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[Teacake808]

Need to know if i am over doing it ...? My child grew up in the same area she is now graduating from high school( unfortuately we had to move but daughter still finished her time at school) She has had 1 of the same friends from nursery through to high school (still live in the area) of which we had for many sleepovers over the years, my daughter never once slept over there. My daughter missed the last bus 2 nights ago and this mother would not let her stay over(12 am) my daughter was left out in the streets. Dad got her not long after.. why are people so bloody cruel or am i expecting too much( obviously i doubt this but just checking)

@Benjii that is not the case

Do we talk about graduating from high school now? Interested to know when that became a thing.

@OwlsDontGoToSchool yes it is a thing.

So did her friend just shut the door on her and went in. Has your daughter ever been inside the house?

Oh the irony of that comment…

@youalright yes pretty much

She needs better friends

Interesting, so at what point is “graduation”? I’ve got a year 11 and a year 13, is it when they go into sixth form from year 11, or leave sixth form? We’d just call it leaving secondary school, or going to college. I wonder if it’s regional.

@LiviaDrusillaAugusta I don't wish to engage with you could you kindly stop commenting.

In real life this is appalling behaviour. On Mumsnet, where putting someone up overnight or giving them a lift home is like giving someone a kidney it’s entirely reasonable…..

I’d be messaging the parents and telling them what I think of them, personally. Might not be the most wise thing to do but I wouldn’t be able to stop myself from making them aware of what I thought of them.

Has your dd ever been inside her house

@OwlsDontGoToSchool yes it is end of 6th year thing. Not sure how long it's been a thing. My son also had one 5 years ago at the end of 6th year. He is now doing his masters 😊

This!

100% accurate. In MN land, you don’t have to do annything unless you’re legally required to do so! I once read a thread where people were asking why they should say please and thank you for anything! Absolutely baffling

On a public forum? Aren’t you a charm!

I think this is very poor form by the friend’s parents. No way would I leave a teenager on the street at midnight. At the very least I would have them wait inside the house until the parents arrived to collect them. But then again my DD’s friends are always welcome in our home.

Chaotic household?
Crazy dog/s?
Alcoholic parents?
Weed growers?
Marital tensions?
Hoarders?
Smelly house?
Extreme religous beliefs?

You just don't know what goes on behind closed doors or why someone won't allow guests

This does seem difficult to understand.
What do you or your daughter think is the reason this family did this?

The world isn't split with people agreeing with you having sense, and people not agreeing with you having no sense. It really doesn't work like that.

I don't understand it either OP. I'd never turn one of my kids friends away in those circumstances.

I'd want to know this too.

@Teacake808 just wondered if you saw my post last night as I asked a couple of questions at the end. Of course you’re under no obligation to answer them!

@LiviaDrusillaAugusta could say the same about you.

@PurpleDisco sorry I didn't answer and I don't mind answering your questions! I have no idea if they are embaressed but I can't see why they would be. No DD has never been invited in, which i have always been fine with. Each to their own. I just felt it was a bit unkind given the one off situation. My daughter is absolutely fine with it, she has lots of friends and she certainly wouldn't put her off still being friends with the girl. She is very loyal. Hope i answered all the questions let me know if I missed any 😊