the gifts in person the way it should have been.
Nothing, no response.
My aunt passed away, I attended the funeral totally alone, my parents sat behind me and laughed with my brother and his girlfriend, completely ignored me.
I'm so hurt, more so for my kids, especially my 7 year old who was so close to my dad.
My dad has cancer he has gone through chemo and I know nothing about how he is or how my parents are coping.
AIBU for my behaviour, for wanting my parents to hear what I have to say
My brother has always been golden child, for example my parents bought me my house I paid every penny of it back to them, almost like a mortgage, while working PT and a single parent. My brother was bought a house that cost 3 times my house he works ft lives alone, never had to pay a penny back. They recently bought him a car, even though they constantly complained about his huge debts that he won't pay and his gambling habit.
I miss my parents but I can't continue to live the way I was