AIBU to regret handing in cash found in a wallet?

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Found a wallet with £200 cash in it on a train. DH made me hand the wallet and cash in at the train station. I’m so annoyed - yes it was the right thing to do but we’re struggling financially and there’s no way that cash is making its way back to the owner. I shouldn’t have told him and should have just kept it.

A lot of people have, especially people who don't have much. The cats arse 'not earning it' as if half the population isn't working their fingers to the bone for shit pay.

You know you done the right thing and it's probably normal to dwell a bit on what you could have done with the money.

Why? That’s just theft, if you find someone else’s properly, hand it in! I’m not on the Facebook pages of places that my train travels through, nor do I check Facebook every day, and the algorithm filters out some posts anyway. Hand it in to the proper place so people can find their property.

Why do you think it won’t get back to the owner?

You sound greedy.

I found almost £400 in a wallet once.
This was when I was on £80 a week benefits as a single parent.
I handed it in and took the risk of the staff pocketing it. The staff asked me to leave my number but I didn’t think I’d hear anything.

A couple of days later I had a lovely text from a woman who was so grateful that I’d handed it in and it was her rent money.

This was back in the day of Facebook and so I looked her up and there was a post about how grateful she was that a stranger handed in her wallet.
I looked at her profile and she was a single parent with a disabled child and her mum had just died.
I have never been so happy to have handed it in.
Yes I was struggling for money but this woman was also struggling.

Another example was when my friend found a phone when we were out clubbing.
She sent a message to a couple of contacts to say she had the phone.
The owner got back to her and it was an old school friend!
They ended up taking more and they’ve been married for over 10 years now 😊

DH & I were on a very busy station concourse & the guy in front of us at the ATM left without taking his cash. For a split second I admit I was tempted not to do anything & let him just melt into the crowd but then I grabbed the notes & we chased after him. He was so grateful.
I lost my phone once & luckily some honest person had retrieved it from a trolley in Tescos carpark & handed it in to Customer Services. The relief!
I get how hard it can be these days with the COL going crazy but as many pps have said, it’s not worth being a thief & having theft on your conscience.

No! Why would I fantasise about finding money? The money obviously would not be mine if I have to come across it randomly. If it was a treasure hunt then that’s different. I’ve fantasised about winning the lottery. Finding money strongly assumes the rightful owner has mislaid it.

Got to be a goady troll post surely?

30 years ago when I was a teenager I found £80 blowing about on the pavement. I took it to the police station and they told me later that a pensioner came in saying he’d lost that amount in the same place…..he was distraught as had nothing left to buy food. I am so glad I handed it in. There is no reason why the owner of the wallet won’t get it back….chances are they will.

No, because I'd hand it in..

I suppose the op is saying that if someone else hadn’t told her to hand it in she may well have just taken it.
Im sure lots of people wouldn’t be honest , but many more are and do the right thing. Depends on the person doesn’t it.

It's theft by finding. You don't steal things. That's it.

No...my imagination is way too overactive and I would convince myself that it was gang crime money and that even though I wouldn't take it and keep it, gansters would come after me and kill me just for seeing the bag with the money in it

I'd rather carry on being poor than having the stres of finding money

You're wrong then. You are making a big mistake thinking everyone is like you. They're not.

I once fantasised about being successful and getting promoted at work. I then worked hard and studied long hours at night and over weekends to make the fantasy a reality. I was rewarded for my hard work and now live very comfortably. I recommend you try it.

I have never waited for easy money to fall into my lap. Especially not someone else's money.

If you want more money, earn it.

No I haven’t

About winning the lottery maybe but not finding money

This is exactly where my mind goes. I then imagine being caught in the middle of a gang war and regretting keeping the money!

Exactly what I said. The OP isn't getting any good karma anytime soon, because her husband made her hand it in. SHE wanted to keep the money.

The best she can hope for is no bad karma!

Now THIS kind of thing desrves good karma!

Karma isn't real ffs 😅

Every time you regret handing it in imagine it belonged to a gangster and their mission was to find you.

Maybe, who knows? I told DH about it knowing his stance. In my OP I said “DH made me hand it in”, but he didn’t frogmarch me to hand it in as someone else suggested and I suppose that’s how one might interpret being made to do something - but can a grown man make 40 year old heffer sized me do something I don’t want to do?

Anyway, how does karma actually work? Does it rely on people being perfectly pure? Maybe DH won’t get any good karma because he thought about ways of keeping it before saying I should hand it in. Maybe I won’t get any good karma because actually handing it in cancelled out wanting to keep it. Or maybe I will get good karma because actions speak louder than wants and thoughts.

YABVU. That would be stealing. How do you know the money didn’t belong to someone elderly who needed it?

You should always hand it in; it’s not yours.

If you’re worried it won’t make it back to the owner then tell the police as well so they can log it.

Obviously IABVU - I know I am, hence posting. But by equal measure I don’t think I’m morally bankrupt for feeling how I do after actually doing the right thing!

Karma is not a thing.

He wasn’t there …

I’ve twice found cash (notes) lying in the street, nobody around.
i donated it to charity. I would of course have handed in a wallet/purse to the police.

You literally took the wallet home with you? To where he was?