What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

[shehardlysleeps]

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Killed a cat when I was 3 years old, threw it out of a bedroom window because my cousin (who was 5) told me to, don't know whose cat it was, it had wondered into my Aunt's house and ran up the stairs to one of the bedrooms, we followed it without my Aunt knowing or seeing the cat, it scratched my cousin who told me to throw the naughty cat out of the window. Cat landed badly and died, yes we were punished, rightly so, I bloody love animals, though I've never had a cat strangely.

I worked in a bakery shop when I was 16/17 with my friend, one regular customer was a real bitchy girl, she was regularly nasty to my friend, we would sometimes see this girl who would have been about 18, when we would be out and she was always horrible, calling my friend names etc. Really don't know why as we hardly knew her. Anyway one Saturday I decided I'd had enough and picked a scab I had on my elbow, placed inside this girls roll she had ordered and served it to her. No regrets at all.

I am nice honest

I am so sorry.

It doesnt sound to me like you had a lot of choice to do these things.

Are you accessing help and support?

I went through a phase of only sleeping with men who had more to lose than me as I was sick of them trying to control me.

Married men have too much to lose and can be quite passive.
Suited me at the time

Yes, you do sound nice…

Your post has really touched me, what you went through is child abuse plain and simple, I really hope you are now in a much better place, living a full and happy life, and of course can completely understand why you are no contact with your parents. I wish you lots of happiness.

I am, I was young when I pushed the cat out of the window (3 years old) and as a teenager like so many teenagers I was foolish and a bit headstrong, very loyal to my friends. Thank you

Thank you

Im happy-i have dp and my adult dc (and a grandchild!)

They are who matters

I will always feel bad that I stole that money but if they had been decent parents,I wouldn't have been pushed into taking it

I wouldn't dream of stealing now,dp says im 'too honest' (god knows what he means by that!) but I try to be a good person

They are sniffing around for me to do their care now they are getting older

It's not happening-they made their choices and I've now made mine

I got so drunk I couldn't stay awake.

As a result I was raped. No violence and it was quick, I knew it was happening but couldn't wake up enough to stop it. I also knew who it was. The fallout from that was terrible, my female friends didn't believe me and I spent the last term of school before exams with no one talking to me. I was 15. His brother confronted him and he admitted it and then left the country, so then all my mates knew I'd been telling the truth but they still didn't talk to me.

I've never been properly drunk since. Tipsy yes, but never ever making myself that vulnerable ever again.

I absolutely know the rape was not my fault, not anyone's fault except my rapists, and I am truly fine, no trauma issues etc. but I was stupid stupid stupid for getting that drunk and it is far and away the worst thing I've ever done.

@Smallorveryfaraway I posted yesterday imagine if this was a men’s group. The worst thing is what HE did. Hugs to you!

Me too 🤣

It's quite heartening to read this thread. I also stole money from my gran who was my legal guardian, when I was a teenager, just a few quid here and there and still feel awful about it.

I get that....yep, things were def kept quiet back in the day at my end also (but that's a whole other story)....glad you managed to get away x

Well done you for your second one. I'd have done the same.

Where do I start?
Had an affair for 6 years. OM wanted to break up, he didnt know he was an OM. He broke up with me for being so closed off. Not introducing him to friends or family. I went a bit loopy, told him I was pregnant. He believed me. I then pretended I got an abortion. He then wasn't bothered with. I lied told him I had lied about abortion and was pregnant. He blocked me. I kept going to his house, his sister had to warn me off. So mortified and embarrassed. I have had counselling for years after that. It has worked and helped me understand why the hell I was bonkers.

My ex friend was a user and all my friends had enough. I had just divorced my hubby and moved house and she was just acting horrible. Only asking how I was so she could ask a fave.. a user!! I was fed up of always gettung annoyed with her that I was going to cut her off but knew none of my friends would have backbone to do same. So I created a fake profile and pretended to be someone she owed money to and pestered me and all my friends. She was always asking for money so it was believable. When no one gave this person money, obviously, I then started insulting everyone and saying things only she and our little friendship group would know. As I was sending insults to myself, everyone genuinely thought this friend has borrowed money from someone and then bitched about us all. One by one, each friend cut her off as they had had enough of the drama. I mean, it done the job but I feel sad the way it all happened, everyone cutting her off and then she had no friends. But then, we had spoken to her several times over years about her ways and she always argued with us. In a way I think she deserved it but then I feel bad as there was more grown up ways to do this.

I'm afraid I'm another outside pooper. One of my dogs became a bit obsessed with going to the local park, even if it was the last walk of the day ( about 11pm) . We walked to the park ( about a 10 - 15 minute walk) and by the time we got there I was getting stomach pains. I got so desperate that I went into a little wooded bit, behind a big tree and had a poop 😬 but I did use a poo bag to pick it up and put it in the dog poo bin 😬😅
I also had a short relationship with a work colleague ( we were both single) but it was definitely a rebound thing for me, and mainly just sex for him. He was quite anal about his flat being immaculately clean and tidy and he had a facial twitch. Things started to go south and he ended up saying we should just be friends, which I wasn't hurt by but it did piss me off. So that night I got the three cards that he had given me and ripped them into tiny shreds. I put the shreds in a bag. Then the next time I knew he was at work, I drove to his flat, pressed the trades entrance buzzer, went up to his flat and proceeded to post all the loose shreds through his letterbox 😆 which gave me a great deal of satisfaction! The next day I texted him and said ' I bet that made your face twitch!' A bit nasty i know, but he took it quite well and I think was even a little impressed 😛

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What are you worried about?

Ooof, I always suspected this of some people but it really hurts. So glad mine have always gone to special schools but this is probably why segregation still exists and inclusion continues to fail.

It's happened before. He gets hurt then there is a big fall out and drama. I can't be arsed with it.

I used to take coppers out of my mum’s coat pocket (in the 70s). You could get sweets/chocolate for a few pence.

You would hope 🙈😂

What the fuck are you on about? What’s happened before?
SEN children keep hurting him? What absolute bollocks.
They’re more likely to the victims of bullying and mistreatment than the perpetrators.

Anyway, I’ve reported your disgusting ableist post.

I never said I was perfect ! This is meant to be things we feel bad about. I do feel bad about asking dc to keep his distance but he has been hurt before.

No, this thread is not "things we feel bad about", it's "The worst thing you've ever done" which implies a singular past (and for most, regretted) incident; not ongoing discriminatory behaviour.

Your son having trouble with one SEN pupil (possibly his own fault) does not reflect on all pupils with disabilities.

Be aware MN have already deleted your hateful post, before you double down on it again.