Hello,
I'm looking for advice/insight as I don't know if I'm being petty here!
Been on a quite a few dates with someone (over 2-3 months) who I initially felt an attraction to, but in recent times, he's said/done a few things I find to be really odd/bizarre. Since then, I feel that something is 'off' here.
Examples:
I'm a Buddhist. I go to my temple more of a way to meditate/clear my mind. My skin tone is on the lighter side, so I understand that most people wouldn't think I'm Buddhist, even though my Mum is Nepalese and my Dad is English. (My skin colour is like Meghan Markle's).
• Initially, he said: 'You don't look Buddhist! Do you sit and pray all day in an orange sheet?!' I said 'no' and corrected him. It felt somewhat 'off' to me, but I let it slide.
• My Mum used to be a veterinarian (my parents own the clinic) and we often go to the clinic as the ladies who work there are her friends still. I told him about a de-matting process that was brutal for my Mum (this was something that happened years ago) but how the dog got actually adopted by my parents! I love animals and he said: 'You don't come home smelling of animal shit after being at the clinic, do you?'
• Another time, I collected a delivery from a parcel locker when I was out with him - and he asked what it was. I explained it was an electric tin opener. (My Mum has arthritis now). He was almost weirded out/miffed about it and said: 'Does your Mum not know how to open tins?!'
These sound like minor things, but he comes across as really ignorant to things in life... and it irks me. AIBU to just move on? I don't know if it's him trying to be funny - or just plain rude/offensive. I don't want to sound precious, but I also don't want to put up with nonsense from ignorant men. This is a man who is 42 years old, mind you!!