AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

[FrostedCandyAngel]

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

Well you're wrong and honestly insane to think that the neighbours did anything wrong or have committed any sort of offence.
Stop being an entitled idiot and go collect your parcels yourself, your neighbours are not your personal delivery agents and the only lazy person is you

Sounds like a catalogue of errors. Frustrating!

Royal Mail can’t read, neighbour can’t read, owner had to be a detective and do everyone’s job for them. By all means complain, but what will it achieve now?

I had a delivery of bird seed 25kg delivered to a building site. How the Evri driver climbed the security fence and took the photo of the front door surrounded by bricks beats me! I recognised the door, stuff had gone missing there before. It’s a mile away.
Funny, searching like yourself, it was no longer there and the builders were like “not my problem”. I know now unlike before (old man lived there) I will never see my delivery if it goes there, it’s now a bedsit building.

I have resolved to either not order by post, unless there’s no option and expect it to go missing.

I now add What3Words to my address line, that appears to be working atm.

The courier or Royal Mail person is supposed to put a card through the door, telling you where your parcel has been left, @SouthernNights59 - “You were out, so your parcel” has been left at No23”

Sadly this doesn’t always happen, so in this case, the OP was thinking her parcel hadn’t arrived yet, while her neighbour who’d taken in the parcel was assuming that the courier had put the card through so @FrostedCandyAngel knew where her parcel was. The fault lies with the courier for not notifying the OP where her parcel was.

It's not the neighbours responsibility to recognise and then correct RMs mistake, if I'm busy, on my way out to work, about to walk the dog, serve dinner, have a wee...... you know just living my life, and get handed a parcel I might not even look at it straight away, to realise it's not mine, to then trot off down the street to the correct address. I mean what's the 'correct' timescale here? Am I allowed to eat my dinner first?

Once I realised, how am I supposed to know that the postie has made a mistake, rather than they've left it with me and posted a card through the door?

You're working on the assumption that the neighbour knew it was a misdelivery, and were being deliberately awkward about it, and they couldn't have possibly thought a case of left with a neighbour that's in with a card telling the owner where to collect when they get it, which isn't uncommon.

It's really unreasonable to expect someone else to drop everything immediately to redeliver, and unrealistic in real life to expect someone to be handed a parcel and to know immediately if it's a misdelivery or has been left with a neighbour that's in, and to expect someone else's mail to be their instant and only priority.

I work from home. Neighbours aware. Couriers etc aware. If I'm patient enough to put up with my work day being disrupted and taking your parcels in for you then that's my neighbourlyness done.

I'm NOT a delivery service. Come and pick up your parcel with a smile and a thank you.

Don't want to pick it up that's absolutely fine but please tell courier not to leave with me.

YABU

That’s the fault of your delivery company. 30h is nothing.

It was the next day. Maybe they were busy before then. You are really unreasonable

Maybe the Royal Mail should offer a Veruca Salt delivery service...

I don't entirely agree with that.

You don't have to accept a parcel for someone else, you CAN say no. And if you do, then there's an implicit duty of care. It's only fair that you try and get it to the intended recipient in a reasonable timeframe.

Not being unreasonable, but the neighbours might have been planning to put it through your letterbox when they were next out or going in your direction. The postman is the bad guy in this scenario.

Lol
We have people posting on Facebook saying "I've got a parcel for number 60. Are they on here?"
Well you know exactly where they are physically

Did you apologise for the inconvenience of your unwanted crap turning up at their house? Its not on them at all. They were disturbed by something that was being done on your behalf, I can't understand why you think they owe you an apology or are obliged to bring it to you.

You are being a drama queen OP

Personally I’d drop it at my neighbours. It’s so common for parcels to be wrongly delivered nowadays. But only when I got a chance, so it may well be a day or two later.
I thought that they had kept the parcel for themselves from the title, which they hadn’t.

Posted twice by accident

We get loads of parcels. Sometimes they are just chucked on the doorstep and sometimes the courier knocks. I definitely don’t check who they are for.

Did you write them a thank you note for looking after your delivery?

If not - you are the rude one!

this.

This is such a non problem OP

get a life. Honestly, havent you anything better to think about?

They may have had other things delivered at the same time or just chucked it on the side then later looked and realised but it was too late to pop round with it. Then the next day rolls around probably forgotten about tiny envelope on the side. Or keep looking at it 'I must drop that round', phone rings, kids start playing up, fire alarm goes off, just gets pushed to back of mind.

At least they gave it to you! Someone once accepted a parcel for me (flowers) and refused to hand it over when I went round to collect it (I could see the flowers in a vase in their living room from the front door).

Company it was ordered from were hopeless as were the courier company.

I never recommend that online florist or use them myself as a result.

May of just kept slipping there mind people are busy kids work etc .. with it being small easy to forget.
I don't take any packages in for anyone and they don't take mine .. don't like my next door neighbours 🤣😂

Don't listen to these rude responses! I know someone who kept any parcels misdelivered and if no-one claimed them they were very happy! Dodgy as f!!

It's not their problem. They took it in for you and would have expected you to collect it. Probably at some point they would have brought it along to you. How are they supposed to know when you get home? Do you think they're sitting watching for you, or that they're going to traipse up and down the street to catch you home? YABVU.

So because you are able bodied and have spare time, everyone else must be the same too? I would (a) have assumed it couldn’t be delivered (not every property has a letterbox); and (b) expected the delivery service to notify you, and for you to
collect. I have Parkinson’s and walking 8 doors down isn’t always doable. I’m not sending my autistic tweenager to do it either! When I was younger and not ill I’d have been working 14 hour days even at home and not had time, or been stuck with a baby I couldn’t leave the house with easily at all, so no, I’d not have been delivering it then, either.!