What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

[shehardlysleeps]

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Ha.....oh I've done that more than once (when desparate!) on a forest walk off the beaten track and then covered it up....I wouldn't worry about it....unless it was in someone's garden 😱😂

Oh wow - were they the same two guys or 4 different ones? How did that happen?

Wow, that must've been an orgy situation, yes?

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Yeah, me and my neighbour's kid used to steal from our (respective) parents coin jars (regularly) and skip down the road to buy sweets (laughing all the way at how sneaky we were) - we were about 9 or 10.... until we were found out!
And yes I think low self esteem and needing dopamine hits definitely go hand on hand x

OMG!? What a horrible shock! It's not like you did it on purpose but Christ, what a thing to witness 😱😮 I think you need to forgive yourself though 💐♥️

The stealing sweets ones reminded me of this.

My friend used to only have them once in a blue moon, never just 'in the home'.

One day I was at hers & her mum popped out to the shop (we were 9) she got out this bag of jellybeans that she'd found hidden & said that it must be her mum's. She said that we could both have 2 but that I mustn't tell (I felt very naughty)

Afterwards though, she said that we now both had to have mouthwash to disguise the smell. I didn't really want to but she got panicky saying that we must otherwise her mum would smell it. Having never had mouthwash before, it tasted foul to me. I was gagging & said that next time I'd rather not have a sweet if it meant I'd have to have the mouthwash

Jesus, sorry you had to deal with that utter creep ugh! Good on you for spitting in his tea but I don't know why you would even bother to entertain them every week if he behaved like that. Did you ever tell grandma he was a disgusting pervert??

What did you do????

You think have sex with two separate people in one day is an orgy?

Also saying 'wow' doesn't hide your judgy pants.

I think this is one of the funniest things I've ever read 🤣

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That's nothing to be ashamed of bet you had a fun time.

I had two 3somes in a week whilst on holiday.
Then done the same again on my following holiday a year later.

Not a bad thing we was all up for it, caught in the moment.

Had an affair with a senior colleague. I was in a relationship and he was married. It's been almost ten years since it ended and I think about it every day. I'm so ashamed and can't believe I did something so awful and betrayed my partner at the time. I can't reconcile it with my belief that I'm not a bad person.

It was a different time, things were kept quiet. If I'd told grandmother she wouldn't have believed it. Also I had no choice really but to put up with them. As soon as I left home to go to Univ I rarely saw them again.

Indeed. The next person that posts the obligatory "all men are evil" thread would do well to read this one.

Nah. One in the morning and one in the evening. They didn't know each other. I was in the throes of clinical depression and self esteem was at rock bottom. Not that that's an excuse really.

Ha ha....no the wow was not meant in any way judgy....it was wow that's amazing! You've misunderstood me
I've lived a v sheltered life and just wondered how it came about that's all....just interested/nosey x

I'm not proud of it. They were both nice people who thought they were in an exclusive relationship with me. They didn't deserve my cheating on them.

We paid £50 - must be ten or fifteen years ago now - to have our gas fire disconnected to let out a starling that had flown down our chimney. It flew all around the living room, wouldn't go out the open windows, presumably too disorientated. We managed to trap it in a towel and release it out the door from where it flew away, thankfully.

My stupidity was responsible for the deaths of those baby birds mentioned in my previous post, I still feel terrible about that to this day. 😢

I had a one night stand whilst married to my ex-husband. Not big or clever, but in a really bad place and made a huge mistake. Despite being divorced and ex-remarrying, he still gives me abuse for it 11 years later and has just got our teenage children involved. It feels like he will never let it go and still blames me for everything bad that happens, despite being happily remarried to the women he left me for after a number of years of trying to make our marriage work. I'm so exhausted with it all.

I think I would be more comfortable having an affair 😂

Maybe you need to let it go now. That's a lot of energy and presumably money and time you are putting into this.

I'd very surprised if they didnt think it was related to your husband. He leaves under a cloud (not of his making) and suddenly the boss starts getting horrible presents?...

Respect to your husband for standing his ground but even if he had, had the signed evidence, he would still have been liable as the person who did the action knowing it was illegal/dangerous.

Bad choices do not automatically make you a bad person.

@Tredadt we have a member of our team whose mum got him the job. Like you, she gave him confidential insider knowledge, and actively blocked other staff from getting the information they needed eg she kept "forgetting" to give them access to the job description.

She has lost all respect from anyone and these days lots of people keep their distance because they've realised how two-faced she is and well, no one likes a cheat. She is excluded from things like access to confidential info.

He's a nice enough guy but no one has any respect for him either. When he makes mistakes (as everyone does) it causes much more shaking of heads than for any other trainee. He's been here 2 years, he's doing ok, not brilliantly but ok but everyone always has a certain amount of cynicism about him and people still joke about things like "what will his mum say?".

He's having to work twice as hard to earn the same respect as his peers. He will always be the person whose mummy got him the job. His mum's reputation will never recover.

You say the other people have jobs, families etc and you were scared your daughter wouldnt. Well they all managed it and your daughter isnt special. You also never know what is goinv on for them and how important that job was to them. You undermined her rather than helped your daughter earn it on her own merit. People will know what happened. You havent helped her at all.

I dont wish ill of either of you but I hope you do actually realise how harmful for your daughter and colleagues your actions were. Hopefully she will have to apply for your job in a fair manner and others will have the same opportunity.