Too much negativity on here.. I’m bloody leaving

[Bush100]

Well what a disgrace is all I can say. Racists, negativity, disrespect and not to mention the know it all regulars on here 👍 Some of you really need to have a word with yourself

Thank goodness you found something positive to say 😏

I agree, it’s not a nice place anymore and I used to find it far kinder, reasonable and more supportive

Agreed.

But I have learnt it is the same on any social media forum.

I take myself off the internet for about 3 days from time to time.
Come back and see how I feel.

This forum is no longer my main one.
But partly because I have outgrown it.

Its social media don't take it so seriously, if it hurts your feelings and effects your real life then absolutely leave. But know that about 75% of what you read online here or any social media isn't real.

Ii agree there is a lot of racism and Islamophobia. There are good people who do challenge them but sometimes the racists are overwhelming.

MNHQ obviously are quick to delete any obvious racist posts but a lot of dog whistle posts are left to stand.l because they don’t explicitly break forum guidelines.

Im amazed at how seriously people take this or any site that are chat forums

They're entertainment, chats, thats all. Nice to look at while having a cuppa.

Op I’ve read some very measured, helpful and lovely posts and comments here recently, Id say look for more lighthearted ones!

As others have probably said…this is not an airport. You do not need to announce your departure….

Ah okay so perhaps the OP posted so that people would persuade her not to leave!

Love it.

I don’t think OP is looking for attention I think she’s trying to make a point about how judgemental and nasty things can get on here. There seem to be some posters with real problems and vulnerabilities looking for help and other posters who are just on for amusement and to show off how witty and uncompromising they are. There’s an incompatibility. I think OP is hoping people will reflect. Thing is I think she’s wasting her time and it’s not likely to change. I find the forum very addictive and amusing but I definitely wouldn’t use it for anything serious, it’s not confidential either, it can be easier to spot a real life situation than you would think.

It can be a snake pit and if it’s not your thing that’s fine. But I don’t see the point of telling everyone. It’s like the weekly ‘MN is shit’ posts.

Nobody is obliged to be here - if you don’t like it, move on 🤷‍♀️

I agree that this place can be pretty toxic. A lot of the rudeness and aggression has seeped over from AIBU to other areas that were previously fairly safe. I think the threads asking for support are the absolute worst because, although there are often many helpful and supportive posts, they get drowned in a sea of nastiness, with side fights and huge pile ons. And then the poor OP disappears because they’re getting the complete opposite of what they were asking for. The whole internet is full of people you would never be friends with and Mumsnet is no different. Some of the posts I have read castigating people with disabilities, people on benefits, people with mental health problems, have left me in utter despair for the human race. I have a particular problem with the lack of understanding around anxiety, having personal experience of how debilitating it can be. Some of the worst comments come from people who say they have suffered with anxiety themselves. A bit like evangelical ex smokers.

But you shouldn’t see Mumsnet as a homogeneous group. ‘We’ aren’t out to get you. Personally I’m not part of any ‘we’ and nor are most. And announcing your departure will never go down well on here😆

Yeah, you’re right. I was really trying to warn anyone who’s unhappy and living a lot of their life online not to take MN too seriously.

We don't know that is why OP has posted. Because OP hasn't said any of that. All OP has done is insult the site and its posters in a generic and belittling way, and be rude and negative to those who disagree.
IME people who do this are usually coming at it with the agenda of discrediting the site and the predominantly women users for their own reasons.
I strongly agree about the racism. But calling that out should be done on the threads and via reporting. Lumping racism in with telling a poster they think her test looks positive as an indication of how awful the women on here are, and scolding in such a goady way, just dilutes a valuable point.

How did you know about the name change?

YABU to be unaffected by what a group of complete strangers type on a keyboard. I’m also unsure what outcome you expected. The people you describe won’t recognise themselves, nor care if they do. Mb is best approached with a sense of humour for such types. If your wellbeing is affected then it’s definitely best to leave

When is a flounce not a flounce? When the OP changes her name so she can keep scrolling and posting after throwing a tantrum. Like the OP who started this thread 😇

As much as this thread is hilarious with the flouncing, I actually agree with this bit! 🤣

Oh, I do love a big FLOUNCE!

Bye bye.

If you have issues with some posters, I believe you can block them. But then it sounds like there's so many, you wouldn't see any posts at all if you did that!
I've been on here for 10 years or so and I have to agree, nasty and aggressive comments have taken over a lot of threads. You have to scroll through pages to pick out the 10% of sensible advice or debate. All people want to do is jump in and be bitchy. But then some of the posts are very goady, so it's hardly surprising sometimes!
And don't get me started on the armchair professionals! Jumping to conclusions when they have no idea and frightening the OPs to death!
But anyway, if it's winding you up to such an extent, then maybe it's best to just leave for the sake of your mental health.

Well I for one would! I'm too old in the tooth now to keep the peace if I think something isn't right! I say exactly what I want to say, via posts and if someone was stood in front of me! I agree though, a lot of people really wouldn't. Gotta love a keyboard warrior, not! 🙄

You definitely need to leave, OP, since being on here is driving you mad.
I'm still here because there are still many generous, witty, knowledgeable women sharing their knowledge and support. I try to look past the AI and deliberate provocation to find the gems.

thing is OP, I do understand how you feel but sadly this is life as it is - try x , you come back here thinking ‘whoa it’s a breath of fresh air’ - stuffed full of clearly very very negative people, massive amounts of racism ( lots of very racist and unrealistic older women too, not just American male knuckledraggers ) plus a fair old load of disillusioned younger people who think the world owes them a living for not doing much - the world has gone mad and at the moment feels unstable and out of control- that’s the issue. A lot of people feeling they need someone to blame it all on

Yep, I have posted nothing on this site I wouldn't say straight to someone's face. I think some people are so terrified of being assertive that they can't even imagine lots of us are not.

Also, many who accuse others of being too aggro are in fact far worse, they wouldn't speak their mind or (heaven forfend!) raise their voice - but they are slyly, smilingly, viciously vituperative. I'd far rather be stabbed in the front than have a virulently "polite" insult levelled at me.

And the OP is here calling strangers slurs and insulting them, but thinks she's virtuous for doing so.

There is much hypocrisy amongst the "noice" classes.