To ask to bring my Partner to a Wedding

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My cousins daughter is getting married in June. Myself my sibling and cousins are all invited to the Wedding. I am the only one Divorced but have been with my partner 7 months. Every other family member will be going as a couple would it be too cheeky to ask if I can bring my partner .

Definitely don’t ask. Sorry but even if they were inviting partners, 7 months is not a long term and established relationship, they’re a boy/girlfriend.

I wouldn’t have invited them in the same situation unless there’s some backstory of they all know them and you’re all super close etc.

I have never seen "plus one" on a British wedding invitation - as opposed to a named invite for a known long term partner. I thought it was just an American sitcom thing!

Is this my friends being weird?

I don’t understand why people expect an invitation for any random they happen to be seeing at the time.

Having people you don’t really know at your wedding is weird.

Presumably if they wanted him there they would have invited him/given you a plus one. You haven’t been together very long so I wouldn’t ask.

Ok to ask. Not ok to be a dick if the answer is no.

Has the bride met your partner? 7mo is nothing. We had a no ring no bring policy at ours unless we had met the partner several times

My DS was living with someone and together for a few years. Their partner wasn't invited to a wedding.

Definitely don’t ask. If they wanted you to bring a +1 it would have been made clear in the invitation.

7 months in a relationship is a really short time. Weddings can be incredibly expensive. It’s absolutely reasonable for the bride and groom only to invite people they’re close too and know well.

Absolutely no harm in asking OP and can totally see why you wouldn't want to be the only one without your partner. Just word it in a way that you understand either way. The evening bit is a good idea if that's doable.

The problem is that each guest can cost £200 now. I found it difficult to invite partners I didn't really know when every 5 is another grand. There's also venues with number limits and sometimes couple don't want huge disparity between numbers. E.g I had way more family than my husband, so we let his friends have plus ones but I didn't give as many of mine them.

If you ask they can also bare you in mind in case there's any last minute drop outs due to illness etc too.

Has he met any of them?

I done a couple of plus 1s on my invites for childhood/longer known friends who I was unsure of still seeing Brian, Gary etc or if i knew they wouldnt know many people

Thanks for all the responses.will just go on my own.

Exactly this

My friend was single but we gave her a plus one invite in case she wanted to bring another friend or her daughter she decided to come on her own so I made sure to seat her with another friend of mine I knew she’d get on with and gave the heads up to several other of my guests to keep an eye out for her so she wasn’t on her own. I find it quite bizarre to expect people to attend a wedding on their own!