Friend price checked my DH's birthday gift to me, in my face

[BigBird100]

A girlfriend googled the price of my DH's birthday gift to me (piece of tech) on the day I received it. She asked me what I received and I mentiined it over coffee and was beyond mortified she googled it and priced it. Who does that?

your friend

Did she price check it or did she fancy one herself and googled it?

To be honest I think asking an adult what they got for their birthday is a bit weird, let alone checking the price.

Do you?

Obviously we're all different but if I went for coffee with a friend on their birthday, I'd see that as making normal conversation.

I'd definitely check the price, but not when you were there 😅

There’ll be a backdrop
have you whinged in the past about your dh being a tight arse?

I’d ask “did you have a nice birthday?” But I wouldn't ask what they’d been given.

If they volunteered the info, I’d chat about it, but I wouldn't ask up front.

Agree this is normal conversation. Even googling the gift is normal ish but not normal to tell the receiver!

Don’t be daft.

Googling the price of your friend’s birthday gift is normal?

Why would you do that? I don’t understand the purpose?

Very odd. Totally normal conversation at any age.

I wonder if you’d been boasting about how your dh always buys you incredibly expensive gifts?!

It's a piece of tech. Perhaps she wants one herself. Say the OP got him a new iPad and the friend thinks 'oh that's nice, I might get one, I wonder how much it is'. And she googles it.

Nothing wrong with that. What is weird/rude is doing it while she was with the OP and announcing '£500!' or whatever (I have no I idea how much an iPad costs).

I might have checked the price if I wanted to buy it myself but I would never have told you. That is crossing a line in my opinion, your friend has no etiquette.

I would do this, but not while you were sitting in front of me!

Ok I understand looking the thing up if you would like to buy one for yourself, but some of the replies seem to indicate that they look up the cost of all/most of their friends gifts, why would you do that?

I don’t think the replies indicate that. But if you’re interested in the gift, it is understandable if you look into it

Me too! Also, I have a friend who makes a display of all her birthday and Christmas presents and sends photos or invites you in to view. Very strange!

So how much was it?

Why?

I have never done this and never even thought to check what someone else's gift cost.

I’m with you, I find those kinds of social media posts very odd.

This is why I love MN, it’s so interesting to see how differently people behave. It’s a fascinating window on the world.

It's rude. Did you tell her not to do that?

I could imagine googling it if:

• He'd made a big fuss about how lavish he was being (I'd probably just think he was an arse though)
• She'd made a big fuss about how lavish he was being (similarly though, more likely to just think she was being an arse)
• I had a feeling he was consistently short changing her on gifts
• One of them mentioned an amazing special offer
• I fancied one for myself

Doing it there and then, openly? Firmly in 'I was being an arse' territory.

Ok but how on Earth do you assess “shortchanging” or ”lavish” In terms of gifts between spouses?

None of my friends or family would have any idea of the state of our finances.

It’s a bit of a weird thing to do-but why were you mortified?