AIBU to ask my adult son to contribute to household bills?

[Dilemmame]

I have a 20 year old ds and he's just started a new job ive got myself in debt due to him refusing to apply for uc for 9 months and has been living in the home but I have asked for some help with home bills and he's refused as he said he's gotta buy a car am I as a parent being unreasonable for asking for some rent/shopping every month?

Is he expecting you to feed him too? Tell him he pays or he moves out. Its a mother’s job to look after her kids yes, but by 20 they are old enough to move out and rent a room etc. He doesn’t get a choice to refuse.

That's funny that both lots are very similar. My dd is very generous and ds2 is very cut and dried he will ask what we want for birthdays and we usually ask for money towards things and if you ask for £20 or £60 that is exactly what you get. Ds1 we rarely get anything but he does have health difficulties.

Tell him it's time to fly the nest. He's not a kid anymore and so he pays his way to you or he gets out.

Going by his logic no-one would ever leave home!