Only knickers in the Co-op

[1981RickyVilla]

A teenage girl (aged 15 or 16, roughly) in front of me in the Co-op was wearing a crop-top and a pair of knickers only. Not bikini bottoms, not short shorts but cotton M & S midi style knickers. I didn’t say anything (none of my business and she probably wouldn’t have approved my sartorial choices either). If I had been her mother, seeing her before she left the house, I would have said that it looked unhygienic and wasn’t an appropriate way to go to the shops.
YABU: People of whatever age can dress how they like when they go to the Co-op.
YANBU: A mini-skirt or pair of shorts are a minimum requirement when you’re off to the shops.

Tell me you've never had a Friday night out in the Bigg Market in Newcastle without telling me you've never had a Friday night out in the Bigg Market in Newcastle...

I didn’t know people still wore pjs to Tescos. Not in my big one, but maybe I’m blind!

I've had the same thing several times, very nearly told her her arse was hanging out because from the front looking in the mirror she genuinely wouldn't see. But figured I wouldn't be thanked for pointing it out.

Exactly!

It was 8 degrees where I am yesterday. Not knicker-only weather. Are you sure it wasn't some kind of hotpant?

It’s not when it’s everywhere, walking to the theatre in Liverpool the other weekend, ‘oh my eyes!’

I mean, I'll raise an eyebrow if I see something like this because I am in my fifties and it's been a long time since I was a teen with only half my brain fully grown and dressing deliberately to shock. But I was that tennager once, and I haven't forgotten that it is part of teenagerdom to dress to shock and part of fashion's job to assist them. I don't think women get raped because of what they're wearing and so whilst I understand, OP, but I just can't get excited about this.

I mean the outfit sounds awful but surely he just doesn't look at her?

Are you trying to get into Classics @1981RickyVilla ?

But thats not realistic. I can imagine at a friend's house you'd be expected to say hello and chat briefly to the daughter. Avoiding looking at her or chatting politely would look really suspect IMO.

Apparently her ‘poor DH’s’ eyes can’t be expected to look away. They can only swivel directly in the direction of a young girl’s chest or bottom.

It is definitely not easy not to look. I'm female and I'd definitely find it difficult to drag my eyes away from a scantily clad male or female.

It's the same as when someone looks weird because of cosmetic surgery. You can't quite believe your eyes so you keep taking look.

You just look into their eyes. The polite thing to do when talking to someone is to give them eye contact. That’s basic etiquette in every social and business interaction.

What do you do when you see someone with serious facial disfigurements?

Reminds me of similar during the height of scary-Covid lockdown - 3 teen girls coming into our local corner shop with no masks - it was quite obvious from their semi aggressive demeanour that they were positively dying for me to say something, so they could tell me to fuck off.

I just paid and left, but did feel sorry for the poor bloke (masked) at the till.

Exactly. Someone else said (sorry I’ve lost the post) that if this was a man walking around in his pays he’d be labelled a perv. Yet somehow we’re excusing girls and women in their pants in the shops!

of course you’d look and think “huh where’s her clothes?”

we are social beings and need to open our eyes to be able to move around safely etc. I notice if someone has nice trainers I like or some colourful earrings etc.

we can’t all look down at the ground in case we accidentally see someone’s bum!

How trashy and attention seeking. And when they get the unwanted attention they are offended. Walking round in your actual underwear is just trashy behaviour and shameful

Well you notice don’t you. If you don’t then this comment is void.

but then you look away.

we all look at people. I’m on public transport and look around and I don’t stare but you notice who’s around you for safety. When I get up I will look at the person and may even (shock horror) smile or say excuse me whilst looking at their face!

noticing someone is very different from staring

Have you ever been to Newcastle? Being cold is just not a thing.

Exactly, you may notice, but you look away. Whereas people here are saying it’s difficult to drag your eyes away from a scantily clad woman.

If you can look away from someone with serious facial disfigurements, you can look away from someone scantily clad.

I have seen this but agree, if it's a young teen I wouldn't tell tell them in case it was intentional. If she was over 25 I would. But I would say your skirts tucked in your knickers just I case "I can see your pants" was the intention.

I fully agree with you 100%, and not only that, but she's putting herself at risk from predators.

Some years back, when I was interviewing candidates for a job, I put it in the job description that candidates don't have to come into the interview ''pristine and wearing pin-striped suits'' if they don't want to, but they can wear casual clothing to a reasonable level. So, no matter what the gender, a decent pair of trousers/dress, whatever, flat shoes, a reasonable top, and tidy hair.

I had a woman coming in, basically wearing what you just described. She didn't get the interview!

When she stated about the casual clothing code, I replied Yes, casual, not almost naked. This is a job interview for a shop assistant position, not a poster for Baywatch!''

There is a poster on here who keeps starting threads about underwear.
They're obsessed with that women are wearing including working police officers.
Police raids are another fascination.
They always pretend to be 'one of the girls', a wife and/or a mother.
I am certain this is one of their attempts to gather wank fodder.

It’s getting silly in men’s athletics nowadays with virtually everything on show when they are racing in lycra, why can’t they just all wear the same shorts that are not so revealing.

If I had seen a child wearing just ‘M&S’ knickers in a shop with no adult I would probably ask if they were ok. If possible to know where they live I would probably report it as a welfare concern.