AIBU to regret handing in cash found in a wallet?

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Found a wallet with £200 cash in it on a train. DH made me hand the wallet and cash in at the train station. I’m so annoyed - yes it was the right thing to do but we’re struggling financially and there’s no way that cash is making its way back to the owner. I shouldn’t have told him and should have just kept it.

I found a wallet in phone booth years ago and I handed straight to police station. I got lovely letter from French family who lost it inviting me to visit them. It think a note on it’s own is different. I’d check with people around they hadn’t lost it but then I would keep if not.

Thank you 💜

I wouldn't consider keeping it and i think the majority of people wouldn't either.
It's not like being in the middle of nowhere finding a few loose £10 /£20 's on the ground blowing around.

Years ago I dropped an envelope with £400 in it and absolute fortune to us at the time a lovely lady with a young child handed it in to the nearest shop, it restored my faith in people. She wouldn’t take a reward so I gave her little girl £20. She will be a grown up woman now and her mum did the honest thing a good lesson for her child.

There are also a lot of social media experiments which film people finding the money and seeing if they return it.

Some have fake money and then give the person real money if they hand it back or sometimes it’s just a video of the person taking it or not.

So I think in this day and age no one would consider taking it as they’ll think it was a set up.

No you’re just careless, it’s nothing to do with the made up “Karma”.

A few weeks ago I took our dog for a walk. I found a mobile phone in its case, with a bank card in it. The battery was on 2%. I knocked on a few doors but could not get any answer from any of them. I took the phone home to try and charge it, but couldnt find a charger to fit. Luckily, it rang before the battery died, and it was an old lady trying to speak to her husband. I explained what had happened and told her I would leave it in the local shop. She asked if I could take it to her house instead. It was just up the road. I took it to her house and she was so overjoyed at my honesty. Knowing that the phone and bank card was back with its owner was the best thing.
If the phone had died before knowing where the owner lived, I would have went to the bank to see if they could contact the bank account holder so that it could be collected from them. There is no way that I would have considered doing anything different.

OP, You did the right thing handing it in. The guilt would have got to you had you spent it.

Oh be quiet. What you actually do counts, not what you think, otherwise those of us with intrusive thoughts would be screwed. I had thoughts of throwing DS out of the hospital window when he was a few days old. I also wanted to shake him about a year ago, (I didn't, I put him somewhere safe and left the room to calm down,) and last night I dreamt about smacking him because he was annoying me. I felt awful enough about dreaming about it, so I know I won't actually be doing it in real life.

I once got £20 off a bloke. He'd left something on the table in the café I worked in. (A paper wallet sort of thing.) I tucked it behind the till, and he came back for it a little while later. Turned out it was full of money. He counted it then gave me a £20 note! I considered it an extra birthday present. 😊

Until recently I worked in a supermarket and people would leave phones, wallets, bank cards behind all the time, often on the self-service tills. I would say that 99% of those things got reunited with their owner because almost everyone handed in dropped cards and wallets, we'd even get people bringing us a £5 that they found on the floor.

So I would say that the vast majority of people are honest and decent.

I had my bag returned with purse full of cash id lost on the train so rightful owner probably will receive. Whilst its understandable to feel you need the money morally its not yours

I would have told the staff at the train station and then handed it to the police. After 6 months if not claimed you would have received it back.

I'd check with the train company what their procedure is. They should also return it to you though, if not claimed.

You did the right thing though.

I once worked for the local Sainsbury's and on my lunch break saw that soneone had left a huge wad of money in the cash machine outside. I told my colleagues and then saw the person return to collect it, looking quitr worried and flustered.

It never even crossed my mind to not report it, letalone steal it. I'm always thinking about how I would feel if someone had the decency to report something of mine and hand it in. The relief and respect for their honesty would be huge.

Having a good moral compass is always such a good trait. Be honest, would you be ok with being a thief, petty or otherwise?

Some have fake money and then give the person real money if they hand it back or sometimes it’s just a video of the person taking it or not.
So I think in this day and age no one would consider taking it as they’ll think it was a set up.
Decades ago when I was young, I cant remember who said it, whether it was a clas teacher, something I heard on TV or something a priest said in church but it was words like everything you do act as if you are being watched and make sure you fo the right thing.
These days we probably are being watched but it was way before cctv everywhere. For some reason that stuck with me.

Also, quite a few years ago a man found some perfume in a charity shop bin , except it wasn't, it was Novichok in a Nina Ricci bottle. Since then I have never been curious about anything discarded but looks valuable in a public place.

I'm not saying im a good person I'm neither good or bad but some lessons on how to behave stay with you all your life.

I can honestly say that I would never consider keeping a wallet/purse that I found. I know I wouldn't, I don't even have to think about that.

I remember being in a shop once and an elderly lady was distraught because someone had stolen her purse out of her handbag.

People who steal from others are the scum of the earth.

No, not finding it or I would have no legitimate right to keep it. Winning it/being given it, yes, but not finding it. I couldn't spend it if I'd found it as it's somebody else's, the guilt would eat me up.

Sorry it was totally the right thing to do. You have no idea whether the money will NOT get back to its owner. or how much that owner needs it. We’ve recently managed to be reunited with bags left on SWR trains, so there is every chance this will happen too.

Last night Amazon Grocery accidentally left a bag which was not for us. 3x 1L bottles of Baileys. My DH shrugged as an initial attempt on Amazon was frustrating and there is no-one you can simply call. I eventually went to collect my DS from a ‘play date ‘ (LOL hang out with his GF, he is 18 🤣) but was really worried about the driver. Amazon are b’stards. I knew he might eventually get to the drop off and discover the bag was missing and have no idea where it had been mis-delivered. The customer would be without his Baileys, yes, but he wouldn’t get charged, so an inconvenience only.

My concern was that the driver [minimum wage, no doubt further impacted by current cost of fuel] would get fined or even accused of having stolen it, so I proceeded to spend 30 mins on Amazon customer services’ utterly useless chat programme trying to get it sorted. I was still sorting it when DS pitched up and so he had to act as PA, typing while I drove.

A frustrating and time-consuming process, but a few hours later the driver was able to come and collect the package from my porch and was so appreciative that he knocked to thank me. I HOPE that he was able to deliver it, albeit a little late, so that all that happened was that Amazon would have to recharge a delivery fee to the customer and that the driver was able to get home to his family without having lost any of the small pittance he made doing 20-30 drop offs over however many hours it took.

My DH was taken aback that I had doggedly persisted in trying to reunite the driver with his package - and had I thought that Amazon Inc would be the one to take the loss I confess I’d not have bothered, and would have chucked a bottle in the fridge for a nightcap. But it wasn’t. It was some bloke for whom losing £60worth of goods could have been catastrophic.

The same may be the case for the owner of the wallet at his £200. Always the right thing to be honest.

This resonates with me as I think like you and have done similar even though it’s so time-consuming! Always the right thing to do though.

I once found a £10 note on the floor in Asda - I handed it in at customer services and then a few days later I found a £20 note on the floor in a park - I assumed it was the universes reward for my honesty and kept it 😂

such a weird thing to beat yourself up about, the money wasn’t yours and you didn’t do anything wrong here. Yes you theoretically could have pocketed the money but in the grand scheme, it won’t have helped you much and you may have had a guilty conscience afterwards. At least now, your problems haven’t grown any further ie you’re in the same position you were in, as opposed to a worser position. Betterment from finding someone else’s lost wallet is, a strange mindset imo.

Of course you don’t take money out of someone’s wallet that you find!!!
the fact that you even thought it was a potential option is shocking.

Someone might have stolen it so it might as well have been me profiting from the theft...

I returned my lodgers' deposit of £400 when I was straight broke even though she left damaged and she ran up a £900 energy debt by roasting the property to the point she was walking around in her knickers - purely out of guilt.

Now, I have a new job where I make 3x my previous salary.

Karma comes back, in time. Trust <3

That isn’t karma

:p okie ...

they take it from the amount you return.

it’s only if you find cash.