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Using mobile phone when driving

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40andnotsofabulous · 25/04/2026 19:18

Hoping I can get some advice. I received letter this morning asking me to confirm if I was driver earlier this week on set road at set time as I had apparently been using my mobile phone.

It was definitely me driving and I was on phone at that time- checked records and I was on a works teams call. However, my phone set up is blue tooth to come through car, and as it was a phone call I can’t see why I would have been touching my phone at all (it sits in the central bit of car). I don’t play with phone in car, but even still I have double-checked messages etc and as I expected there is nothing sent. Am a bit confused- unless I literally moved the phone, but even the am not sure why I would.

The letter doesn’t give other details or say what the evidence is. I don’t want to dispute if it’s true, but I also don’t want to say I am guilty without checking it.

has anyone been in this situation? Do they send the photo or evidence after you confirm you are driver?

Posting in AIBU for traffic. Fully appreciate if using phone while driving then it is unreaonable behaviour and so makes sense to get the fine, but this is not what I am disputing! Thanks in advance.

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JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 16:27

There has been a lot of useful fact on this thread plus I am pleased to see that some posters have told there employers that they will not use their phones when driving. Also of course some employers have said that there is to be no phone use when driving, even hand held.

The original offence was 'not being in proper control of a motor vehicle' ie eating a croissant but making using a phone a specific offence means its much simpler to prove.

Now pardon my French BUT it seems to me that if you dont realise that you cant have a phone call let alone a teams meeting and drive at the same time then there is something wrong with you - call it 'car brain' and you are not 'fit and proper' to hold a driving licence. If nothing else you should disqualify yourself.

LetsBeWellBehaved · 28/04/2026 16:38

Ineffable23 · 28/04/2026 10:40

This is what I thought. I'm pretty sure you're allowed to touch the phone but not to hold the phone. A strange distinction maybe but I'm pretty sure it does exist in the law.

It does, from watching CyclingMikey. Touching in a holder is only illegal if it distracts you and causes you to act dangerously.

Holding in hand or lap is always illegal.

40andnotsofabulous · 28/04/2026 20:08

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 16:27

There has been a lot of useful fact on this thread plus I am pleased to see that some posters have told there employers that they will not use their phones when driving. Also of course some employers have said that there is to be no phone use when driving, even hand held.

The original offence was 'not being in proper control of a motor vehicle' ie eating a croissant but making using a phone a specific offence means its much simpler to prove.

Now pardon my French BUT it seems to me that if you dont realise that you cant have a phone call let alone a teams meeting and drive at the same time then there is something wrong with you - call it 'car brain' and you are not 'fit and proper' to hold a driving licence. If nothing else you should disqualify yourself.

So I should disqualify myself for taking a phone call through car system that is legal 😂

While I completely understand some peoples views on taking phone calls, these calls (including teams) are legal- that’s the law, not my opinion.

what a weird comment!

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GinaandGin · 28/04/2026 20:09

loislovesstewie · 28/04/2026 10:52

I refused to do this ages ago. I advised my manager that I would not answer my work mobile while I was driving. I said I would pull over when it was safe to do so,but it would be best to text if urgent. And then wait for me. Shortly afterwards policy was changed, we were told that safety was paramount and management would have to accept they weren't that important. So hands free was not allowed either.

This
I am a district nurse and I've had colleagues and managers moan at me because I will not answer my phone whilst driving.
The trust do nor provide hands free for safety reasons ... I don't accept the ... what if it's an emergency line.
(They'd need to phone 999 then... sense of urgency isn't an emergency if not).
There was a senior nurse near where I live who killed a young father in the summer of 2020 because she was gabbing on the phone and misjudged a junction.
Tragic for everyone
She didn't get jail because "the "urgent " call was about ppe" and it was during covid
Sadly the trust didn't learn from it
They could have implemented safety driving for work policies

40andnotsofabulous · 28/04/2026 20:11

I love the comment on kids though as I fully agree. I happily take calls, but actually find the most distracting is having my kids in car. The constant bickering, singing, ‘mummy, mummy, mummy’

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Witchonenowbob · 28/04/2026 20:23

marsbarslice · 26/04/2026 15:12

I think the difference with talking to a passenger in the car is that you can easily stop the conversation to concentrate on the road - that's not so easy when you're on the phone in a meeting or whatever and are trying to be fully present in two places at once.

You just stop taking in any of those situations, one is not more or less difficult.

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 20:31

40andnotsofabulous · 28/04/2026 20:08

So I should disqualify myself for taking a phone call through car system that is legal 😂

While I completely understand some peoples views on taking phone calls, these calls (including teams) are legal- that’s the law, not my opinion.

what a weird comment!

There are a lot of roads where you can do 60mph quite legally but its pretty obviously extremely dangerous you may well kill yourself and/or somebody else in the process.

Hands free phone ditto

I really think that you need to look very hard at what happened and some of the facts that have been put on this thread then think about your phone use

40andnotsofabulous · 28/04/2026 20:43

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 20:31

There are a lot of roads where you can do 60mph quite legally but its pretty obviously extremely dangerous you may well kill yourself and/or somebody else in the process.

Hands free phone ditto

I really think that you need to look very hard at what happened and some of the facts that have been put on this thread then think about your phone use

Sure - me having a hands free call is exactly the same :)

while I think there has been a lot of useful information and thoughts, my ask was about the law.

I can happily give my (biased) opinions on drinking and what I think is right/wrong, but at end of day it’s the law that matters.

Think you may also be a bit biased given your very strong views on this one…. Suggesting I am not fit to drive!

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Witchonenowbob · 28/04/2026 20:51

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 16:27

There has been a lot of useful fact on this thread plus I am pleased to see that some posters have told there employers that they will not use their phones when driving. Also of course some employers have said that there is to be no phone use when driving, even hand held.

The original offence was 'not being in proper control of a motor vehicle' ie eating a croissant but making using a phone a specific offence means its much simpler to prove.

Now pardon my French BUT it seems to me that if you dont realise that you cant have a phone call let alone a teams meeting and drive at the same time then there is something wrong with you - call it 'car brain' and you are not 'fit and proper' to hold a driving licence. If nothing else you should disqualify yourself.

You can have a phone call when driving, I’m not sure it’s OP that’s got something wrong with her.

tigger1001 · 28/04/2026 21:28

40andnotsofabulous · 28/04/2026 20:08

So I should disqualify myself for taking a phone call through car system that is legal 😂

While I completely understand some peoples views on taking phone calls, these calls (including teams) are legal- that’s the law, not my opinion.

what a weird comment!

If you cause an accident though because you were on a teams call you can still get charged with dangerous driving

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 21:54

tigger1001 · 28/04/2026 21:28

If you cause an accident though because you were on a teams call you can still get charged with dangerous driving

Exactly!

cupfinalchaos · 28/04/2026 22:43

This is what I think is ridiculous.. my car has CarPlay with a large screen. Legally I’m allowed to scroll through songs/playlists on that screen whilst driving (not that I do), but if I did that on another screen (my phone) that would be illegal.

Elbowpatch · 28/04/2026 23:10

cupfinalchaos · 28/04/2026 22:43

This is what I think is ridiculous.. my car has CarPlay with a large screen. Legally I’m allowed to scroll through songs/playlists on that screen whilst driving (not that I do), but if I did that on another screen (my phone) that would be illegal.

You can do the same on your phone if it is fixed into a holder. It isn’t illegal.

You could be prosecuted for using either if it causes you to drive carelessly or dangerously.

Dbank · 28/04/2026 23:45

cupfinalchaos · 28/04/2026 22:43

This is what I think is ridiculous.. my car has CarPlay with a large screen. Legally I’m allowed to scroll through songs/playlists on that screen whilst driving (not that I do), but if I did that on another screen (my phone) that would be illegal.

The offence is HOLDING and USING.

You're permitted to touch a phone provided it's in a holder and you're not distracted etc.

CharlieRight · 29/04/2026 02:20

Mischance · 26/04/2026 14:25

Interesting ... if talking hands free is so dangerous, how does talking to a passenger rate I wonder?

I have missed junctions and turnings numerous times while chatting away happily. So its definitely a factor, but on the other hand someone in the car should know when you need to concentrate and will probably shut up whereas someone on the other end of a phone may not.

likelysuspect · 29/04/2026 05:18

cupfinalchaos · 28/04/2026 22:43

This is what I think is ridiculous.. my car has CarPlay with a large screen. Legally I’m allowed to scroll through songs/playlists on that screen whilst driving (not that I do), but if I did that on another screen (my phone) that would be illegal.

If you get distracted doing that on either, they're both legal by the definition, and you cause an accident it will be 'driving without due care and attention' or whatever the phrase is and you could be prosecuted

I never touch my sat nat while driving either, its built into the car

FoxRedPuppy · 29/04/2026 06:52

it really annoys me that all my car controls are now touchscreen. Even of if I want to turn the blower on the clear the windscreen, which itself is a safety issue. It’s much harder to do and requires me to look at the touchscreen console.

As to the teams meetings, I usually only do it for meetings I need to listen to, but not concentrate, so it isn’t much different to me listening to a podcast. I’ve missed turnoffs when listening to those! I’ve actually missed things from daydreaming too and going on autopilot.

Tillow4ever · 29/04/2026 07:04

JohnofWessex · 28/04/2026 20:31

There are a lot of roads where you can do 60mph quite legally but its pretty obviously extremely dangerous you may well kill yourself and/or somebody else in the process.

Hands free phone ditto

I really think that you need to look very hard at what happened and some of the facts that have been put on this thread then think about your phone use

What do you mean she should “look at what has happened”? Literally nothing has happened. She wasn’t involved in an accident, she hasn’t been accused of dangerous or careless driving. She’s been asked to confirm who was driving the car.

I personally choose not to take phone calls in the car unless I can safely pull over. But I don’t see that the OP has done anything wrong here. Whether the law should be a total ban is not what is being discussed.

I can only assume you or someone you know was injured or killed by someone using a phone whilst driving, given the strength of your feelings. Or maybe you killed someone because you were using a phone and were distracted. Whatever it is, I’m sorry it happened to you. But your energy would be better spent petitioning for a complete ban, if that’s what you think is necessary. Not berating someone and telling her to disqualify herself for driving within the confines of the law.

JacquesHarlow · 29/04/2026 07:06

Video and screen share have to be activated and I don’t that when driving

What do you mean by this @40andnotsofabulous ?

JohnofWessex · 29/04/2026 07:08

Tillow4ever · 29/04/2026 07:04

What do you mean she should “look at what has happened”? Literally nothing has happened. She wasn’t involved in an accident, she hasn’t been accused of dangerous or careless driving. She’s been asked to confirm who was driving the car.

I personally choose not to take phone calls in the car unless I can safely pull over. But I don’t see that the OP has done anything wrong here. Whether the law should be a total ban is not what is being discussed.

I can only assume you or someone you know was injured or killed by someone using a phone whilst driving, given the strength of your feelings. Or maybe you killed someone because you were using a phone and were distracted. Whatever it is, I’m sorry it happened to you. But your energy would be better spent petitioning for a complete ban, if that’s what you think is necessary. Not berating someone and telling her to disqualify herself for driving within the confines of the law.

What happened is that the OP is potentially facing prosecution, 6 points and a fine.

hereforthelolz · 29/04/2026 07:18

CharlieRight · 29/04/2026 02:20

I have missed junctions and turnings numerous times while chatting away happily. So its definitely a factor, but on the other hand someone in the car should know when you need to concentrate and will probably shut up whereas someone on the other end of a phone may not.

I’ve found my children playing up in the car to be the biggest distraction!

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 29/04/2026 07:25

likelysuspect · 25/04/2026 19:26

You wont remember every little touch of the phone, perhaps it went wonky and you straightened it, perhaps you wanted a different screen on if you were using it as a sat nav so tapped it, could be any number of things

I refuse to use a phone in the car, dont have blue tooth, dont have hands free. Dont use it as sat nav

If it’s in a hands free cradle these things are all allowed. You’re not allowed to hold and use a phone, but you can use it “hands free”.

JacquesHarlow · 29/04/2026 07:28

In the letter to you @40andnotsofabulous does it provide photographic evidence of your alleged misdemeanour?

Witchonenowbob · 29/04/2026 09:47

JohnofWessex · 29/04/2026 07:08

What happened is that the OP is potentially facing prosecution, 6 points and a fine.

Only in your world……which seems to be triggered by perfectly legal practises.

FoxRedPuppy · 29/04/2026 18:57

JacquesHarlow · 29/04/2026 07:06

Video and screen share have to be activated and I don’t that when driving

What do you mean by this @40andnotsofabulous ?

You can join Teams calls just as a phone call. No video, so it’s like a normal call.