To be worried about my 22 year old dating a 30 year old

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22 dd is dating a 30 year old in (late July) man currently

It's perfectly reasonable. They're both adults. Once you're over 20 you should be able to date people of any age above. I agree if it's teens and people decades older it seems dodgy but this isn't that.

Ah yes, because a 22 yr old and a 29yr old (pretty standard 7 year age gap) grown adults are exactly comparable to a 16yr old teenager and a 30 year old partner......

Oh no wait, one involves a literal teen and the age gap is double 🙄

You've just reinvented the OPs dilemma completely

22 and 29 is not too bad. Maybe if he is a divorced single father of 3 but if they're both single and childless then it is not red flag age gap.

In which case she’d have a problem whether her partner was 18, 22, 25 or 40.

My husband is 8 years older than me. We've been together for more than 40 years.
No imbalance in the relationship!
It's the personality, not the age.

This.

I met my DH when I was 23 and he was 30. We’ve been together for 15 years. I don’t think that age gap is that unusual, surely? It’s similar to a couple of other friends who are also happily married.

Maybe she's not a grown up 22 because you don't like her making her own decisions...

Could be.

Can’t see the issue. I was saying men around 35yo when I was that age as they were so much better than men my own age. In the main they seemed to have their shit sorted in who they were, what they wanted, were more settled within themselves etc.

My problem was that after a while they wanted to get married, have kids and I was the one that said no, so then I’d move on to the next one and rinse and repeat really looking back on it.

Once I got to 30yo I was able to decrease the age gap as the guys around my age had started to become more mature. Then I was more ready to start thinking about marriage, so it all worked.

When I was that younger age dating men 10-15 years older, there was never a power imbalance and it was never awkward, never anything to worry about, just a positive experience.

When I was about 22 I found a lot of men my age very immature. Into the drinking culture and football. My husband wasn't, and was already established in a career.

Half your age plus 7 should be the law.

This.