AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

[FrostedCandyAngel]

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

Which is probably exactly what the neighbours were thinking. They weren’t to know OP didn’t know where it was.

But how did the neighbour know this? If I take a parcel in for someone I assume the other person has been left a card telling them where the parcel was delivered to. I frequently get a card saying left at number 6 or left behind the gate etc. standard practice. How would the neighbour know that hadn’t happened.

Yes but that wasn’t their fault. The onus is always be on you to get it. Not their job!

F no of course it’s not rude ,
People have busy Lives and anyway it’s really not their responsibility to check the parcels handed to them which they may be expecting other parcels. It’s a responsibility of the delivery company for the love of God. Please don’t blame them.
This is the world gone mad in the last week I’ve had four parcels go to various people in my village it’s not their bloody problem.
It’s my problem because I ordered the goods and my problem is with a delivery company.
everything got much worse after Covid nobody gives a shit anymore and the drivers are paid so Little for their days work a couple of weeks ago someone working for me a woman as it happens in her van doing some repairs had a problem starting her van at the end of the day, Amazon driver turns up running down the driveway and he said oh what’s going on and we said oh got a flat battery these cables have just burst into flames and he went no no no I’ve got some bigger ones. Let me do this chatting to him in a day. He was doing 195 deliveries. This is not an an urban environment this is in the countryside. Completely impossible.
No wonder these drivers without a conscience throw parcels just wherever because they are stressed overworked underpaid and freaked out
The world‘s gone fucking mad we all need to change. It’s all bonkers.

I had a parcel delivered to a neighbour I'd had a massive row with, he was a vile drunk. His wife took the parcel who he'd left at home with dementia while he went to the local pub all afternoon. I knew from the photo where it was so went round when he was out. It was 2 really big heavy bags of cat food that were still in their porch. No way would he have told me or brought it round. She was a lovely lady he was one of the reasons I sold up and moved. But I felt it was up to me to go get it not them bring it.

They were probably waiting for you to come and get it. Normally you would get a note saying where they had left it. Complain to whoever delivered it, not the people who took it in for you.

You’re assuming they had the capacity to do this though.
when I worked from home, and took in what felt like every parcel on my street. I was working 13 hour NHS bed management and patient flow shifts. Raising my children, studying for my degree course - and I’m disabled.
it’s not as simple as just walking 20 seconds down the road for some people.
i couldn’t leave my computer during the work day to drop off
i suffwr with a cognitive impairment that means on my non working days i would forget entirely
It would take me days to recover from working, as it didn’t work with my disability
I was out of work long hours to study
if i waited until after my toddler was in bed or I’d finished work it felt inconveniently late to drop off parcels and if I did it on my way out in the morning it felt prohibitively early.
I did go round to all the houses at first, but to be honest I’d do it half a dozen times and no one would be in I waited for people to collect at their convenience

Wow
It was posted through some random door
The delivery person is completely at fault unless it was incorrectly addressed . How the flying F was the lady supposed to know which door it had gone through without the delivery person informing her .
No card because it was shoved through the wrong letterbox . Had this done to me several times . We have a messenger with many neighbours linked so we do ask on there when things go wrong .
I am sorry people haven't bothered to read your post I would have been pissed but not at the people where it was delivered. Not sure they even gave a thought about it being shoved through their door. It just didn't occur to them you had no idea where it went . Glad you found it
One delivery photo I had was a gap through fingers and green light showing through. You couldn't see anything . Never did find that one

Wow
It was posted through some random door
The delivery person is completely at fault unless it was incorrectly addressed .

The thing is, it wasn’t even posted through their door.

I’m assuming the “neighbour” was already in his front garden when the postie arrived. As the photo on the delivery confirmation shows the postie handing over the parcel to another man, as on the photo you can see my parcel (with my full correct address on) and then the man’s jeans and shoes stood on his driveway.

I don’t know the guy, but he was in his late 20’s/early 30’s. Him and another person were sat in the lounge watching TV when I knocked on their door. (Could see clearly through the window).

Obviously I don’t know their circumstances, absolutely they may have disabilities and could be unable to walk down the road.

However, I was just annoyed - more at Royal Mail for being careless. And at the “neighbour” for not looking at the package and saying “Oh actual mate! This is the wrong house, number 60 is further down”. It could have been rectified in seconds but I had to search up and down the road.

Anyway, happy to be called unreasonable! Cheers all.

It sort of is a neighbour or a local person if you want to split hairs.There may not have been answers from the other houses so that may have been the only option.I don’t expect someone to take my parcel in and then bring it to my house,like so many are saying they probably assumed OP had a note from delivery driver.

Then your argument is with the delivery firm who should have left you a card saying where it was.

Bloody hell what other jobs do you think people should donate their time and effort to unpaid? The only person being paid to get the parcel to its destination is the original courier. No one else has any obligation to move a muscle. The neighbour owes OP nothing.

I lived in apartment blocks, all different names. A couple received 2 of my parcels (same door number) and kept them for 5 days. They notified the concierge who had to call me and tell me to collect. I’d not received a delivery note or anything. They knew where I lived but sat with them for 5 days whilst I was chasing the parcels around. Consideration would have been to knock on my door but they complained to concierge that I’d not been to collect..when I didn’t even know they were there!

So they're supposed to come knocking on your door every few hours until you're available to receive the parcel?

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all, I live in Northern Ireland and people tend to be different here. I was getting off a bus one day and one of my neighbours was walking past and started waving at me -'I've got your parcel from this morning, I'm going to the shop now but I'll bring it straight over when I get back.' Kinda depressing that elsewhere in the Uk neighbours are unfriendly unhelpful bastards who hold on to a parcel for a day and a half.

You are being entitled , they where not rude , they don’t work for you .

It is illegal for the person who erroneously recieves a missdelivered parcel to keep hold of it.

My idiot nieghbours do this all the time.

We work from home and as such used to get SO many parcels through for my old neighbour, especially at Christmas time. Once I had 4 parcels waiting for a neighbour, all delivered separately on the same day.

I haven't the time to be nipping out every few hours to drop something off. I will do if I'm going out anyway but otherwise they can come to me.

On the flip side, the same neighbour took in a parcel for us despite delivery instructions saying to leave in front porch if out (I was in the shower) and then went away for the weekend! It was something I'd paid extra for next day delivery. I was so annoyed 😆

They've moved now, I'm not sad about it.

sat morning to sunday evening is nothing, you don't know what they could have had on.

No. No knocking involved. They could have just simply posted it through my letter box.

Agh, one of those threads where the op is unreasonable, is told they are unreasonable, then only becomes increasingly unreasonable in their attempts to prove how totally chilled out and normal they are. It’s been a hot minute.

How terrible of these neighbours to not take up their time in delivering your parcel to you after they so kindly took it in for you.
aTotally understand your frustration….Not!
You got your parcel do job done.

No probably not rude. The delivery person may have told them that he'd put a card through your door with the info. I think that that's what they usually do?

I didn’t get a card through my door though.

If the postie was able to post a card through my door, he/she would have been able to post the enveloped parcel through my door.

If i take a neighbours parcel Im doing them a favour securing it and ensuring its not abandoned somewhere it could be stolen or rained on or returned to a depo. My house will be closer for the person

That doesnt make me their postman.

Id expect the postie to leave them a note and they can retrieve it at their pleasure. I wouldnt think it was my job to reunite the parcel and my neighbour YABU

Thats posties fault not the neighbours

How's the neighbour meant to know you didnt get a card or why postie didnt post it