AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

[FrostedCandyAngel]

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

Or Violet Elizabeth Bott!

A friend sent me a birthday gift a few years ago, she got.my house number mixed up instead of 123 she sent it to 321. I went round and knocked 30 mins after I got the delivery notification.when I enquired if she had taken a parcel in my name she closed the door on me and came back with a dirty wrapper, a flattened box and my open gift in her hand! Not only had she opened it, she put it on fucking display! And put the box and wrapper in the bin. She had sug them.out covered in fucking bin juice! That was rude!

I’ll take parcels in for my neighbours but they have to collect them as I will assume they have been left a card telling them I have it.
In this instance I don’t understand why it wasn’t put through the letterbox of OP.
YABU 😣

Sounds like a massive misunderstanding here.

postie probably made a mistake and posted it to the wrong house

neighbour accepted the parcel thinking it needs to be handed over to a person and you’re not in. They’re thinking they did you a favour (they didn’t refuse the small package because most people prefer not to have to trek all the way to delivery unit to collect parcel or did not want to have the item returned to sender) bare in mind that neighbour has no idea of the package’s delivery service.

you thinking neighbour is rude for keeping your parcel cause you can see the info that they can’t.

I can see why you’re annoyed but I think it’s directed wrongly to your neighbour.

I don't understand why you keep repeating this....the parcel was tracked. You know this because you used the tracking to find it.

This means that the postie needed to record proof of delivery - so they couldn't just post it through your letterbox.

They likely would have knocked your door and then when you didn't answer they would have had three choices:

a) leave it in a 'safe place' and take a photo - they didn't do this, presumably because they could not identify a suitable 'safe' spot
b) take it back to the sorting office so that you could either collect or arrange redelivery and leave you a card
c) find a neighbour willing to take the parcel in for you - which they did, they may have even knocked on several doors to find someone who was in.

Yes, they made a mistake not leaving a card but FGS how obtuse do you have to be to keep banging on about it fitting through the letterbox when it was tracked, then have the temerity to accuse a neighbour who kindly took it in of being rude for not immediately delivering it to you🙄

Given it was tracked they may have thought it was important and didn't want to just pop it through your door so that they could make sure that you got it and couldn't accuse them of not delivering it

Yes!!!!

You’re very unreasonable . I do not read the address on every parcel passed to me at the door and I doubt that’s unusual .
It wasn’t only less than a day and a half , it was also at the weekend . Most people have lots to do , are often in and out the house and re delivering someone else’s parcel is unlikely a priority .
If it has been wrongly delivered to me , I may not have even noticed it wasn’t for me at that point .

She didn't know where it was.

I had this happen. It was quite a large bag of clothing worth about 200.

When it didn't turn up, I tracked it down (which was quite a task) to someone nearby and, when I turned up, they gave me a bollocking that it had been "taking up space" in their house the last few days and why didn't I come sooner. Took a lot of restraint not to ask if they were in fact disappointed they couldn't keep it, given it had my name and address clearly on it! So at least you didn't get snapped at for them not having told you!

I would have come and knocked on your door.
It’s 8 doors, not the far side of town.

We have post delivered to us occasionally for people who have the same address but different village. I always drop it over to them and they do the same. Sometimes postie delivers wrong mail in our Road. I just drop it to right address when out and about. To me this is the right thing to do .

They took your parcel in as a favour and you’re complaining that they didn’t say sorry for not bringing it round to you sooner? Entitled much?!

They did you a favour by taking it in and were extremely likely just waiting for you collect it. They were probably thinking you were rude and lazy for not collecting it sooner.

Completely baffling responses and poll result. Yep you'd expect a neighbour to do the decent thing and drop it over. Strange choice by the courier to hand deliver it several doors down. Hopefully it doesn't happen again OP.

Not very neighbourly. I would certainly have popped it through your letterbox without a second thought. Mrs Do As You Would Be Done By, that’s me,

Yes and no. Yes because you had no idea and it could have been urgent or a medical need or birthday present. No because its not their fault it was incorrectly delivered and we dont know what's going on in their world. They might have been ill, might be a carer and couldn't leave house etc or any variety of reasons they couldn't get it to you and correct a situation someone else caused. In order to respond one way or another given the limited info you have provided would mean making assumptions. I would say its the delivery company who were rude and incompetent and left two people in annoying set of circumstances.

How would they know that though? They will have thought you were left a card or email.

Take round some flowers and be kind to someone who kept your parcel safe.

And set up a neighbourhood WhatsApp group, we have one and it’s good for these types of issues.

My chinchilla cage was delivered to a neighbour and when I checked the tracking and found the house when I knocked on the door my cage had been built but because it was huge they put it in their muddy garden where the dog goes to do his business :( and it was rained on , they said they thought it was a gift!

Why? It's 8 doors down.
Unless they are literally housebound I'd say that was rude,.

The person who delivered it should have put it through your letterbox.
Since they did not they should have told you it had been delivered to a neighbour, with the address.
It's not the neighbour's fault that neither of these things happened.

Maybe they assumed you'd been left a card by the postie/courier, as that is what usually happens. As far as your neighbours knew, you weren't home!

Personally, I wouldn’t accept a parcel for another address unless it had been arranged for me to take do so in the event they weren’t at home.

Christ, what a lot of drama over nothing. From your thread title I thought they’d actually stolen it. As for the ridiculously OTT “They had my parcel for 30+ hours”, Kiefer Sutherland made less fuss about a ticking clock in 24.

Surely it’s a bit strange to leave a card through the correct houses door, but then leave the envelope 8 houses down. An envelope that did not require a signature and can fit in the same letterbox that the card was posted through.

You keep banging this drum. But you have massively overestimated your neighbour’s level of interest. They’re not sitting there trying to analyse your delivery man’s logic. Nobody is but you. They don’t care about your parcel.

Just be glad you found it and dial down the dramatics.

I wait a couple of days before taking parcels to the neighbours now, I’m not the postman and it’s not far for them to come. After two days I get annoyed and take them round. But after trying to give something to a neighbour I didn’t know about 5 times across a week when I saw his car on the drive, and then him not even saying thank you, I don’t rush round and I don’t accept parcels for random people unless the driver has just thrown it and run away

I am at home most of the time, so take parcels for basically all the surrounding houses, as the couriers know by now. I do that to be helpful and kind. If nobody collects within 48 hours or so I will try to drop it over, but I otherwise assume that they have a note and will ask for it. And 90% of the time that's what they do - with a smile and a thank-you.

Your courier let you down by failing to leave a card. Your neighbour was doing you a favour, as couriers always ask if you can take a parcel for house X, and they could just have refused. They do not owe you hand-delivery on top.

The rude one here is you.