What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

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I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Which part is rage baiting?!

I mean - possibly in emergency situations, such as someone being injured and having to give First Aid, or call an ambulance, but not in a situation such as Tredadt found themselves.

That would need planning, manipulation, manoeuvering and deception...so not an impulsive scenario at all. I think most people do know how they'd behave in those circumstances - it's something you'd need to plan for and implement that plan over over a period of time.

Many of these might be fantasies...

Just think people are naive if they think that sort of thing doesn't go on constantly. Why do you think Hollywood is full of Nepo babies?

Loomis · Today 22:08
CoffeeCantata · Today 19:35
I mean - possibly in emergency situations, such as someone being injured and having to give First Aid, or call an ambulance, but not in a situation such as Tredadt found themselves.
That would need planning, manipulation, manoeuvering and deception...so not an impulsive scenario at all. I think most people do know how they'd behave in those circumstances - it's something you'd need to plan for and implement that plan over over a period of time.
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Just think people are naive if they think that sort of thing doesn't go on constantly. Why do you think Hollywood is full of Nepo babies?

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I was responding to your point that people don't know how they'd behave in hypothetical situations until they happen. It depends, as I've said.

I don't think anyone here is being naive. Expecting honourable behaviour in public office is not being naive. I've worked in lots of settings (public and private sector) and conflicts of interest and opportunities for nepotism were guarded against very rigorously. Also, the people I've worked with respected those rules. Maybe I've been very privileged.

I'm aware of dodgy practices, sure, and especially in the media, but I think those fields are a) much harder to police and b) attract narcissistic and less scrupulous people.

Loomis. They said we were all getting het up over nothing ... the poster posting about her daughter is clearly trying to wind us up and rage baiting... then she goes and agrees with the poster saying we wouldn't know what we would do in that situation.

Responding to pps like Loomis is like playing chess with a pigeon!

I must NOT play pigeon chess.

At three years old you do not have the capacity to understand consequences. I don't see how the poster can be judged. At seven or eight different matter.

Well you don't 🤷

In any case that poster was rage baiting and it was an extremely boring rage bait as well.

You have indeed been very privileged if you don't think nepotism happens in public office. They might not brag about it in public forums in order to wind people up, but it certainly happens.

I do wish you'd READ what I write, instead of making up things.

I said it's not naive to EXPECT honourable behaviour in public office. That is different. We should all be able to be confident that officers who have power over us will act ethically and according to rules. Whether we can do that is another matter. Personally I've always found people to be ethical in my line of work both in the public and private sector. Could give tedious examples.

On the rare occasions I found that colleagues were dodgy I quickly left that job. I didn't want to work with people like that.

Me too! Your poor friend🤣

I think it's the best post on here! 🤣

Had a termination for medical reasons while I had a child under two. It was the wrong decision for me. I couldn't enjoy my time with my living child, who I had waited a long time to have. Lived with guilt ever since. I ruined my life.

Please try to move on from this. You did the right thing for yourself at the time

It's not my place to ask but surely a medical termination is needed and not elective?

All the people who've said their discreet wild poo is their worst dastardly deed are much better people than me!

I did have a choice, unfortunately.
Thank you @ConnieHeart x

I'm sorry

I'm sorry.
You did what you thought was right at the time.
I bet you wouldnt judge someone else for it, so please dont judge yourself. X

This is bonkers as it's the customers who suffer, not the other staff.

LOL. Lucky you....ha ha

??? Lucky who?!