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Using mobile phone when driving

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40andnotsofabulous · 25/04/2026 19:18

Hoping I can get some advice. I received letter this morning asking me to confirm if I was driver earlier this week on set road at set time as I had apparently been using my mobile phone.

It was definitely me driving and I was on phone at that time- checked records and I was on a works teams call. However, my phone set up is blue tooth to come through car, and as it was a phone call I can’t see why I would have been touching my phone at all (it sits in the central bit of car). I don’t play with phone in car, but even still I have double-checked messages etc and as I expected there is nothing sent. Am a bit confused- unless I literally moved the phone, but even the am not sure why I would.

The letter doesn’t give other details or say what the evidence is. I don’t want to dispute if it’s true, but I also don’t want to say I am guilty without checking it.

has anyone been in this situation? Do they send the photo or evidence after you confirm you are driver?

Posting in AIBU for traffic. Fully appreciate if using phone while driving then it is unreaonable behaviour and so makes sense to get the fine, but this is not what I am disputing! Thanks in advance.

OP posts:
Mischance · Yesterday 14:25

Interesting ... if talking hands free is so dangerous, how does talking to a passenger rate I wonder?

Isobel201 · Yesterday 15:08

Atoxicsewerofhate · 25/04/2026 20:15

I think most people don't take long personal calls either

I don't either. If its really important I'll answer and ask for a call back another day or time, but if its not important, I won't answer.

marsbarslice · Yesterday 15:12

Mischance · Yesterday 14:25

Interesting ... if talking hands free is so dangerous, how does talking to a passenger rate I wonder?

I think the difference with talking to a passenger in the car is that you can easily stop the conversation to concentrate on the road - that's not so easy when you're on the phone in a meeting or whatever and are trying to be fully present in two places at once.

LlynTegid · Yesterday 15:13

40andnotsofabulous · 25/04/2026 20:08

Normal call- no different to usual phone call. Video and screen share have to be activated and I don’t that when driving, I just press accept on my steering wheel and then drive and talk.

To the person saying not to take calls when driving, that’s very difficult to avoid when I also have duties as a parent for school drop off and I work different time zones. It’s very common for people to be on calls during commutes

So you have an employer that has little regard for family life. And not much for road safety.

notatinydancer · Yesterday 15:31

You shouldn’t do Teams meetings whilst driving. How can you concentrate on either properly?

Elbowpatch · Yesterday 15:51

Mischance · Yesterday 14:25

Interesting ... if talking hands free is so dangerous, how does talking to a passenger rate I wonder?

”Using any phone while driving is dangerous - driving is a highly complex task requiring a person’s full attention, as any error can be catastrophic. Drivers who talk on phones, both hands-free and hand-held, are four times more likely to be in a crash resulting in injuries, and researchers have found a correlation between phone use and culpability in crashes.”

“It has been argued that talking on a phone is no different to talking to a passenger. However, research has found drivers talking to passengers are less at risk than drivers on phones; it is theorised by researchers that conversations with passengers are modulated because both the driver and passengers can see what is happening on the road.”

https://www.brake.org.uk/get-involved/take-action/mybrake/knowledge-centre/mobile-phone-use

Mobile phone use while driving

Mobile phone use while driving | Brake

Find out more about the dangers of using a phone behind the wheel

https://www.brake.org.uk/get-involved/take-action/mybrake/knowledge-centre/mobile-phone-use

likelysuspect · Yesterday 15:56

Yes theres something different about the way your brain works from when you're talking on a device, to when you're talking to a person next to you

Although I thought I also read that kids in the car are a major risk as well.

FoxRedPuppy · Yesterday 21:16

Loads of people I know do long personal calls while driving. One of my friends always phones when driving home from work. I’m like her personal podcast 😂

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