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Been given a face to face appointment at my GP… AIBU to call and push back?

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tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:35

I have another ongoing issue which I am under the hospital for, but I’ve been told I need to approach my GP for pain relief at the moment.

I did this a couple of months ago and got a phone call and a prescription no problem. I’m running out and need some more. This time I filled out the new AI questionnaire and it’s given me an urgent appointment for tomorrow. I called up the surgery and they said it’s because the AI has flagged me as being at risk of arthritis (???) or a DVT!!! I asked the receptionist if this was right as a DVT is pretty serious and I’m sure I don’t have one, but apparently because I’ve ticked that I get swelling it’s a risk factor and I now need to come in.

I just think this is so silly and I’m taking up an appointment for something that’s really not that serious! I just feel like I’ll look such a knob tomorrow sat there. AIBU to call back and push back?

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tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 18:13

GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 18:09

Gently, I’m going to suggest this may be misleading for anyone reading here who is nervous about going for an appointment.

Due to my illness I can struggle getting words out some days and can easily get upset others. I take my husband with me when I can, and he often does a lot of the talking for me. Again, in my notes it is reflected that “husband says illness is having a serious impact on Gertie’s life” etc. I don’t think I’ve ever presented myself perfectly! I’m not sure that would help.

I’m glad you’ve had such a different experience to me, but as you can see from this thread, you get accused of drug seeking for so much less.

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Nursemumma92 · 20/04/2026 18:45

Octavia64 · 20/04/2026 17:24

GPs have had recent guidance about prescribing Naproxen and other NSAIDs for pain.

i know because I had to have a massive fuck off fight with my surgery to get them to even consider re-prescribing it.

they’ll want omeprazole to be prescribed along side it and they’ll probably insist on a blood test to see if your kidneys are working.

be prepared to be asked to have no pain meds at all.

New policy is “lowest dose for shortest time”

https://www.nhs.uk/medicines/naproxen/about-naproxen/

Yes I was going to say this. It is something that needs to be monitored due to its side effects. Its likely box ticking that you are reviewed in person but these processes are there for a reason. I can't see why a GP would judge you and deny you NSAIDs if you get emotional due to the pain you are experiencing. You have a diagnosed condition and need pain relief. It's what they are there for. Hope it goes well.

EveryKneeShallBow · 20/04/2026 19:04

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:00

Thank you. So very helpful!

I think you thought I was calling you a knob there. I wasn’t. I meant that I thought it was a fuss over nothing but it turned out it wasn’t.

Bearbookagainandagain · 20/04/2026 19:08

It would be completely irresponsible for a doctor to prescribe naproxen to a patient who has described swelling (in assume "in her legs" because that's what the form usually asks for) as a symptom without checking in person...

Allisnotlost1 · 20/04/2026 19:20

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 17:09

I’m very self conscious after years of medical issues being dismissed (which was what led to the eventual surgery), I’m very aware that you have to present yourself perfectly to be taken seriously.

Im sorry you had that experience, but that is 100% the failure of the doctor/s, not you. It isn’t always the case that you have to present perfectly. I have some complex medical stuff that has taken a few years to resolve and it’s been with the help of excellent medics (and in spite of some shit ones). Try to leave the bad experiences behind you and see this as a good GP wanting to give you a face to face appointment for your benefit, and nothing more.

Dinggirl · 20/04/2026 19:22

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:09

I’m not refusing, I just feel like it’s such a waste of an appointment. I’m also going to go in and get emotional (because despite it being minor, it’s really starting to have an impact on my day to day life), which is just going to make me look even worse too. I work in the NHS, so I know how bad people have it and me crying over some joint pain just makes me feel like an arsehole to be honest

Are you waiting to see Rheumatology to possibly get an inflammatory arthritis diagnosis, and in the meantime have been told to see the GP for pain relief? Please don't feel like this, it's not minor, if you do have inflammatory arthritis it is incredibly painful! I have seen patients who are in a very bad way until they get a diagnosis and the right treatment. Go and see the GP, they will be able to help with pain relief and may be able to expedite your appointment with the hospital or at least ask for advice from Rheum.

I'm guessing if you have mentioned you have swelling in your joints this may have triggered the DVT idea!

apologies if I've got the wrong idea!

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 19:31

Dinggirl · 20/04/2026 19:22

Are you waiting to see Rheumatology to possibly get an inflammatory arthritis diagnosis, and in the meantime have been told to see the GP for pain relief? Please don't feel like this, it's not minor, if you do have inflammatory arthritis it is incredibly painful! I have seen patients who are in a very bad way until they get a diagnosis and the right treatment. Go and see the GP, they will be able to help with pain relief and may be able to expedite your appointment with the hospital or at least ask for advice from Rheum.

I'm guessing if you have mentioned you have swelling in your joints this may have triggered the DVT idea!

apologies if I've got the wrong idea!

Nope, awaiting physio for scans and then probably surgery but the only advice I was given regarding pain relief was that the physio wouldn’t prescribe, which is why I went to my GP

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Dinggirl · 20/04/2026 19:41

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 19:31

Nope, awaiting physio for scans and then probably surgery but the only advice I was given regarding pain relief was that the physio wouldn’t prescribe, which is why I went to my GP

Oh I'm sorry..I hope you get the help you need soon

tulipsinbloomnow · 21/04/2026 09:38

Well I’ve come, let’s see how far behind they’re running.

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Everanewbie · 21/04/2026 09:40

Good luck OP. I am glad you have gone. I hope the Dr can help you control your pain one way or another.

tulipsinbloomnow · 21/04/2026 09:49

I was seen before my appointment time which is practically unheard of at my surgery. I’ve been prescribed opiates and just been told all I can do is go to a&e if needed

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Whattodo1610 · 21/04/2026 13:59

What medication have they prescribed Op? I’ve tried a few but nothing works for my joint pain 😔

tulipsinbloomnow · 21/04/2026 14:01

Whattodo1610 · 21/04/2026 13:59

What medication have they prescribed Op? I’ve tried a few but nothing works for my joint pain 😔

Codeine, but the goal is more to get me to sleep and eased overnight as I’m really at the end of my tether with it all now

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godmum56 · 23/04/2026 17:44

tulipsinbloomnow · 21/04/2026 14:01

Codeine, but the goal is more to get me to sleep and eased overnight as I’m really at the end of my tether with it all now

Were you warned about constipation? I was given co codamol for shingles pain and also given movicol with it because its a swine for giving users constipation. If you don't want to use movicol, then massively upping your fibre intake might be enough but if you use bran to do this, then you also need to massively up your liquid intake because it can absorb a lot and sets like concrete if you don't drink enough. In my NHS days I used to work with people who had joint replacements and hip fractures. Its pretty essential to use pain relief in the early days otherwise you won't move enough to get a good mobility result. People would tell me that they couldn't take the pain relief because it gave them horrible constipation so I had to talk them through how to manage it.

tulipsinbloomnow · 23/04/2026 17:47

godmum56 · 23/04/2026 17:44

Were you warned about constipation? I was given co codamol for shingles pain and also given movicol with it because its a swine for giving users constipation. If you don't want to use movicol, then massively upping your fibre intake might be enough but if you use bran to do this, then you also need to massively up your liquid intake because it can absorb a lot and sets like concrete if you don't drink enough. In my NHS days I used to work with people who had joint replacements and hip fractures. Its pretty essential to use pain relief in the early days otherwise you won't move enough to get a good mobility result. People would tell me that they couldn't take the pain relief because it gave them horrible constipation so I had to talk them through how to manage it.

I took it the night before last and didn’t poo yesterday, didn’t take it last night and I’m back to normal today, but that’s not outside the realms of normality for me anyway. I won’t be taking it again in a hurry as even though it did help me sleep and seemed to ease my pain for the last two days it left me feeling absolutely vile

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godmum56 · 23/04/2026 18:35

tulipsinbloomnow · 23/04/2026 17:47

I took it the night before last and didn’t poo yesterday, didn’t take it last night and I’m back to normal today, but that’s not outside the realms of normality for me anyway. I won’t be taking it again in a hurry as even though it did help me sleep and seemed to ease my pain for the last two days it left me feeling absolutely vile

my sympathy. The co codamol I was given was a low dose one and i wouldn't have used it if there had been a viable option.

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