AIBU to move on after several odd and insensitive comments?

[fireandice26]

Hello,

I'm looking for advice/insight as I don't know if I'm being petty here!

Been on a quite a few dates with someone (over 2-3 months) who I initially felt an attraction to, but in recent times, he's said/done a few things I find to be really odd/bizarre. Since then, I feel that something is 'off' here.

Examples:

I'm a Buddhist. I go to my temple more of a way to meditate/clear my mind. My skin tone is on the lighter side, so I understand that most people wouldn't think I'm Buddhist, even though my Mum is Nepalese and my Dad is English. (My skin colour is like Meghan Markle's).

• Initially, he said: 'You don't look Buddhist! Do you sit and pray all day in an orange sheet?!' I said 'no' and corrected him. It felt somewhat 'off' to me, but I let it slide.

• My Mum used to be a veterinarian (my parents own the clinic) and we often go to the clinic as the ladies who work there are her friends still. I told him about a de-matting process that was brutal for my Mum (this was something that happened years ago) but how the dog got actually adopted by my parents! I love animals and he said: 'You don't come home smelling of animal shit after being at the clinic, do you?'

• Another time, I collected a delivery from a parcel locker when I was out with him - and he asked what it was. I explained it was an electric tin opener. (My Mum has arthritis now). He was almost weirded out/miffed about it and said: 'Does your Mum not know how to open tins?!'

These sound like minor things, but he comes across as really ignorant to things in life... and it irks me. AIBU to just move on? I don't know if it's him trying to be funny - or just plain rude/offensive. I don't want to sound precious, but I also don't want to put up with nonsense from ignorant men. This is a man who is 42 years old, mind you!!

so he mocks and belittles things that he doesn’t understand?

Sounds like he's attempting negging, but is really inept at it. 2 reasons to dump, right there.

Probs has v low self -esteem. Not your problem, though.

I'll join the choir. You sound far too intelligent @fireandice26 to waste your time on that twat.

Dump the guy. He sounds very tedious & ignorant.

Sounds like an utter twat

Thick as mince.
Bin.

He sounds like a moron. Even if those comments are meant as jokes, they're so far from funny they just make him look dumb.

Yeah these would annoy me.

I assume he’s trying to be funny but completely failing. This would be a massive Ick for me. I would call him out when he does it to explain how you feel about his actions comments.

I'd have dumped him after the 'pray all day in an orange sheet' comment. What a prick.

Next!

They don't sound minor to me.

End it now, because if this is what he's like after only a few months in, imagine how it would be down the line, when any best behaviour he might be exhibiting has really worn off.

He sounds incredibly immature. That would give me the famous 'ick'.

He sounds like a pre-teen boy!
Don't waste another minute of your time with this immature man child.
If he's making derogatory comments about your faith and parents 2 months in,imagine what he will be like after 2 years.
No thankyou!,on your way mister!

You are going to regret every minute of your life wasted with this person. Listen to me. I wasted 5 whole years.

Taxi!

Is he trying to joke and missing? Or just an idiot.

Personally if I was dating this bloke I'd drop him

I’m friends with a few guys like him who just say what they’re thinking and I’ve just found them funny. You both sound totally different though, you’re just not a match

He doesn't sound worth the grief.

First post nailed it.

Totally agree, he's either stupid or a pig - either way not worth the effort.

Not sure I get the point about skin colour and buddhism - Richard Gere is a buddhist! So are Patrick Duffy and Orlando Bloom... practicing. I think skin colour is completely irrelevant.

Rude, opinionated and thick!

Even if you weren’t half Nepali, Buddhism is a proselytising religion. It was once the major religion from Afghanistan to Japan and Western Buddhism is not a small thing (though most adherents are older). One of the things I love about Nepal is how it blends Buddhism and Hinduism seamlessly so that people have their one traditions while also being part of the same Dharma. There’s none of the interfaith or interdenominational strife that Europe and the Middle East have suffered.

He is not right for you because he is irritating you already. Time to move on.

PS I know the pizzeria you have named yourself after. It was such a treat to go there when I lived in Nepal and made occasional visits to Kathmandu. Every other pizza in Thamel back then was a chapati with concentrated tomato paste and grated yaks cheese, but Fire and Ice served the real thing. Happy days!

Normally, just 3 months into a relationship you’re still at the “honeymoon” stage and showing your best side. This man sounds both disrespectful and uncouth, I really can’t imagine what you see in him, you sound completely incompatible. Get rid!

Whatever else he does that is nice won’t compensate for him being a moron, in the long term. It isn’t one the short term,
. Ditch and move on. You deserve better