And that's the issue with schools today summed up.
On the one hand, schools are constantly telling kids that they have to behave in x, y, z way because they won't be able to get away with bad behaviour in the 'real world' and that they are preparing them for the world of work.
On the other hand, we don't think kids should be allowed to act in the same way an adult would because 'school is different'
There is absolutely a sense of entitlement among some children and parents these days caused by wider societal issues and changes that have taken place over the past 40 years - the move towards individualism that started in the 1980's has been damaging for everyone.
However, I am sick to death of hearing the argument that schools are somehow the victims of it as if they haven't played their own part in causing the situation.
If you treat children like little automatons and don't account for individuality, if you don't model an environment of mutual respect and expect respect to be automatically given and not earned, if you don't treat teenagers as if they are maturing independent beings, with their own thoughts, feelings and personalities, then of course they are going to push back against it!
My kids have never had any behaviour points or punishments - they have both consistently been in the top earners of positive behaviour points, so I have no skin in the game in terms of defending 'bad' behaviour.
However, I have been in school and seen the way some teachers speak to pupils, and been told about some horrendous teacher behaviour. I've also seen the incredibly positive results that teachers who do model mutual respect and who treat children as individuals get compared to those that don't.
For example, there is one teacher of a core subject in my kids school who has a laugh with his class and just generally treats them like people. He doesn't have a seating plan, he tells them that he doesn't expect them to have to ask permission to take off their blazers or top up their water as long as they do it quietly and don't disrupt the class. He gives out very few negative behaviour points and my kids have never complained about disruption in his class. He gets some of the best results in his subject and he supported my less academic daughter to get her highest GCSE score despite it nominally being her worst subject. He still excitedly asks how she is getting on when we see him around at school, even though she left almost two years ago (and I have also heard him ask, with similar enthusiasm about other former students).
On the other hand, the ultra strict teachers, who insist on seating plans, who expect the children to give automatic respect without bothering to return it, who lack the ability and / or willingness to treat their students like individuals - they are the ones who end up handing out behaviour points like sweets and whose lessons the kids complain are constantly being disrupted by poor behaviour or if they are strict enough to be able to control the behaviour through fear and coercion, still get rubbish results.
Teachers and schools are under the cosh due to years of underfunding, ill-thought out national policy and an un-inclusive curriculum which is better suited to the 1950's, but they really don't make their own lives any easier sometimes, layering shockingly bad national policy with their own terribly thought out ideas!
I was lucky enough to be at school in the 1990's where things were much more relaxed, friendly and naturally inclusive. I never got detention, achieved well, went onto uni and have been incredibly successful in my career.
However, I am fairly certain that if I had had to go through my teenage years in today's school environment, I would almost certainly have had a mental health breakdown and would have probably spent a fair bit of time in detention for speaking my mind!