AIBU to regret handing in cash found in a wallet?

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Found a wallet with £200 cash in it on a train. DH made me hand the wallet and cash in at the train station. I’m so annoyed - yes it was the right thing to do but we’re struggling financially and there’s no way that cash is making its way back to the owner. I shouldn’t have told him and should have just kept it.

You'd be amazed at how things do get back to owners. It only takes one honest person to make an effort. Thank god, your husband was that person. So there is a chance. That 200 could be someones food or rent money.

Donating them to charity rather than giving them a chance to get them back to their owner isn’t really better than outright theft.

So, you're saying that before your husband MADE you hand the wallet with the £200 in, he thought about ways of keeping the £200 (of someone else's money!) ... Even though he is an ex copper. (You said this on a previous post on here that he's an ex copper.) An ex copper would KNOW you don't just keep a wallet full of money that you have found! In fact, the vast majority of people know this!

You asked on AIBU, so you KNOW (deep down) on every level that you're in the wrong. Why are you doubling down? EVERYONE on here (almost) is telling you you're being unreasonable, to even think about keeping the money.

You started off by saying your husband MADE you hand it in, and then said later in the thread that he tried to think of some ways to keep it. What ways? What was in this brainstorm he had, what ideas did he have to 'keep the cash' and then go on to decide he is making you hand it in. And all this when he wasn't even with you?

I'm done on this thread now. I can't keep up with you.

YABU definitely though. And you know it. That's why you're so defensive. And you only did the 'right thing' because your husband made you.

94% of around 750 posters so far are saying you are wrong and YABU. Accept this and move on, and stop making excuses.

As I said, I'm done now.

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Youre not a decent person wanting to steal someone's wallet. Your husband is a better person than you! You've given me the ick!

There is a criminal offence called theft by finding. You did the right moral thing, don't regret it.

I don’t believe in karma. I would have kept it. 🤷‍♀️

You did the right thing and it may well make its way back to the rightful owner. Fingers crossed it does, as you don’t know the situation of the person that has lost it.

I remember once when I was younger and in a nightclub I found a purse on the back of the toilet and inside it was about £60. After a few drinks my logic was that if I put it back where I found it the person would go back in to find it. I was washing my hands and touching up my make up when another girl ran out to her group shouting that shots were on her as she’d found money in the loo! I didn’t confront them but felt so bad that I didn’t take the money and hand it to the bar or something.

you should have tried to find the owner rather than handing it in.

You did the right thing.

The OP said very clearly ‘obviously IABVU’ - she isn’t denying she’s being unreasonable.

Yes, I was experiencing a moral dilemma and wasn’t sure handing it in to the ticket office was the right thing to do anyway given the amount of cash in the wallet. And my bus was waiting and I wasn’t about to miss it.

It’s not relevent whether or not you believe in karma, it’s still theft.

At the start of my granddad's memory loss, he casually left £300 in cash on top of a washing machine in a launderette and went off to the supermarket. When he got back for the washing later, a student had found it and was waiting for it's owner to return for it. I'm sure that young lad could have made very good use of it and it would have been absolutely untraceable; his choice made my grandpa feel much better in that moment of feeling a forgetful old eejit. He'd felt so weak and stupid when he realised what he'd done, that lad gave him back a little bit of himself along with the cash. He spoke about it a lot after. It's always worth not being a thief.

Like karma exists 🤣🤣🤣🤣

CCTV would have seen everything
You did the right thing.

Bye @Zov, it was nice having you round for a bit. Keep an eye on your blood pressure.

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I completely agree.

A couple hundred, I would assume is someone’s pension or something, left by someone who really needed it.

A couple thousand or more, I would assume is drug money and so I’d leave it well alone or hand it in and be done.

I’d love to win the lottery but I wouldn’t want to find a huge amount of cash.

Gosh! All a bit OTT! Probably best you are stepping back.

I love this ❤️❤️

What a thread! And on a Sunday. 😆

My 25yr old DD found a purse at a petrol station, found inside details of the owner, and drove over to their house to return it in person!!! It's what people do! That money could be the difference between someone's kids going hungry, or the rent being paid - you just don't know. Morals maketh the man too!

Yes this. I found a wallet with several hundred pounds down the back of a seat on a ferry. I could have kept it but I would have suffered more if I had than if I'd given it in to the Purser (which I did.)

Whether I acted 'morally' or not therefore I don't know.

I think Jesus was right in this basic rule ' treat others as you would want to be treated'.

I won't go far wrong if I follow this. It just takes a modicum of imagination to put yourself in someone else's shoes.

“ I don’t think people really understand “struggling financially” unless you are 🤷🏽‍♀️”

This is a ridiculous thing to say. Many many people are really struggling financially at the moment and are fully aware of how awful that feels.

It doesn’t mean we should all start being dishonest. 🙄.

The owner of that money but be in an equally, or even worse financially challenging position for all you know.

In the end - she took the wallet home first!