Too much negativity on here.. I’m bloody leaving

[Bush100]

Well what a disgrace is all I can say. Racists, negativity, disrespect and not to mention the know it all regulars on here 👍 Some of you really need to have a word with yourself

My comment was deleted because i said the C word.

Cantankerous?

Lol no.

I agree that it can be a cesspit on here sometimes, but it can also be a very supportive place, which I’ve really appreciated over the years. Sometimes, it does become too much, but it’s very easy to hide threads and move on.

There are also numerous different boards, not just AIBU.

Ahhh gotcha. That explains it. I was not trying to be mean.

It is generally accepted to say the word cunt on here as long as it isn’t directed as a personal attack

I don’t really read other peoples comments unless it’s a light hearted post.
I tend to just read the OP’s responses and updates and then give advice if I have any.

It was not a personal attack at all.

👆🏻 This response right here 👆🏻 to my genuine and from the heart post about many of us finding the cruel off-hand vitriol too much, is the most perfect example of what I’m talking about. I spoke without condemnation or vitriol, exploring some of the changes in tone I’ve seen over 2 decades here, and examining what might have driven that shift. I shared that it concerns me why some posters have to be such ‘mean girls’, mocking, deriding and belittling other women for absolutely no reason other than to show off to eachother. I shared that sometimes posters can be feeling vulnerable, or have been bullied or abused in the past and shouldn’t be treated this way on a mums support/chat forum…. I’ve not seen women be so needlessly vile to each other since secondary school. I can’t understand where this shift in the way people relate to each other has all come from - it’s bizarre to me 😵‍💫

I ask all the sneering, ‘clever’, bitchy mean-girl posters this….

Would you be so horrible and rude and dismissive to the woman who treats your husband when he’s in a suicidal depression and successfully manages to save his life? Because that’s me and that’s what I’ve been doing all day. Im not a disembodied username to be mocked and jeered at for laughs. A real human. A mum to two lovely kids. A single parent. An NHS worker. A daughter. A really loyal and sociable friend. The person who puts your bin out when you forget etc. I could be your next door neighbour under an alias. I could be the really lovely dinner lady at your son’s primary school. I could be the person who donated the blood that just saved your mum’s life after that hip fracture. All of us on here are ALL of these things.

Please - think about that before you bully and dismiss and mock and heckle. These are real people you are treating like dirt.

I said the general theme of the above in a measured way in my earlier post, and got the above sarcastic, deriding, belittling and nasty post as a reply. 🫤

….Which rather demonstrates my point.

Fifteen years here, but I don’t recognise this now, nor the shameful bitchy bullying hate-filled cesspit of frothing rage and insouciant cruelty that these posters have morphed it into. It’s a shame. And I’m ashamed for it.

I agree with you but I think you are wasting your time trying to get to them. They are not bothered, otherwise they wouldn’t be doing it in the first place.

Bye!

You Gods that's brave of you. Folk generally get ripped to shreds for not RTT!!!!

This is good to remember.

You'll be back.
Nobody who's done one of these departure announcement rants has ever stayed away.

Flounce away!

That usually means not reading OP updates though, it doesn’t really relate to replies.

This isn’t an airline. You don’t have to announce your departure.

Sorry to see you go. We've probably chatted under old usernames. I've been here since it practically started & it's definitely not what isn't once was, but there are still lovely corners & there's still nowhere better when the chips are really down.

i wish you well & please know that there is still suppprt here if you ever feel the need!

take care of yourself ☕️ 💕

But, but, but, I love you! Please don't leave! For God's sake, don't leave! I'll do anything you ask, just don't leave!
😭😭😭

It’s really important to be aware of that and hence standards that might apply on an out and out support forum are a bit more loosely followed here - it is meant to be entertainment as well as useful advice in many sections.i just try to ignore the nasty stuff which is more common in sone sections than others because ive picked up some great tips, learnt lots about all kinds of things i knew nothing about and have seen some totally amazing support when people have had really sad/awful issues ,including terminal illness, dying parents etc - that’s very tough stuff and the support was immense -
unfortunately like anywhere these days it does attract the bored and the bots /paid agitators , who often come on with a particular agenda or sometimes just to wind people up - same is true on most sites with a big platform and reach

Ooh I haven’t seen a flounce for ages.

What a load of pretentious crap. Just leave if you don’t like it. Don’t be so bloody arrogant as to think you’ve made enough of a lasting impression on an anonymous forum that anyone will take heed of a lecture.

bye dont let the door hit you on the way out....or perhaps become an adult and scroll past things that dont fit your criteria ..how about that

[Peeps from behind the sofa]

Has she gone yet? 😱

I just need to stay away from the AIBU threads, they always raise my blood pressure 😂 need to stick with shopping and fashion as I could do with a makeover! I went away for a few days and didn't have time for MN and felt so much better for it, yet here I am again!