Too much negativity on here.. I’m bloody leaving

[Bush100]

Well what a disgrace is all I can say. Racists, negativity, disrespect and not to mention the know it all regulars on here 👍 Some of you really need to have a word with yourself

There is, unfortunately, no blocking on this site. There definitely should be, but it's all about clicks, and if blocking was allowed the views would drop. I wouldn't notice, or care at all, if anyone blocked me, and it's pretty backwards really for any site not to allow that in this day and age.

Oh, I'm sure I've seen people suggesting blocking someone! Maybe that's just for the people who pay to use MN? I admit I've not tried as I don't come across anyone I'd feel the need to block!

Posters have asked MNHQ for a 'block poster' function but MNHQ has thus far said No.

You can hide threads though, and whole boards. I have hidden the 'Sex' board, for example, as it's full of weird male fetishists who are very obviously sitting at a screen typing with just one hand iyswim. Absolutely revolting.

On further reading of some of the flippant, needlessly caustic and competitive attempts to be the most bitchy / funny in their response to the OP, I’ve come to the conclusion that after 15yrs of being a Mumsnetter my relationship with Mumsnet now probably needs to come to an end.

For those early days of pregnancy and young child-rearing I found the majority of threads warm, wise, riotously funny, down-to-earth and supportive. A real sense of solidarity. Witty, bright, socially-conscious women, holding each others backs.

It’s sad but I think those days are long gone. I get that trends / demographics / speech patterns / aggression levels / communication trends change with the passage of time. And now this is a different place. Not a wrong place. Just different to the one that was my home and home to many of us from the 2010’s onwards.

I’m an old croc now (45), and I don’t use other SM so I’ve been kept sheltered from this new knives-out communication style, probably imported from other SM platforms and the general proliferation of hiding behind keyboards saying horrible things to anonymous other users. So this just seems alien to me.

I don’t think I’m a good fit for MN now. And it’s not a good fit for me or my emotional wellbeing. Seeing people (OP) being mocked by a huge group of people has really upset me but at least drawn a line in the sand.

I’m maintaining that line in the sand now by deleting my account with heavy heart. Thanks to all you amazing women who’ve tried to keep the old spirit alive (and have kept me alive at points).

ps: Fully prepared that my message will now also elicit a pile-on of mockery, sarcasm and incitements to ‘shut the door on your way out’. If it does, then proof that my decision was a sound one.

😔

No, there's no blocking, paid or unpaid. I think you can block someone if they private message you, but that's it.

Seriously, love, you're not at the Oscars, nobody needed your speech. Glad you realised it was mock-worthy at least 😅 I cannot emphasise enough that you leaving doesn't matter, nobody at all cares, you won't be missed and it doesn't matter how you feel. No lines are being drawn ffs you're just not posting on a website 😆

Just like nobody with a life cares about my comment and it doesn't matter on any actual, real level.

It's just a website. Move on. Ciao!

So much on here taken to heart ❤️

Flaming threads can just be scrolled past rather than analysed. You don't have to look at them all. Actually not enough hours in the day to do that anyway!
Dont click on subjects that trigger your low moods or leave them as soon as you realise.
Strangers don’t know the real you …. and certainly if there was anyone I really do know on here I’m unaware of it. XenaBallerina’s not the name on my correspondence at home!
I’m actually quite sad that some people’s mental health is adversely affected by website comments from people they’ve never met and won’t.
Life really is way too short.

Seriously, love, you're not at the Oscars, nobody needed your speech.

It’s more British Soap Awards, I’d say.

Seriously, love, you're not at the Oscars, nobody needed your speech

Quite! It’s all a bit “main character”, the big announcements and rambling speeches.
What a ridiculous waste of time.
Just put your phone down and do something else if you don’t like this forum.

@Funnywonder i imagine that poster did an advanced search on the username - no posting history in this case would suggest a name change as opposed to a new account.

I've looked at the threads from 2007 and they have the same types of threads we have today and the same types of posters.

There is more racism now though.

Who are the regulars now? I’ve been on here for 18 years and don’t really recognise anyone anymore.

Likewise! I think the membership is so much larger now.
I think the regulars back in the day were annoying and self important, though; they’d start chatting in the middle of someone’s thread about unrelated stuff.
And there were the queen bees that people used to inexplicably bow down to, even though there was nothing particularly interesting about them.

Don’t let the door hit you on the ass on the way out

I agree with you. I always leave Mumsnet feeling worse than before. People can be SO kneejerk nasty here (see the toxic responses on this board for absolutely no reason) and they don't want to reflect on how they're reacting. I leave Mumsnet feeling like schools are awful, the world is going to hell, kids are being ruined with modern life etc, when I don't really see that in my own life. Its like a distillation of all that is terrible and it is unique to this site. Like other posters, I've outgrown it. I wish there was another site where mostly women could get together because I love the comaradary but I just use Reddit now. People seem more balanced and open to positivity there.

@Wearenotborg I was researching something and landed on a link to Mumsnet, then saw I had a notification and kept scrolling for a bit. OPs post was near the top. Mumsnet is still a top search result for many parent related things and I wasn't intentionally here to scroll.

It was definitely more cliquey back then!! A lot of sycophantic hero worshiping too. Don’t really see that at all anymore, but I’m on here a lot less these days.

This isn’t the airport; you don’t need to announce your leaving!

If MNHQ was a bit more proactive in judging genuine replies vs. intentionally winding up the OP, there might be less vitriol - I do find that one nasty reply can lead to a few, which ultimately leads to a pile-on. Whereas on Reddit each reply has its own thread so the topic isn’t derailed elsewhere, which leaves a lot less motivation for the witch hunt. I find a lot of genuine, good-hearted advice on that site when people are in troubling situations.

Joke is so tired it’s already been made on this thread.

🤣🤣😂😂😂

Not for me, I'm so tickled because I'm hearing it for 1st time 🤣🤣🤣🤣

It’s on a par with ‘If I tell her I went to Tenerife, she says she has been to Elevenerife’ for me 🤣

You’re not wrong! Not that long ago I’d get challenged on the shit I post on here. Now I get 20 thumbs up, 14 hearts and posters agreeing with me 🤣🤣

Is this going to become a thread for people to condemn MN and then announce their departure?

Not me, I bloody love the drama.