Babysitting and the parents have just called me drunk…

[ffsisthisreal]

45 minutes after they were meant to be home, steaming, from a club.

I can see this being a 2/3am job. I’ve got plans tomorrow and they’re family, so I do this for free.

AIBU to be raging?

I did say IF she thinks they’re at risk.

There’s drunk and there is drunk.

I - also middle class professional - do drink and have been drunk when responsible for my kids…but never more than I knew I could snap back sober enough if there was an emergency to deal with.

and it’s a little ridiculous to say “oh for crying out loud”…no-one I know would in their right mind leave the house if there was any inkling the parents couldn’t care for the kids.

But that is an assessment only the OP can make.

At this point I don’t think they’d really care, they sounded too far gone on the phone to really give a shit.

Are you on the phone now?
what’s your plan?
tell them police have arrived as someone had stolen their car off the drive and they need to get home !
or such like lol
im getting second hand pisstake anger now I think lol !!!

you need to call them now

Keep pressing the redial button if you have to

Do you know what the closing time is of where they've gone? It's only 1130 now. If they can be home by quarter past midnight, you'll get home considerably earlier than you will do if they get home at 3:30 or 4! I would have told them that as soon as you spoke to them.

I mean, they might do a Beyoncé and Lady Gaga on you and just switch the phone off

but you should at least try

If it’s where I think they are, it’s 3am 🙃 they won’t come home. I wish they were the type of people who would, but they really won’t.

If you feel that strongly and find yourself in that position it’s a 101 call to police and the out of hours Emergency Duty Team within Children’s Social Care
(I’m a social worker)
You are under absolutely no obligation to look after someone’s else’s kids if they are shit faced

Did you agree with them that they would be home by a certain time? Or do they think that you will babysit for as long as they decide to stay out?

Go home. Call the police and leave it with them.

We agreed 10:30-11 ish

Go to sleep in their bed until they get home. Then when they are sober, charge them for it & obviously never babysit for them again.

I’d not do that to them, it’ll ruin their lives. Plus I think being hanging and taking the kids to junior parkrun at 9am might be punishment enough

Whilst it’s shit today they have done you a massive favour
you can fully justify why you won’t do it again when they ask you

Terrible advice, OP could get in serious trouble leaving children alone.

Don't be ridiculous.

I'd text them saying that they have until midnight to get home, and if they are not there by then you are going to sleep in their bed and you expect them to take the sofa. It's totally out of order asking you to babysit until 10.30pm and then heading to a nightclub!

They called at 11:10 to say one more drink.

It’s now 11:50, bets on when they’ll be back?

1.20am

They’re on the way home!!!! Thank the Lord because I’ve been watching the most convicted Netflix show ever and it’s not really made sense

Tell them the house is on fire.

Tell them you're not OK to carry on babysitting, they need to come home immediately, and if they do not do so you will report them to social services for abandoning their children.

If you genuinely think that they won’t be home until the early hours go and make up a bed for yourself - if there is no spare room, one of the kids rooms would be your best option as you’ll get woken up when the patents get home if you chose their room or the sofa. Leave early in the morning when you know the parents have returned. If they are hungover, tough - they need to deal with the kids regardless. Don’t babysit for them again.

1.05 (I'm being optimistic!)

I'm not victim blaming - they’re awful - but why didn’t you say No when they said we’re staying out for another drink?

So many of us need to find our voices… we’re socialised to have a terror of being disliked or having others cross with us and it fucks us on a daily basis.

Oops, cross posted. Glad they're on their way.