To only invite one twin?

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I’m curious. Birthday girl (7) a party with a limited number of guests. One person she invited is a twin. Their twin sister is in a different class.

Invite is refused by twins parents because they say both should have been invited?

Bullshit

i had twins. They are separate people.

Not if the birthday girl isn’t friends with the other twin. They’re sisters not clones

I have twins, they’ve been going to separate birthday parties since they were 6yrs old

First reply nails it.

Then one of their kid misses out. Resentment will grow eventually probably.

First post nails it as always.

Is it a case of not being able to practically attend with both children?

I mean, if they're identical, they literally are clones.

However.

They are different people OP so yes you don't have to invite both.

It will be a miserable life for both of them if their parents only ever let them socialise together!

Both kids have twins as friends. There's only one 'set' we invite as ds is friends with both and all in same class. Thats silly carryon. Sure other siblings dont get to go to parties, a 3 year old doesn't get invited along with the 5 year old so no difference really

Rubbish. They’re separate people and they’re in different classes anyway! Silly behaviour from the parents and the only one to really suffer is their child.

I made a point of saying that my twins did not come as a pair when they were younger, it is good for them to do different things and have different experiences.

Twins are not clones at all.

definitely do not extend the invite to the other twin.

They literally are not clones on account of being twins, one would have had to be spawned from the other…

crikey I’m boring myself now

Fair enough if it's not practical to attend with only one, but that is not birthday child's problem.

The point of choosing to put them in separate classes is to encourage independence and separate friends. I have twins and was happy for them to be invited individually, but I’ve also met twin mums who are really weird about treating them exactly the same. I used to take advantage of 1-1 time with the twin not at the party. I’d just reply, oh that’s a shame. Dd doesn’t really know Emma and it’s inviting close friends.

As a twin parent this is ridiculous. What a shame that the twin she is friends with misses out.

thats crazy. I’m a twin. I am a totally separate being from my sister. It’s good for them to do things separately. Parents are batshit.

Reply saying you haven’t invited any children from the other class and no siblings so treating everybody equally (assuming that is the case).

This is quite a hard one. I have 7 year old girl twins. They don’t always play together but they do mix and match friends. If one was invited and the other wasn’t it would be devastating for them.

If they were in different classes then I’d expect them not to be invited together.

And it’s not the same as inviting a younger/older sibling. twins are at the same age and stage and fairness is a big thing for mine.

Maybe it would be tricky logistically with the two of them, and depending on age one might get upset not being able to go in as well so maybe just not worth the hassle for the parent. But YANBU to invite only 1.

It’s hard when one twin has an invite and the other doesn’t, particularly if it happens a few times but it’s your job as a twin parent to manage this. They are their own people. ( I’m a twin mum)

I have twins, now adult. They have been going to different parties since they were tiny as they were in different classes and it depends on who they are friends with. Sometimes together if they both know the birthday boy/girl sometimes separately if they don’t.

Surely the point of them being in different classes is precisely so they have different friends and aren't seen as a single entity?

I'd say they are clones The cambridge dictionary says
a plant or animal that has the same genes as the original from which it was produced
But they split from one embryo (embryo a), made from one fertilised egg, so you can either think of them as embryo a and b, so b is the clone, but obviously you'd never know who was b. Or that embryo a split and no longer exists, and they are embryo b and c, both clones of a. I do sometimes wonder who embryo a would have grown up to be, I don't think that it would have been either of my identical twins, but someone else.

Oh and yes they should go to parties separately, unless the birthday girl is friends with both and you think she is being mean to one by not inviting her. I have just once refused an invitation for this reason.