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[Teacake808]

Need to know if i am over doing it ...? My child grew up in the same area she is now graduating from high school( unfortuately we had to move but daughter still finished her time at school) She has had 1 of the same friends from nursery through to high school (still live in the area) of which we had for many sleepovers over the years, my daughter never once slept over there. My daughter missed the last bus 2 nights ago and this mother would not let her stay over(12 am) my daughter was left out in the streets. Dad got her not long after.. why are people so bloody cruel or am i expecting too much( obviously i doubt this but just checking)

I didn’t suggest a poster stop posting 🤷‍♀️🤣

@LiviaDrusillaAugusta oh do shut up.. you are getting really boring now. 🤣

You don't know the reason.
There could be a serious issue you're not aware of.

It's awful your DD was left out alone in the middle of the night but that's different to them not hosting sleepovers.

Are they perhaps embarrassed about their home? Think you’re richer/posher and would judge it? Hoarders? I don’t know, you just don’t know with people. Are they perhaps religious / different culture and can’t accept strangers in the home?

@Prawnkonjac yes I agree with you. We have already discussed it with her and told her she should have called us immediately for a lift. She walked her friend home whilst trying to get a uber. I actually called her as I can never sleep until she's home

@Teacake808 The mother seems like a right horrible nasty bastard! It sounds like she can’t be arsed with her own child never mind anyone else’s. Sorry your DD was left stranded. Just keep in mind you’re not like that and please keep letting your DD’s friend stay over it’s probably the only time the child gets attention/love/felt wanted be the bigger person and teach your DD good ethics. Also make sure she keeps those connections and childhood friends; even if other parents don’t have the kids best interest at heart know you have.

@JoeSikoraTommysStory thank you 😊 x

@Teacake808 thanks for your reply! It’s good to hear your DD didn’t react negatively or get upset. She sounds well grounded and accepting of people the way they are which is always a good thing.

The main thing I would worry about is safety late at night but at least she knows the situation for next time when socialising with said friend. I still think it’s a horrible way to treat a friend let alone a long standing one.

Some of these replies are absolute bat shit!!! If anyone reading this genuinely believes it’s ok for a 17 year old girl to be left outside someone’s house at midnight I actually worry about society.

OP, the way you have worded your post has put people’s backs up so you’re getting a hard time.

There is no excuse, not a single one for not allowing your DD to wait inside.

@Prawnkonjac yes thats what happend. Fortunately she also has alot of lovely friends who would not behave this way. I do get my DD was at fault here too but honestly I can't understand a parent not allowing her to wait inside until she was picked up.

@Sandcaaarstle yes totally agree i could have worded it better! Not a regular poster only come to read. I will know for next time though 😊

@Prawnkonjac she was not hoping to change the situation! She often walks friends home in the day time also! That's just her nature

@Prawnkonjac she was not hoping to change the situation! She often walks friends home in the day time also! That's just her nature. Rest assured she won't be doing that again though! I have already told you we have spoke to her about not calling us right away

She was left alone on the street after midnight though. That's pretty bad in my opinion. They could have let her stay in their house until her dad arrived.

@Prawnkonjac absolutely agree! She should have waited outside the house rather than walk the streets. She knows I am really disappointed she did that.

Depends if the mum literally shut the door in her face knowing she would be alone and unsafe in the streets late at night or if they said no you can’t stay over please call your dad to get you and waited for him?

Have you / are you going to say something to the parents?

id be temped to ring them and ask them where your daughter is as she has not come home … let them think she may have been abducted for a bit , say her last known position was outside their home

id never speak yo them ever again snd id make sure they knew how upset i was , unforgivable thing to do

It is a little odd that she wasnt even allowed tonwiat, but then perhaps it is also time your dd learnt to be more responsible for not missing the last bus home and also her own safety. She ahould have stayed close to the friends house and called you/her dad or a taxi.

Her walking the streets is on her not on the friends mum. Ultimately you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.

So was your daughter left outside, on her own, whilst she waited for her Dad?

You may think it would have been ‘kind’ of them to allow your daughter to sleep over, but people have their own rules and boundaries for their own reasons.
As long as they didn’t leave her alone and vulnerable, I don’t think they did anything wrong.