Am I overreacting to BFs poor driving?

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Still feeling really cross about an incident earlier today. Headed for a day out, his DS and my DD in the back of the car.
On the motorway, BF pulls into the outside lane to overtake a slower vehicle (fine), but then stays in the outside lane doing 70…
After several minutes, the driver behind flashes his headlights to signal my BF that he wants to pass.
BF becomes enraged and calls him a few choice names, holds his middle finger up to the driver behind on his rear view mirror and stays put.
After another few minutes, BF pulls into the middle lane and the car behind goes to overtake. BF decides to put his foot down, too, making it impossible for the car behind to complete his overtake. BF is laughing and jeering the whole time.
He eventually eases off and the car passes, we pull off the motorway, etc.
I think BF was a complete knob for his behaviour, and I feel very angry that he made the decision for everyone I. The car to behave in a stupid, dangerous manner.
BF can’t see the problem as ‘nothing happened’. AIBU?

I would not wish to be a passenger in your boyfriend's car while he is driving, nor would I permit my child to be.

Your bf is an immature Billybigbollocks.

Op is your BF my DH on the quiet ?
That is exactly his behaviour in the car, and I abhor it.
He seems to think its fine and quite normal, and the language he uses in front of our DS3 is shameful.

I haven’t been able to bring myself to discuss it with him yet. He’s tried to message me as per normal through the day and I’ve felt too incensed to answer. He’s tried knows I’m upset, though, but hasn’t acknowledged anything and certainly not apologised. The more I recall it, the more pissed off I am - I also feel really sad to realise how little he actually cares for me

OP, why are you trying to work out his behaviour?

He is a grown man who consciously chooses to behave in a way that puts himself, his passengers (you- who he is supposed to care for!) and other road users at risk.
He has SHOWN YOU that he is reckless, and lacking in judgment.

This is not a good man.

And? You’d feel sadder if he’d caused an accident which he will do eventually.

He needs to realise it is not a ego boost or a game.. the knob
I get men speeding up once theynsee me passing on a highway..it is pathetic..canyou take over driving or refuse to travek with him driving until he gorws up or kills someone.
Of course he see's no wrongnhe thinks hes clever...the rest of us do not!
If in doubt wonnder why!

I would already have texted him to dump him, then blocked him.

Next time you might not survive.

Incidents like this can quickly escalate and lead to confrontations, that in turn could end with awful or tragic consequences.
He needs to grow up.

I would dump immediately

Why do you put up with it??

Incorrect. I hold professional level certification of proofreading and your phrasing was misleading and very poorly worded.

It's not even "just" that he put you and DC lives at risk, it reveals his personality when he feels treatened/criticised/inferior.

It's only a matter of time before you "make" him behave like that too OP 😪

So… saw him this evening. Says he didn’t think what he did was that bad. Said he was driving to the speed limit and the guy behind got too close (he didn’t) and flashed his lights so he moved over - and ‘accelerated to 80 so the guy could get past him’… which doesn’t even make sense?!
The conversation didn’t last much longer than that - I told him there wasn’t much else to say as we didn’t agree so any “apology” he made would be meaningless.!

until the next time then……

@SoSadSoSadSoSad I won’t be there to find out, but I hope he thinks twice in future 🤷🏼‍♀️

Because our son adores his DF, and a poor father figure is better than none, i've read.

https://genuinefutures.co.uk/news-resources/britain-is-facing-an-epidemic-of-fatherlessness-and-the-cost-is-being-paid-by-our-children

And me arguing or complaining about DHs car behaviour does not result in his best side showing.