Am I overreacting to BFs poor driving?

[WingsTingle]

Still feeling really cross about an incident earlier today. Headed for a day out, his DS and my DD in the back of the car.
On the motorway, BF pulls into the outside lane to overtake a slower vehicle (fine), but then stays in the outside lane doing 70…
After several minutes, the driver behind flashes his headlights to signal my BF that he wants to pass.
BF becomes enraged and calls him a few choice names, holds his middle finger up to the driver behind on his rear view mirror and stays put.
After another few minutes, BF pulls into the middle lane and the car behind goes to overtake. BF decides to put his foot down, too, making it impossible for the car behind to complete his overtake. BF is laughing and jeering the whole time.
He eventually eases off and the car passes, we pull off the motorway, etc.
I think BF was a complete knob for his behaviour, and I feel very angry that he made the decision for everyone I. The car to behave in a stupid, dangerous manner.
BF can’t see the problem as ‘nothing happened’. AIBU?

Men and their egos...

Having witnessed a multiple pile up on the M40 today I would not be getting into he car with him again. Ever.

The ick would be an understatement in this situation. No coming back from this. Time to dump him before he kills you or your kids

I’m sorry you witnessed that, @Doggodoggo it sounds awful 😞
My abusive ex used to ‘drive angry’ so this sort of thing is very sensitive for me. Wasn’t sure if my feelings were OTT

Thank you @Maternityleavelady
Ive been running it over and over in my head all day, and didn’t know if I was being silly to feel really put off him over this.
There was a similar incident a few months ago where he ‘chased’ a driver who he felt cut him up 😬

You are not over reacting

The fact that there was not an accident is not relevant.

He drove dangerously and responded with aggressive emotion

Even if he was driving alone this would be wrong but to behave that way in front of children is shocking. "Choice words" presumably means aggressive swearing.

Does he speak like this at other times?

I would never allow my child in a car with him driving again .

I could not be with a man that did this. The fact he put his ego above the potential death of multiple people would kill any feeling I had for him.

I guess this isn't the only example of dickheadery he's displayed though.

Fuckers like that need to stay off the roads.

Absolutely not being unreasonable at all, this type
of behaviour is utterly disgusting for a supposed adult man, let alone with kids in the car. I heard an horrendous story recently via someone I’ve recently met through work, her Mum was killed as a result of a high-speed car race her boyfriend decided to get involved in, albeit on a small winding B-road. They estimated he was going 100mph to compete with the other car when he hit a small
pothole and wrapped his car around a tree, killing both him and his passenger instantly. All because of his stupid male ego. If your partner cannot see how stupid and reckless he was being then I’d absolutely end the relationship.

I would never be getting in the car with him again. But then I wouldn’t be travelling with an ex boyfriend anyway.

I think his total lack of acknowledgment and apology is making it even worse - he’s just trying to chat with me as normal whilst I’m feeling furious.
I know many say this, but generally, he is not like this at all. We have been together for six years and I’m just shocked at his thoughtlessness and lack of care / concern

I'm not a nervous driver, but knowing I share roads with blokes like this (especially as I drive a powerful car) does give me pause for thought. I've had fuckers chase me up the arse whilst giving me invective before. I always just get out of their way, because they are bad and angry men, not worth a 'road argument' with.

Terrible people.

Honestly @WingsTingle bin him off, asap.

@BootMaker it does concern me even more now, I think, because my son has recently started driving too. I’ve drummed it into him never to get into that frame of mind, that a car is potentially a deadly weapon and how he must drive with consideration. To then have my BF (whose DD is also learning to drive, currently), behave like this saddens me - it is sickening

Yep, a comprehensive display of bellendery from start to finish. I'm quite often aghast at how quickly MNers will say 'Leave the Bastard' for seemingly trivial transgressions; but his behaviour is the sign of a fundamentally broken mind and I wouldn't want anything further to do with him.

To do with people he loves in his car is crazy, i wonder if he's even more reckless when he's alone. I wouldn't get back in the car with him. He's an idiot. Endangering strangers and risking his driving license too.

I just cannot understand it 🤷🏼‍♀️ what was he hoping to achieve??

This^

Though to be fair, the speed limit is 70 and the flashing headlights driver was the biggest dick.

Sorry @Wolfiefan @pizzaHeart the mention of ‘ex’ was in reference to a previous partner’s tendency to drive aggressively whenever he felt I’d slightest/ disappointed him in some way (he was a narcissist abuser…)

@HeddaGarbled see - I don’t think he was. The outside lane is for overtaking, not cruising, so BF was technically blocking the lane & holding up traffic…

Grim. Grim behaviour and grim that he hasn’t apologised to everyone in the car. He’s clearly not embarrassed and he should be.

In future, make sure you do the driving. I would not put my child's (or his child's) safety at risk.

I would not be getting in the car with him again, nor would any of my children

Oh that’s alright then. Fuck me.

Being a prick at 70/80 mph is the height of stupidity.
I wouldn't get in a car with him again.

You weren't sure?!!

Is this really what you want your daughter to see as acceptable behaviour? I would go ballistic if any man and my children's lives was giving other people the middle finger for any reason, let alone risking their safety.

Why have your protective instincts towards your child not kicked in? If you are really unable to see how egregious this man's behaviour is, you would seriously be better staying away from relationships until you have done the freedom programme or seen a therapist.

You really need to raise your standards here and ditch this man for your child's sake, if you won't do it for your own.

Having been the child in that car and worse, dont let the kids be driven by him again. Unless he works on his anger