To ask your opinion re holiday dilemma?

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I’ve been invited to go on holiday to go to something specific that I’d love. The holiday is abroad in a close European country. I love the idea of it and dh wants me to go as he knows I’d love it. But I have a baby that I’ve only been more than an hour away from once. I don’t cosleep but apart from that I’m always with her, do 95% of their daily care etc. I am really worried that she’d struggle with me all of a sudden not being there. Dh is a very capable and competent parent and can look after her brilliantly, I just always want to do it. I don’t know how I’d be being away from her that long and I’m more worried about how she’d be with me being gone. I’d FaceTime but I’d be gone 4-5 nights. Dh is saying go, enjoy, relax etc but I’d miss her so much and I’d be worried she’d miss me too. She will be 15 months at the time, it’s not until later this year. What would you do?

Go!

I'd say go! She'll be fine with her dad.

15 months? She will be fine!

Go and enjoy yourself. It's only 4/5 days, she'll be fine when you get home.

I think you all need this!!!

I think you should go but make sure she's gets use to time away from you first. Go out for the day, maybe even do a night away

Of course she’ll miss you and you’ll miss her but I think it’s really important for both of you to experience that and she then gets the reassurance you come back to her. You have a bit of time to build up to it - try and spend a bit more time apart if you can so it doesn’t come out of nowhere you not being there. The physical leaving will be hard and you’ll be worrying about it but you’ll be glad when you actually get there and relax into it.

Definitely go.

I took a work opportunity for a week away when PFB DC was 14 months old. I came back and continued breastfeeding and everyone was happy.

This.

15 weeks, maybe not; 15 months, definitely go!

Nah. You’ll miss her terribly. She’s only a bay for such a short moment of time

Go.

You've got time to prep..get DH doing more and you taking a step back.

Do you go out with friends and leave DC with DP for bedtime/meals.

You need to build up the times he does things and get yourself used to allowing him.

I wouldn't because I wouldn't have enjoyed it. Unless this is a once in a lifetime thing, just go another time.

Of course you can go and it will be fine, but if you're worried about it just postpone.

Go it is a great opportunity for you to be something other than Mum, and a great opportunity for your DH to spend some time with DD

absolutely go!!

my friend moved to the Middle East when my third daughter was 16 months old, I felt like the worst parent in the universe for wanting to visit her but as it was, she barely noticed I was gone 😂

This

She will be absolutely fine with her Dad, it will do her no harm at all.

The big question is will you be ok? Will you enjoy the reality of not physically being with your child for 4/5 nights? Mine are 10 and 14 now, I only do 3 nights max even now. Everybody is different but I couldn’t have managed that long without them at that young age. Just really think about it, I booked trips I massively regretted when my first was born, my heart literally ached the whole time.

I was thinking you were going to say three months or something. Over one definitely go and enjoy yourself!

My first though is that you should go, at 15 months she old enough to be without you a few days especially with her dad who you say is capable.

Having said that it also depends on how ready you are to be away from her, will you spend the whole trip being worried and end up not enjoying the trip? I think that what's you need to figure out, your child will be fine.

I would go but I would use the time between now and then to get her used to spending more time with dad alone - maybe do a night away a couple of times?

Can you go home if you want to after one night or whenever you want to?

Absolutely go!! 4 or 5 days is no time at all in the grand scheme of things, you won’t regret it (and she won’t remember!)

Go and enjoy yourself! It sounds like an experience you would benefit greatly from. Of course you will miss DD, but this will give you the opportunity to be “you “ for a few days.

Go! It will actually be great for your DH to bond and honestly I’d be letting him do more now, it’s a little sad you don’t

Go for it. You are defined by more than just motherhood.