Ex partner and I separated over 12 months ago. I don’t want him back, the relationship was pretty dreadful coming to the end and there were a lot of lies, deceit and gaslighting involved from him.
He moved into a small rented apartment and although I wasn’t happy about him leaving quite a few of his things here at the time. I did understand he would need time to sort that out. The home is in my name and he initially moved in with me. He barely liked to contribute, but that’s a different story!
Anyway, since he’s been gone I’ve asked him a few times if he’s sorted anything out and when his things are going to be taken away, and he just fobs me off or says he will and never does. He still has a lot of of larger tools for work here, quite a bit of hobby equipment that’s expensive.
He still calls round a couple of times a week to pick up and drop tools back off that he’s needed for work. I rarely see him because I’m at work. But I know he’s been because I see him on the ring camera going to the shed.
It’s literally driving me insane that he’s still using me and my generosity. I’m not a nasty person, yes, I probably hated him at the time the relationship ended finding out things and probably not knowing half of it. But not having to put up with it anymore those feeling of hatred passed. Now I just feel so irritated and annoyed that he just ignores everything I say. I’m not the type of person to throw away or sell his stuff, that’s not who I am, and he knows it. I just want him to take it away and leave me the fook alone 😡
He’s not doing it because he wants me back, you can tell by the way he speaks to me he doesn’t even like me, he’s just a user and takes advantage of people’s kindness.
Please, does anyone have any advice on what to say or how to word my request to him. Everything from, ‘please could you’ to ‘move your shit’ is falling on deaf ears or he doesn’t take me serious 😩😖