AIBU to move on after several odd and insensitive comments?

[fireandice26]

Hello,

I'm looking for advice/insight as I don't know if I'm being petty here!

Been on a quite a few dates with someone (over 2-3 months) who I initially felt an attraction to, but in recent times, he's said/done a few things I find to be really odd/bizarre. Since then, I feel that something is 'off' here.

Examples:

I'm a Buddhist. I go to my temple more of a way to meditate/clear my mind. My skin tone is on the lighter side, so I understand that most people wouldn't think I'm Buddhist, even though my Mum is Nepalese and my Dad is English. (My skin colour is like Meghan Markle's).

• Initially, he said: 'You don't look Buddhist! Do you sit and pray all day in an orange sheet?!' I said 'no' and corrected him. It felt somewhat 'off' to me, but I let it slide.

• My Mum used to be a veterinarian (my parents own the clinic) and we often go to the clinic as the ladies who work there are her friends still. I told him about a de-matting process that was brutal for my Mum (this was something that happened years ago) but how the dog got actually adopted by my parents! I love animals and he said: 'You don't come home smelling of animal shit after being at the clinic, do you?'

• Another time, I collected a delivery from a parcel locker when I was out with him - and he asked what it was. I explained it was an electric tin opener. (My Mum has arthritis now). He was almost weirded out/miffed about it and said: 'Does your Mum not know how to open tins?!'

These sound like minor things, but he comes across as really ignorant to things in life... and it irks me. AIBU to just move on? I don't know if it's him trying to be funny - or just plain rude/offensive. I don't want to sound precious, but I also don't want to put up with nonsense from ignorant men. This is a man who is 42 years old, mind you!!

Huge ick

If it feels 'off', why even ask the question?

Trust your instincts and just move on. You can move on for any reason you like without having to justify. If it doesn't feel right to you, that is all you need

What if everyone said "oh no, that sounds fine to me"? It wouldn't change how it made YOU feel, it would just make you question your own reaction/feelings about it.

This is not me having a go at you. It just saddens me that we still question ourselves even when it just doesn't feel 'right'

Does he express any positive thoughts or comments towards you, OP? Are you sure he even likes you? It doesn’t sound very much like it…
This is meant to be the really fun bit of dating - finding out new things, revelling in your likenesses as well as your differences. He should be fascinated by you - not baffled and plain rude! Move on…

Dump.
He sounds like a twat.

Run 🏃‍♀️

To think anyone 'looks Buddhist' - what does that even mean, for heaven's sake? You don't need snarky remarks about your life choices or your loved ones: this sounds like negging to undermine you, to destabilise your sense of self. He doesn't appear to like or appreciate you; but It's possible that he is not happy within himself and cannot cope with your sense of self and feels compelled to destroy it with these nasty barbs.Ive met this type and it can be quite puzzling and upsetting until you realise that it's about them and nothing to do with you.
You sound caring and self-possessed. Why not trust your feelings? My amateur psychology aside, apply your Buddhist calm and the principle of ongoing change, toss back and move on. To better things!

This is from April.

He sounds like an ignorant twat op. Please dump him immediately!

Surely he’s gotta go OP 🤮

Is he a bit dim? Move on.

Dear me. Off he pops!

Move on, he is ignorant and will get worse.

Run for the hills!

He doesn't sound overendowed with brain cells. Next!

Not for you OP. He sounds like an obnoxious child without any social skills. He needs to.grow up and preferably remain single