To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

Ya think?😅

I've been called some things in my life but 'low status' is a first, not sure whether to be insulted or proud. 😊

in my world people don’t act so petty, just cos the husband has wrongly gone for a night out and acted like a complete chump does not justify

changing locks (esp if you own jointly)
getting his mother to collect him
pouring bleach on him (WTF)
go out for the day & leave baby with MIL - who we have determined is an absolute tool & deffo should not be left with the children
take videos and post them on facebook/send to mother
lock him out - which could have led to him banging on doors & neighbours calling the police
destory/hide the passport - this is controlling & abusive, if he doesn’t want to be with his family, whilst its very sad, you can’t make someone be there

as someone else said in my real world I act with a level of decorum & not petty tit for tat, abuse, or general low life jeremy kyle shit

yes he has been a dick but she has just had her second baby with him, they live together, are adults and should be able to act as such

My husband never behaved like this so maybe I am just lucky I found a decent man, they appear in short supply

Not even the day after. The very same day she left the hospital.

Those that say their fathers took off think their dysfunctional upbringing was normal so castigate those with higher standards than them, to make themselves feel better.

Where was he til 9.15am?! That’s unforgivable especially if drugs too and vomit around a newborn and 3 years old. You’re better off rid of him I’m afraid to say. His family sound like scum bags too!

Apologies - I voted YABU by accident. You absolutely are NOT being unreasonable.

Thank you

How would he know it was her who did it. Doesn't sound like hes in a state to remember anything

Oh, that makes it alright then! 🙄
FFS

Yes, do this. He deserves shaming! It's the least he deserves.

sounds to me like a silly little boy who isn't actually emotionally mature enough to be married or a parent of one child, never mind two.

OP.. get rid of him.

My ExH was an absolute cunt to me, but he was never a left me home alone with a newborn, rolling in drunk at 9am, vomiting on my carpet & passing out sort of a cunt.

You have a special level of cunt there.

Drugs?! Are we just making stuff up now 😕

OP herself said she wondered if he'd taken drugs because of the state he is in. so no, no-one is making stuff up.

I actually wouldn't mention id found them and i would just take them.

he doesnt like you. Dont waste your life with him.

I would LTB, and I never really say that, plus I would hide his passport.

There HAS to be a huge back story here, surely?

You can undo your wrong vote by clicking on the right one, you know. For some reason not a lot of people on Mumsnet know this, or have tried.

don't troll hunt, if you don't believe it, report it and leave the thread.

Well that all moved on quickly.

Don't be ridiculous. You could blind someone, and it isn't even funny to jest about.

Some of the suggestions are just mad. Don’t assault him and keep things off of social media

I said yesterday, early on in this thread, that I felt it ill advised to start telling OP that she should consider divorcing DH given that she had just given birth. I retract. Divorce the bastard.

That’s unhinged

He has probably always been selfish but op didnt notice until she had to be completely selfless as she became default parent.