WTF was he wearing?!

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I passed a man earlier (maybe 45 to 50), who was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'm not a gynecologist [sic], but I'll take a look anyway".

AIBU to think this is arrantly classless, misogynistic in reducing women to mere vulvas and that you'd have you'd have to be a prick to own such a monstrosity, never mind wear it out in public?!

It is better they signal their simple-minded ignorance and misogyny than hide it.
Perhaps ALL convicted sex offenders should be required to wear T shirts like that.

A few years ago in Texas I saw a biker with a T-shirt saying on the back, "if you can read this, the bitch has fell off".

But 'only' disapproving is what most people on here have done
I absolutely disapprove of stuffing that.
If it is normalised ,imo, it makes society feel aggressive. If my ds' every wore stuff like that they would certainly hear my opinion about it.
However they have had it drummed into them since they were children how to behave both in private and in public.

I remember when ds2 was a young teenager telling me a tale of his mate screaming because they saw a rat or something. Ds said he hasd a 'rape face'. Apparently this was the slang for someone looking frightened. After our conversation I doubt he has ever said that again! He came to me later with an apology and said he just thought it was something people said and never thought it through.

Absolutely disgusting. Imagine he is someone’s son/dad etc I’d be appalled

At least it gives every woman a clear signal to cross to the other side of the road when they see him

Yep, my mum used to make comments about my eldest son's "sexy bottom" when he was a toddler getting his nappy changed.
Definitely nothing untoward from her just a total.lack of awareness.
She would have been in her 70s.when she said this.

I agree that turning the other way and not challenging behaviour like this is not good for society at all. People talk about 'policing', but nobody is suggesting that you have to go in with a riot shield, truncheon and loudhailer.

I was just making the point that people weren't even 'policing' it in the first place, yet were berated for supposedly doing so.

If you feel it's safe to do so, I see no issue at all in quietly having a word with them and telling them how upsetting it is for you and/or children to have to see. They may well just tell you to F-off; but they may actually take it on board that not everybody will appreciate their brand of 'humour', and that children will see it too, as well as teenagers who will fully understand what it's suggesting and may find it very uncomfortable.

It's probably not overly likely, but with some of them, they may not speak English well/at all and have bought it because they like the colours and the look of the design without understanding the implications or nuances to native speakers; or they may even have learning disabilities and not really grasp what it's driving at and pick up on social cues as to what is or isn't appropriate. I'm reminded here of the Chinese man whose social media channel went viral worldwide; but he didn't speak any English, so he just automatically responded to every comment in English with three 'crying with laughter' emojis. Somebody deliberately left a (not actually true) comment suggesting that their whole family had perished in a house fire to 'test it' and they received the same 'crying with laughter' response!

I've seen similar ones with '...my wife must have fallen off' - and found them funny, because they're obviously just silly, farcical humour; but there's absolutely no need or justification for offensive misogynistic language.

Um..
That's not designed for children to wear.

It's a DD/LG ageplay fetish thing.

I know someone who has one that says two seater, with an arrow to his face and an arrow to his groin. He thinks it’s hilarious… 🤢

I was reading at three. I would absolutely have read that out loud and asked Mummy what it meant (which apparently I used to do with graffiti all the time).

And maybe I'm overthinking it here, but it's entirely possible a child might think that a man offering to be "a kind of doctor" is doing so to be helpful so if someone asked to check something....

That's a very good point about the graffiti, actually. It's generally looked on negatively - and if it's just a stylish neutral tag, it tends to be tolerated; but anything offensive is instantly reported to the council and cleaned off/painted over.

Obviously a person wearing a t-shirt isn't going to stay in the same place like a wall, and so is harder to report successfully; but offensive graffiti anywhere in public is a nasty thing.

So was I and I probably would have asked as well.

But I would have been given a made up explanation (or told not to stare at people).

What exactly are you suggesting in your final paragraph? That a child might ask him for help thinking he’s a doctor?

So what would you suggest? He is wearing a t shirt that isn’t illegal.

I can't suggest anything, I'm afraid. Lots of anti-social behaviour is technically legal, and the perpetrators just get away with it. It doesn't mean that the rest of us have to just smile, shut up and be happy for them doing it, though.

Symptoms of the general coarsening of society

I remember years ago people wearing T-shirts like “FBI - female body inspector”. They were supposed to be funny but never were. I would put this man in the category of men who thought those T-shirts were hilarious and then never grew up. I would take comfort in the fact that they have probably seen very few female bodies or vulvas in real life purely due to their taste in T-shirts

Ewww,🤮🤢that reminds me of this old guy at the gym who would wear a long stringy vest emblazoned with the words FBI "FEMALE BODY INSPECTOR " on it.. disgusting!!

Grim.

I bet he also had the “orgasm donor on board” car sign I saw a while back.

Did you go to the same gym as Jimmy Savile?

That is fully disgusting.

I used to know a woman who referred to her 2-4 yo DD as sexy quite often. She seemed to think it was like saying she was beautiful or cute. But it always made me feel weird!

My uncle’s (now ex) wife used to refer to my son as “sexy” when he was a baby, it really weirded me out

Yeah because his campaign of abuse against women, children, disabled people and corpses is exactly the same as some bloke wearing a t-shirt 🙄

Its comments like that which make you look unhinged.

It kind of does though. He wasn’t hurting anyone, it was just a stupid t-shirt. Save your anger for something that is actually harmful

Livia, do you own shares in T-shirtHell.com or something? You serm very angry about the reactions of others.